Comments on: My I Don’t Suck List http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:39:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: OneHotTamale25 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-2/#comment-10459 OneHotTamale25 Mon, 12 Jul 2010 23:59:34 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-10459 I don't suck because I get up and face every day no matter what it brings. (I don't always face it well, but I DO face it.) I matter because I offer love, support, and encouraging words to people in my professional and personal life who may sometimes feel they don't deserve any of that. Most assuredly I have weepy days. I had one on the 4th of July. I got a pick-me-up from the hubby that reminded me things aren't all bad and I don't suck. It was a nice reminder. Two more things: Alisa, you also don't suck because 1) you keep it real. You don't put up a facade about anything, and that is quite refreshing. 2) You do a most excellent job of NOT allowing your biases to prevent you from being objective and open to the thoughts and reflections of others. It seems that can be a challenging thing in the world of blogospheres. I consider you to be a champion at it. I don’t suck because I get up and face every day no matter what it brings. (I don’t always face it well, but I DO face it.)

I matter because I offer love, support, and encouraging words to people in my professional and personal life who may sometimes feel they don’t deserve any of that.

Most assuredly I have weepy days. I had one on the 4th of July. I got a pick-me-up from the hubby that reminded me things aren’t all bad and I don’t suck. It was a nice reminder.

Two more things: Alisa, you also don’t suck because 1) you keep it real. You don’t put up a facade about anything, and that is quite refreshing. 2) You do a most excellent job of NOT allowing your biases to prevent you from being objective and open to the thoughts and reflections of others. It seems that can be a challenging thing in the world of blogospheres. I consider you to be a champion at it.

]]> By: sarah henry http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-2/#comment-9989 sarah henry Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:22:07 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-9989 Just now stumbled on this post and the timing is, well, perfect. When I was a newbie writer I had a folder for rejection letters -- some of them were, ah, blunt, brutal, or both. Some were even poorly written. Now I'd never dream of holding onto such things. Why wallow in negativity? But a Feel Good Folder? I like the sound of that. Thanks for planting the seed. Just now stumbled on this post and the timing is, well, perfect.

When I was a newbie writer I had a folder for rejection letters — some of them were, ah, blunt, brutal, or both. Some were even poorly written. Now I’d never dream of holding onto such things. Why wallow in negativity?

But a Feel Good Folder? I like the sound of that. Thanks for planting the seed.
sarah henry´s last [type] ..Berkeley Bites- Samin Nosrat- Ex-Eccolo Chef -amp Co-Creator of the Pop-Up General Store

]]> By: Mrs. Levine http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-9020 Mrs. Levine Thu, 27 May 2010 17:06:06 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-9020 Those days DO suck. I'm glad you're feeling better and I love your list. A couple years ago I was feeling sad most days and decided to make a list of everything I was grateful for whenever I felt sad. I had a little handmade pot that was totally wonky, but I loved it because I had made it. I set it on my desk at work and told myself that when the pot was full of gratitude lists, I would buy myself something really special. The idea was that I would retrain my mind to look for gratitude instead of sorrow by making the lists. A funny thing happened--the pot only ever got 1/3 of the way full. By then, my days were happier. But I've still got it, and plan to buy myself something special if it ever does hit the top. .-= Mrs. Levine´s last blog ..<a href="http://whisperedbetweenwomen.tumblr.com/post/637815426" rel="nofollow">Conversations with My Mother</a> =-. Those days DO suck. I’m glad you’re feeling better and I love your list. A couple years ago I was feeling sad most days and decided to make a list of everything I was grateful for whenever I felt sad. I had a little handmade pot that was totally wonky, but I loved it because I had made it. I set it on my desk at work and told myself that when the pot was full of gratitude lists, I would buy myself something really special. The idea was that I would retrain my mind to look for gratitude instead of sorrow by making the lists. A funny thing happened–the pot only ever got 1/3 of the way full. By then, my days were happier. But I’ve still got it, and plan to buy myself something special if it ever does hit the top.
.-= Mrs. Levine´s last blog ..Conversations with My Mother =-.

]]> By: Anne http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8966 Anne Wed, 26 May 2010 04:53:38 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8966 Alisa -- and the other commentators -- thanks for sharing your "I don't suck" lists. It seems like we're conditioned to downplay what's awesome about each of us -- and we obviously don't have one thing but so many, many things that make us the wonderful people that we are. It's energizing to know that there are so many kind, funny, talented, giving, insightful folks out there (not that I thought otherwise, although on certain days...). And it's most valuable that you all recognize those traits in yourselves, proudly proclaim them and nurture them in others. Thank you! Alisa — and the other commentators — thanks for sharing your “I don’t suck” lists. It seems like we’re conditioned to downplay what’s awesome about each of us — and we obviously don’t have one thing but so many, many things that make us the wonderful people that we are.

It’s energizing to know that there are so many kind, funny, talented, giving, insightful folks out there (not that I thought otherwise, although on certain days…). And it’s most valuable that you all recognize those traits in yourselves, proudly proclaim them and nurture them in others. Thank you!

