Introducing…

The Group Therapy Series

Last week I asked you to tell me about your biggest marital problems. Boy did you all tell me!

This week I’m going to start addressing them. Before I get to the first marital problem, however, I want to go into how I envision this series working. I’d like these posts to be participatory. I’ll introduce each problem and offer my take. Then I hope you all will chime in, too. In this way, it’s my hope that this series will work a lot like group marriage therapy. We will help one another solve one another’s problems.

As you comment on each post, however, I’d like you to keep a few things in mind.

1.     What works for you might not work for someone else. Please generously offer your insights, but resist the urge to preach them as gospel.

2.     We are all struggling. Some people come to this site at their lowest point in life. They are suffering from depression, anger and more. Be gentle.

3.     It’s okay to disagree. That said, this is a safe community. I will delete comments that attack others, and I will not give you the benefit of a warning. If you think I’ve overlooked a mean-spirited comment, please feel free to bring it to my attention by emailing me directly.

4.     Misery really does love company. I encourage you all to commiserate with one another as you find you are going through similar problems and issues. You are not alone, and I hope this series proves that to you.

5.     If you read this blog by email, keep in mind that replying to a post only sends your comment to me. If you’d like to leave a comment for the benefit of others, please click through on the headline of the post. This will take you to the site where you can scroll down to the comments area.

Also, just a general note: I am being attacked by spammers. Roughly 1000 of them a day try to invade the comments area here. My spam filter catches most of them, but many still have been getting through. I’m going to upgrade the spam filter, but this means that it will probably capture some legitimate comments. If you think your comment has gone to spam, please contact me so I can fix the situation. Thanks!

UPDATES

* I appeared on the NBC 10! Show in Philadelphia Monday where I talked about my marriage and shared some tips for others.

* WhitePicketFence reviewed PHEA, saying, “Not being an avid reader of self-help books I was skeptical that the book would be like many in the category and talk at the reader rather than to them. But boy was I wrong. Alisa’s book is more like an educational novel that has a way of identifying with the reader through well-written stories.” If you comment on her post, you get a chance to win a free copy of the book.

* MommyHasToWork reviewed PHEA saying, “I thought it would be some type of self help book, that I would kinda glance through and give my opinion. I did not expect it to be funny, hard to put down, informative, entertaining, knowledgeable and so full of good ideas and information. I started to read Project: Happily Ever After and couldn’t put it down….I kept wanting to read more.” This post offers another opportunity to win a copy of PHEA.