I started this site because I didn’t want anyone to feel the shame, loneliness and despair that I felt when trying to fix what, to me, seemed like an impossible-to-save marriage. You are not alone. You are not a failure. You are not a bad person. Your life is not over. You deserve happiness and you can find it. I want you to know that. This is what else I’d like you to know:
- I am not a counselor, professor, therapist, researcher, or academic. I am merely a journalist, one who saved her marriage and learned a ton in the process. If you want advice from someone with lots of academic letters after her name, this site might not be what you are looking for.
- This site isn’t just about marriage. I also write about happiness, balance, spirituality, and parenthood. It’s my belief that they are all intertwined. Because of my study and practice of Buddhism, I often write about how to release negativity (envy, anger, attachment, pride, greed) and how to embrace positive thoughts, emotions and actions such as selfless giving, compassion, and equanimity. Those posts are often labeled “The Karma Project.”
- I earn very little income from this site, and most of what I earn I reinvest into the site. As a result, I sometimes have a hard time balancing the needs of this site with the needs of my full-time work as a freelance journalist, my family, and outside interests (meditation, reading ,and yoga). Because of this, I post erratically and don’t always respond to all of my emails. I wish I were more consistent. Some day I hope to be.
- Many people spell and say my name incorrectly. This does not offend me, but it often embarrasses others when they learn that they’ve been calling me the wrong name for years. My first name is Alisa (not Alison, Alice, Alisha, Alissa, or Alyssa) and is pronounced like Mon Alisa (Mona Lisa) or ah-lease-a. My mother, who grew up in the Bronx, pronounces it slightly differently, “Ah-lease-er,” but only she is allowed to say it that way. My brothers and people who know me from childhood call me Leace or Leacey.
- Random facts about me: I love dogs and currently own one, a Beagle/Bulldog that we adopted from a shelter. She’s a very bad behaving dog and, as a result, makes her way into many of my posts. I have an on-again, off-again relationship with coffee. I meditate regularly, study Buddhism and teach meditation in the New Kadampa tradition. I love to read novels, memoir, science books, and books about meditation, consciousness and the inner workings of the mind. I also practice yoga.
- Random facts about my career: I write a relationships column for Prevention magazine, a health column for the Morning Call newspaper and regular features for a number of consumer magazines. I’m also a ghost writer and co-author of many books. You can learn more about my writing at AlisaBowman.com.
- Some random facts about ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com: The name of the site and the related book is Project: Happily Ever After (not Happily Ever After). This site was chosen as one of the 100 blogs to visit before you die and voted a top 10 marriage blog three years in a row. Reader’s Digest named me one of the most inspirational woman bloggers on the Internet.
More About Me
If you have a lot of time on your hands, you are welcome to read this 5 part story of my life. It’s about 5,000 words long and takes you on a journey from Fourth Grade, when I wanted to be President of the United States, until the summer of 2009, when this blog was 11 months old. Part 5 is a collection of my best life, writing and blogging advice. You can learn more about my career here. If you are an aspiring writer, all of my advice on how to become a professional writer is in this post.