Become the sexiest woman alive
Tuesday, December 16th, 2008If you take a look at some of the biggest sex symbols of modern times, you might be tempted to think that sexiness can only be found in cleavage that just doesn’t stop or with cellulite free thighs that go on forever.
You don't need to look like this bombshell to be sexy.
I’m sure most men wouldn’t kick you out of bed for either trait, but you can pull off sexy without spending thousands on newer and better boobs or starving yourself thin with the latest diet. Yes, you really can. I know because I’m living proof.
More about my transformation from dumpy to sexy in a bit. First, we need to define the topic at hand.
What qualities add up to create a sexy woman? I posed this very question to number of men—including my husband. This is what they listed. A sexy woman is:
Confident. She stands tall, makes eye contact, and knows what she wants. “Tell us guys what you want, where you want it, and how you want it, and we’re there,” one guy friend told me.
Completely at home in her God-given glorious body. Sure she might be a little round in the tummy. There might be cellulite on her thighs. Her boobs may not be what they used to be, but she walks with confidence, is not shy to wear flattering clothing, and does not turn off the lights when it’s time to get down to business. “Being comfortable with her body, as is, and letting her lover confidently explore her is one of the biggest turn-ons around,” said one guy.
Competent. She’s good at what she does. “Successful business women are sexy. When I say ‘successful in business,’ I’m not talking about a woman who has money. I’m speaking more about a woman who has drive and an entrepreneurial spirit,” says Gerald Weber, the one guy who didn’t mind me using his name. I thought I would reward him for his boldness by telling you that he runs a kick ass company called the Search Engine Marketing Group. Want your site to rank higher with Google or more people to read your blog? He’s your man.
Physically fit. This is my husband’s addition. He likes a woman with nice sculpted thighs and a backside that won’t quit.
Take a look at that list again. Do you see anything there that you can’t change? Didn’t think so. None of the men I interviewed mentioned anything about Double Ds or lipo lips.
From Dumpy to Sexpot
When I met my husband 13 years ago, I was not sexy. In fact, I later found out that he was mostly interested in the sexy friend who happened to be sitting next to me at the bar that one night. He settled for me, but he wasn’t sorry.
I didn’t knock his socks off on our first encounter for a few reasons.
1) I was bashful about my body, so I dressed in baggy, unflattering clothing.
2) I was painfully shy and unsure of myself.
3) I wore my hair in a pixie.
There probably was not a man in my life who would have described me as sexy back then. Cute? Yes. Sexy? Not in a million years.
About two years ago, though, something changed. I grew my hair out. I bought form-fitting clothes. I occasionally wore makeup. I was successful in business and felt confident about my success. I made eye contact and smiled when I talked. I cracked jokes. I found who I was, and was not ashamed to be that person.
And men–including my husband–started noticing me. Now, not a day goes by that my husband doesn’t tell me, “Wow, you look hot.”
Really, it’s true.
Here’s how you can make a similar transformation.
Meet with a makeup artist. Most will do you up for free because they want you to buy their makeup. Go for a natural look that makes you feel confident. It’s about how you feel, and not about how you look.
Go shopping with a friend. Allow her to nix any outfit with a Dumpy Rating higher than 2 or a Sexy Rating below 7.
Take risks. Each time you do so, you’ll become more confident.
Learn how to make eye contact when you talk. Practice on a dog or cat, if needed. Then advance to real live humans.
Smile and laugh. Both require a sense of inner happiness, which means you need to take charge of your life, career, and relationships.
Take back your vagina. I wore baggy clothes and was bashful about my body so many years ago because I was sexually abused when I was younger. I found men threatening and I dealt with my fear of men by making myself invisible. If they didn’t notice me, then they would not be tempted to hurt me. I can’t say that I’ve completely outgrown my fear of men, but I have taken back my vagina and my body in general. I’m allowed to be sexy. I’m allowed to talk dirty. I’m allowed to look good. So are you.
How do you take back your vagina? You do it a little over time, but I do recommend you do four things right away. 1) Get waxed, like down there. There’s nothing like a beautifully sculpted picture of a martini glass on your front side to make you feel pretty in every single way. 2) Exercise. The healthier you feel, the better you will feel about your body. 3) Wear a bikini. Just do it. It gets easier over time. 4) Have sex with the lights on. Again, it gets easier and easier.
Love yourself. Then others will love you back.
Read cool stuff from other sexy women at the Carnival of Mommy Bloggers.
What do you think makes a woman sexy? Have you gone from dumpy to sexy? Leave a comment.
Subscribe to this blog by email. Just type your email address in to the box to the right. You will be rewarded with 5 years of sexiness.
