A friend sent me the link to this speech by Dan Savage. He says it better than I ever could. Fair warning: lots of curse words. But he makes a good point.
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I like this . . .
“A long term relationship that is successful is really a myth that two people create together. Myths are built of lies and there is usually some kernel of truth. . . And that’s the only way you become the one – its because somebody is willing to pretend you are – the one that they were waiting for, the one they wanted, their one.”
That was very good.
I presented myself to my husband as I am – cussing and the whole nine yards – he married me anyway.
I really enjoyed that.
Thank you for posting that.
I think there’s truth in what he says – for the purposes of harmony, you absolutely must overlook the things that you can live with. It’s that way with life, too – think of that day (that trip, maybe?) where everything went wrong, but you were so excited to be there that none of it mattered. When it’s described as “a foundation of lies and deceit,” it sounds like a negative to me – literally like someone is deceiving you, conning you into participating in the relationship – but I don’t necessarily believe that’s how it happens in real life. I CHOOSE to overlook my charming spouse’s flaws because he is indeed the love of my life – and I hope that he continues to do the same for me. There are so many things about him that shine that a few tarnished spots here and there just add character. If he was overwhelmingly perfect, I’d be very insecure and more than a little nervous. But if you do see your spouse as a whole person and, again, CHOOSE to concentrate on the positives, I agree that it would make for a much higher success rate. I think it’s just the semantics that kept me from fully embracing his argument.
I freaking love Dan Savage! I’ve never seen him before. I’m not sure hoe, but he looks and sounds different than i imagined. Aslo he’s brilliant
I enjoyed watching this. It is true how we tend to have so many deal breakers in relationships, but really the price of admission is so worth it to be with the one you love. As in the last blog no one person is perfect and if we didnt overlook some flaws we would all be lonely.
I really needed to read this today. I can think of a couple things that my husband does that are the price of admission.
only just getting a chance to watch this (all children were asleep or at school
So true. it was a good watch
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