Comments on: 40 Things I’ve Learned in 40 Years, Part 1 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:39:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sheryl http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11413 Sheryl Tue, 03 Aug 2010 00:18:51 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11413 You have learned SO much in 40 years, Alisa. Many people don't learn these things in a lifetime. I'll add some: It's easier to be pleasant and nice than mean and bitchy Nothing is worth getting in a tizzy over - except your health and your family's health It doesn't really matter what other people think If you don't try you'll never know what could have been And lastly...a very happy birthday to you! You have learned SO much in 40 years, Alisa. Many people don’t learn these things in a lifetime. I’ll add some:

It’s easier to be pleasant and nice than mean and bitchy
Nothing is worth getting in a tizzy over – except your health and your family’s health
It doesn’t really matter what other people think
If you don’t try you’ll never know what could have been

And lastly…a very happy birthday to you!
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]]> By: Christine http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11346 Christine Sun, 01 Aug 2010 10:01:05 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11346 I love this list! And I love everyone's comments. This really makes me think. Most definitely, I have much less fear of failure than I did in my twenties. Failure and setbacks are good, this kind of stuff makes you grow. I know I'm happier in my forties than I was when I was younger. A fragile ego is not good for happiness. I can't wait for the rest of your list. I love this list! And I love everyone’s comments. This really makes me think. Most definitely, I have much less fear of failure than I did in my twenties. Failure and setbacks are good, this kind of stuff makes you grow. I know I’m happier in my forties than I was when I was younger. A fragile ego is not good for happiness.
I can’t wait for the rest of your list.
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]]> By: Alexandra http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11335 Alexandra Sun, 01 Aug 2010 01:28:02 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11335 Love your attitude! My favorite is #7. Love your attitude! My favorite is #7.

]]> By: Frugal Kiwi http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11332 Frugal Kiwi Sat, 31 Jul 2010 23:06:24 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11332 #6 is WAY more true than people think. Have a major health crisis and you'll see. #6 is WAY more true than people think. Have a major health crisis and you’ll see.
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]]> By: Donna Hull http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11319 Donna Hull Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:31:53 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11319 What a fantastic list. I'd add: It takes less effort to be nice than it does to behave badly. Can't wait to read the next list of what you've learned by 40. What a fantastic list. I’d add:

It takes less effort to be nice than it does to behave badly.

Can’t wait to read the next list of what you’ve learned by 40.
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]]> By: Drummer Guy http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11318 Drummer Guy Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:31:29 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11318 This is AWESOME Alisa. I am busy taking care of my beloved today before I have to leave for the bands show tonight so I'll make a short list & revisit it latter. 1) The ostrich has it WRONG! If I bury my head in the sand. The problem doesn't go away.... I just get more sand on my butt...lol :-) 2) No matter how bad things get their is someone who knows the answer even if it I don't. I just need to be open & listen to the solution, whether the answer comes from above or is very close by. 3) Rule 2 has exceptions. Some times their is no answer & to continue to try & find one is like trying to find the penny in the corner of a round room. :-) 4) When things are bad, when times are hard, do something to help others who are in all likelyhood worse off than you are. You value all you do have, you don't dwell on the things you don't have, & the blessings you receive are priceless. 5) God knows the future even when we don't & he is a LOT smarter than me :-) 5) It is easy to pity ourselves for not having shoes until you meet the person who has no feet. These are mostly life lessons I have learned trough the many trials we are currently enduring. They really do keep me focused & keep me striving to be a better me. I will always stumble but have vowed to learn from my mistakes. Don't beat myself up over them. That just takes me backwards. Instead do better next time & be thankful that I learned & grew from them Everybody have a GREAT weekend Ron :-) This is AWESOME Alisa. I am busy taking care of my beloved today before I have to leave for the bands show tonight so I’ll make a short list & revisit it latter.

1) The ostrich has it WRONG! If I bury my head in the sand. The problem doesn’t go away…. I just get more sand on my butt…lol :-)

2) No matter how bad things get their is someone who knows the answer even if it I don’t. I just need to be open & listen to the solution, whether the answer comes from above or is very close by.

3) Rule 2 has exceptions. Some times their is no answer & to continue to try & find one is like trying to find the penny in the corner of a round room. :-)

4) When things are bad, when times are hard, do something to help others who are in all likelyhood worse off than you are. You value all you do have, you don’t dwell on the things you don’t have, & the blessings you receive are priceless.

5) God knows the future even when we don’t & he is a LOT smarter than me :-)

5) It is easy to pity ourselves for not having shoes until you meet the person who has no feet.

