Way back in my 20s, I never used a to-do list. I just remembered everything. But then two things happened. 1) I got older, and my memory became a lot less reliable. If you've ever lost a year or more of sleep due to a crying baby, are 40+, or are experiencing the massive fluctuations [...]

child by mountain lake

I sat with my son who was sipping a hot chocolate drink that was loaded with four different kinds of sugar. My drink was one of those gourmet herbal teas: premium-organic-white-rose-petal-citrus-joy-berry-Himalaya-peace something or other. We were sharing a brownie that the barista had warmed for us. Jazz played quietly. It was Ella Fitzgerald and Louis [...]

Stay Married to a Narcissist

A couple years ago, when I interviewed Meredith Resnick about her book Narcissism: Surviving the Self-Involved, the response stunned me. The post quickly became one of the more clicked on and commented on the site. But many of you were asking the same sorts of questions. You already knew – from experience  – that narcissists [...]


It was one of those weekends. If I told you how many writing deadlines I had for Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and so on, you'd stop reading because it would stress you out and you don't read this blog to stress yourself out. What's important for you to know is this: I'd planned to work most [...]

There was the sound of nails tapping against the hardwood floor. I was still dreaming. I was about to teach a class, but I’d misplaced my purse and I couldn’t find the bathroom. Now something wet and cold was poking me on the side of my face. It’s bad enough that I can’t find my [...]