Use sex toys? Yeah, you’re normal
Tuesday, June 30th, 2009
A while back, a friend asked in a whisper, “Has your cleaning lady ever found your, um, you know?”
“My you know?”
“Yeah, you know, your, um, vibrator?”
I thought a bit about it. It was possible. I sometimes accidentally leave the thing on top of my dresser because, in those first few moments after it has done its thing, I’m not exactly thinking clearly.
“Probably,” I said.
She admitted that not only has her cleaning lady found hers, but that her cleaning lady knows where it belongs. She puts it away for her.
We got a good laugh over the nasty little things our cleaning ladies know about us. (This, by the way, was back in better times when I could actually afford to have a cleaning lady.) For a while after that conversation, I was extra careful to make sure all of our sexual supplies—DVDs, instructional books, battery powered things, lingerie—were well hidden.
I guess I didn’t want my cleaning lady to assume that I had any sort of sex life. Normal married people don’t do that sort of thing, you know? Normal married people have sex just a few times—just enough to create one or more children. Then they stop.
That’s, at least, the myth we like to perpetuate.
Plus, I assumed that supplies—particularly toys—were something to be embarrassed about, because only a few women resorted to them. Normal women, I assumed, just did it the old fashioned way. No vibration required.
And then yesterday I stumbled across a study that proved quite the opposite. According to researchers from Indiana University, sex toys are completely mainstream. In a survey of more than 3000 people, about 53 percent of women and 45 percent of men admitted to using them.
That’s right. Owning and using a vibrator is so normal. It’s so nothing to be concerned about if your cleaning lady finds it because your cleaning lady probably has one just like it…. Or one that’s even bigger and better.
More important, the sex toy using people who were studied reported better sexual function. Vibrator wielding women reported more sexual desire and a much easier time reaching orgasm than women who preferred the old fashioned way. The men who incorporated them into their sexual routines also reported better erectile function and sexual satisfaction.
Kind of makes you want to run out and buy one, doesn’t it? If so, you might want to check out one of the following books so you can get a model that’s right for you:
The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to Vibrators
The Good Vibrations Complete Guide to Vibrators
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