Marriage advice

by Alisa

Are you new to ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com and looking for help? Are you a loyal reader who feels grateful for what you’ve learned here? Please keep reading!

Project: Happily Ever After was my last shot at saving my marriage. It took four months, a dozen books, lots of tears, one bikini wax, and a thousand serious conversations with my husband. But it was worth it—I went from wishing my husband dead to loving him more than ever—and I learned to love myself more, too.

I created ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com for married folks who need the same sort of support and advice that helped me save my marriage. Since 2008, this site has been funded entirely by me, my book sales, and donations from generous readers just like you. Loyal readers share their own wisdom on every post and transform this little blog into a powerful community. Make no mistakes, ProjectHappilyEver.com saves marriages. But let’s be frank—ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com can’t survive without you. Donations and participation help keep this site alive!

At the bottom of this page you’ll find a long list of interviews, web resources, books titles, popular posts and frequently-asked questions that will set you on the path to a happier marriage. It’s a comprehensive list of the best marriage advice on the web and beyond.

Are you looking for something more? Clearer guidance, something that you can leave on your husband’s nightstand, or just a way to say thank you for what you’ve already learned?

Maybe we can help each other!

That’s why I created Five Months to a Happier Marriage: A Daily Marriage Devotional. One of my loyal readers asked for it, so I wrote it. Now it’s my free gift to any reader who pledges their support with a donation to ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com.

Five Months is an 83-page PDF ebook packed with daily guidance for couples who want to rekindle their relationship or just take it to the next level. Each month along the way, I’ll take you and your spouse on a journey filled with forgiveness, romance, communication, intimacy, and sex.

In Five Months to a Happier Marriage, you’ll learn how to:

Figure out what you really want in five simple steps—and how to tell your spouse
Make those cheesy therapy communication techniques work for you
End that ugly co-dependent relationship with your Grudge
Recognize the secret ways your spouse is showing their romantic side
Upgrade (and recycle) emotional intimacy into physical intimacy, then back again

But wait, there’s more:

(Hee, I’ve always wanted an excuse to say that!)

I’m so grateful to those who donate that, if you make your pledge before December 31, 2011, I’ll also send you my first ebook, Relationship Rules: 10 steps to falling back in love all over again.

In Relationship Rules, you’ll learn the following and more:

Two easy steps for getting over it, whatever “it” is
How to conquer your anger and the passive-aggressive behavior that feeds it
How scheduling sex can stop the power struggle in your bedroom
Why romance is different after marriage—and where to find it
When to fight with your spouse, why to fight, and how to fight fair
How to dream together and develop a shared legacy

So there you go. Two ebooks and my undying gratitude, all for one easy donation at whatever level you choose. May your marriage be as happy as mine. Again, thanks for your support!

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Still not convinced? Here’s enough free marriage advice to fill a cruise ship to Jamaica:

Links to Interviews

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Books and Resources

Many people ask me how I went from thinking that I married Mr. Wrong to thinking that I married Mr. Right for Me in Every Way. The short answer: I worked at it for a really long time. My husband and I spent about 4 months on our official marital improvement project, one that included reading and practicing the exercises from a number of books, including:

Passionate Marriage, by David Schnarch
The Seven Levels of Intimacy, by Matthew Kelly
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman
The 7 Best Things (Happy) Couples Do, by John and Linda Friel
12 Hours to a Great Marriage, by Howard Markman
Hot Monogamy, by Patricia Love
Emotional Fitness for Couples, by Barton Goldsmith
The New Rules of Marriage, by Terrence Real
The Great Marriage Tune-Up Book, by Jeffry Larson

It took much longer than 4 months, however, for me to know he was my Mr. Right in Every Way, though. The initial four months of our marriage project gave us the skills we needed to communicate and fight fair. It was during the following year that we put those skills into practice. About a year after the start of the project—and many fights and changes later—I could say with great conviction that I no longer wanted my husband to drop dead. About six months after that, I was able to look at him and see the Mr. Right that I’d married so many years before.

If you are embarking on a similar project: be patient. It probably took many years to ruin your marriage. It may take just as many to save it.

I blog about marital improvement often, and I encourage you to bookmark the site or subscribe by email. Below I’ve linked to a number of popular posts. I hope you find them helpful. Please feel free to contact me (alisa @ ProjectHappilyEverAfter dot com) with any additional questions. It’s feedback from readers like you that helps me to continually improve this site and my writing in general.

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Reuben E. Gross, PhD May 3, 2011 at 1:00 pm

Alisa Bowman is doing an excellent job. And she put a lot of work into her blog. We need dozens more like her…and this is coming from an experienced NJ licensed Marriage Counselor.

There is an epidemic of divorces in this country: 50 percent of all marriage end up in court. This is a catasrophe. Society should do more for our marriage-hopefuls for example by offering free premarital training for all those who want it as well as free follow up for five years.

My website contains an article on the theme of this blog “Happily Ever After” as well as on the subject “Love Conquers All?” and other themes relating to improving your marriage..

Michaela June 10, 2011 at 8:50 am

I just got your book last night and was reading it this morning on my morning commute with my husband and his coworker. I love to read, but rarely get the chance with our two year old. Knowing I never get to read, my husband keeps interrupting to ask questions about buying a Jeep that we cannot afford and do not need. Normally, this would start me imagining him being crushed to death by one of his numerous cash draining automobile projects. But, I kept reading your book and I am not upset, nauseous, or thinking of which divorce attorney to call. I am hoping I can make it four months. Thank you!!!!

Alisa June 10, 2011 at 10:55 am: Michaela– Good luck. I wish you happiness and success!

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Kari & Dave October 11, 2011 at 1:10 pm

I am so glad I found your website! My fiancé and I have started our own pre-marriage blog. It has been such a fun experience and a wonderful journey. We are always looking for new ideas and new articles and I am so glad I found yours! Feel free to check out our blog. I hope you don’t mind if we refer to you in the future!

http://daveandkariblogg.wordpress.com

-Kari

Dave of (Kari&Dave) October 13, 2011 at 10:23 am