These are mostly life lessons I have learned trough the many trials we are currently enduring. They really do keep me focused & keep me striving to be a better me. I will always stumble but have vowed to learn from my mistakes. Don’t beat myself up over them. That just takes me backwards. Instead do better next time & be thankful that I learned & grew from them

Everybody have a GREAT weekend
Ron :-)

]]> By: Susan http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11317 Susan Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:14:22 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11317 Wow - this is a great list! Can't wait to read the rest. Wow – this is a great list! Can’t wait to read the rest.
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]]> By: Joanne & Ray http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11315 Joanne & Ray Sat, 31 Jul 2010 13:11:02 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11315 By the way Alisa, can't send a thank you card to you for my birthday, as is my tradition, but I wanted to say that I don't know what I would have done over this last 6 months if I hadn't found you and this blog. Thank you for who you are-- an incredible person. By the way Alisa, can’t send a thank you card to you for my birthday, as is my tradition, but I wanted to say that I don’t know what I would have done over this last 6 months if I hadn’t found you and this blog. Thank you for who you are– an incredible person.

]]> By: Joanne & Ray http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11314 Joanne & Ray Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:47:58 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11314 OK , I am 52 today and since I have a goal to be 110 I'[m not even half way through my life with I am sure many more lessons to learn but I do have a couple #1 is my own #2 I read somewhere because I have adult children. 1) When I go to heaven, I would rather have to explain footprints on my back than the heals of my shoes being worn out. 2) Having children means accepting that forever, a piece of your heart will reside outside your body. 3) Give abundantly because of how incredibly good it can make you feel. 4) Find something to like in everyone, it's there, and hold on to it in dealing with them. At my office we have a VP of Sales who is an absolute jerk in everything until you here him on the phone with his wife (he adores her), then you just realize he is a flawed human being and can cut him some slack AGAIN! 5) Say I'm sorry even when you didn't mean to do it; and mean it. 6) Try to never intentionally hurt someone. OK , I am 52 today and since I have a goal to be 110 I’[m not even half way through my life with I am sure many more lessons to learn but I do have a couple #1 is my own #2 I read somewhere because I have adult children.

1) When I go to heaven, I would rather have to explain footprints on my back than the heals of my shoes being worn out.

2) Having children means accepting that forever, a piece of your heart will reside outside your body.

3) Give abundantly because of how incredibly good it can make you feel.

4) Find something to like in everyone, it’s there, and hold on to it in dealing with them. At my office we have a VP of Sales who is an absolute jerk in everything until you here him on the phone with his wife (he adores her), then you just realize he is a flawed human being and can cut him some slack AGAIN!

5) Say I’m sorry even when you didn’t mean to do it; and mean it.

6) Try to never intentionally hurt someone.

]]> By: Sarah Liz http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/07/40-things-i%e2%80%99ve-learned-in-40-years-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-11307 Sarah Liz Sat, 31 Jul 2010 06:04:49 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4586#comment-11307 @ what Kathy said and #6: I too have to pay my bills and file taxes and so on? I have to show up for work. I have to get out of bed. HOWEVER, I think what Alisa was trying to get across is that generally speaking, we put a lot more pressure on ourselves to get things done than is often really necessary. And in truth, we could all NOT get out of bed, go to work, pay our bills and so on, but then we'd have to live with the consequences. @Angel & Tawny: yes, sometimes a woman does have to be a bitch to survive--but even at 26, I've found you do often catch more flies with honey than vinegar--you can be assertive without being mean. It's a fine line to walk and I don't always succeed, but usually, I get my point across quite well without being a full-on bitch! I have before, though, don't get me wrong and in life/death situations, it's better to be a bitch. Also, I think if ANYONE doesn't love us at our worst, they don't deserve us at a our best. That is positively terrific--and I'm going to remember that! Thank you! Thank you also for the "fall on your back, if you can look up, you can get up," I have to remember that as well! You two are wonderful! And @ Judy, God Bless Gloria Steinam, I've always liked her. She's right you know, the truth usually does piss me off, but it does set us free! Thank you for that reminder! Many Blessings, -Sarah Liz :) @ what Kathy said and #6: I too have to pay my bills and file taxes and so on? I have to show up for work. I have to get out of bed. HOWEVER, I think what Alisa was trying to get across is that generally speaking, we put a lot more pressure on ourselves to get things done than is often really necessary. And in truth, we could all NOT get out of bed, go to work, pay our bills and so on, but then we’d have to live with the consequences.

@Angel & Tawny: yes, sometimes a woman does have to be a bitch to survive–but even at 26, I’ve found you do often catch more flies with honey than vinegar–you can be assertive without being mean. It’s a fine line to walk and I don’t always succeed, but usually, I get my point across quite well without being a full-on bitch! I have before, though, don’t get me wrong and in life/death situations, it’s better to be a bitch.

Also, I think if ANYONE doesn’t love us at our worst, they don’t deserve us at a our best. That is positively terrific–and I’m going to remember that! Thank you!

Thank you also for the “fall on your back, if you can look up, you can get up,” I have to remember that as well!

You two are wonderful!

And @ Judy, God Bless Gloria Steinam, I’ve always liked her. She’s right you know, the truth usually does piss me off, but it does set us free! Thank you for that reminder!

Many Blessings,
-Sarah Liz :)

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