]]> By: Joanne http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8949 Joanne Tue, 25 May 2010 14:33:10 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8949 @Bern; I told my facebook family about this whole Not Sucking nonsense and gave them all individually something I think that is wonderfully non-sucky about each of them. To my surprise I have been getting texts all day about how unsucky I am. I never knew, really, it is so cool. Some of this stuff you have to wait until your eulogy to hear. All I wanted to do as I stated on the Facebook page was start each of their feel good folders because I think that is a totally neat idea but they in turn are sending each other and me additions to all of ours. We actually start a whole movement here. @Bern;
I told my facebook family about this whole Not Sucking nonsense and gave them all individually something I think that is wonderfully non-sucky about each of them. To my surprise I have been getting texts all day about how unsucky I am. I never knew, really, it is so cool. Some of this stuff you have to wait until your eulogy to hear. All I wanted to do as I stated on the Facebook page was start each of their feel good folders because I think that is a totally neat idea but they in turn are sending each other and me additions to all of ours. We actually start a whole movement here.

]]> By: Drummer Guy http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8943 Drummer Guy Tue, 25 May 2010 12:34:45 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8943 Alisa you inspired me to do my own little folder to remind myself that I do not suck. I call it my I'm okay folder. Do ignore whatever came in the mail. I can tell you from experience that there will always be critics of any artist work & you are an artist. Our band has done 3 albums. Recently our last album reviewed had over 20 critics that loved it & 2 slammed it. In his own day Shakespeare had quite a few critics that were vicous toward his work. But I think history worked out well for him. Just know that you still ROCK ;-) Alisa you inspired me to do my own little folder to remind myself that I do not suck. I call it my I’m okay folder. Do ignore whatever came in the mail. I can tell you from experience that there will always be critics of any artist work & you are an artist. Our band has done 3 albums. Recently our last album reviewed had over 20 critics that loved it & 2 slammed it. In his own day Shakespeare had quite a few critics that were vicous toward his work. But I think history worked out well for him. Just know that you still ROCK ;-)

]]> By: Joanne http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8942 Joanne Tue, 25 May 2010 12:34:01 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8942 @ bern; I come from the Jersey shore where every block has a light and my mom and sisters taught me that there is a law at work in the world of traffic lights and it is universal: You always must stop for the first two red lights but any more after that are merely suggestions. @ bern;

I come from the Jersey shore where every block has a light and my mom and sisters taught me that there is a law at work in the world of traffic lights and it is universal: You always must stop for the first two red lights but any more after that are merely suggestions.

]]> By: Andi http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8936 Andi Tue, 25 May 2010 02:49:56 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8936 Alisa you rock and I AGREE with each and every "I do not suck" item on your list. It's and awesome list and one you should be proud of. I swear the next time I am thinking the same thing I am going to come back to THIS post and read it and everything is going to be right in the world. .-= Andi´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/MisadventuresWithAndi/~3/iPSlEopdP88/rewards-based-doing.html" rel="nofollow">Rewards Based Doing</a> =-. Alisa you rock and I AGREE with each and every “I do not suck” item on your list. It’s and awesome list and one you should be proud of. I swear the next time I am thinking the same thing I am going to come back to THIS post and read it and everything is going to be right in the world.
.-= Andi´s last blog ..Rewards Based Doing =-.

]]> By: sheryl http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8933 sheryl Tue, 25 May 2010 01:13:29 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8933 Alisa, YOu most definitely do not suck. And whatever was in your mailbox? Ignore it. You have way too many good things going for you to let something like THAT get you down. Alisa, YOu most definitely do not suck. And whatever was in your mailbox? Ignore it. You have way too many good things going for you to let something like THAT get you down.

]]> By: Bern http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2010/05/my-i-don%e2%80%99t-suck-list/comment-page-1/#comment-8932 Bern Tue, 25 May 2010 01:10:46 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=4177#comment-8932 A very good list Alisa, and I liked the contributors ones as well! A cliche for you here - "if you think you can or if you think you can't, then you'll prove yourself right". What it really comes down to is ATTITUDE! I've read so many times and in so many places variations of the expression "We often can't change the circumstances, but what we can change is our attitude to them", and that thought really does keep me going when I'm feeling a bit down or something doesn't go as well as I hoped. When I was at my lowest after my seperation I read somewhere to keep a 'Gratitude Diary' and record every day things that went well and I should be grateful for - it could be big things (i.e. won the lottery - I wish!) to little things - i.e. I got lots of green lights instead of red lights on the way to work (sorry girls, something that is important to us impatient men!) Anyway I did this for about six months, and it really helped, as it got me focussing on positives, big and small, and made the days much better. Believe me, it really helps. So, a list of what we like and admire about ourselves is a great thing - afterall, if you can't find a way to love and admire yourself (and i don't mean false pride!) then why would anyone else see those qualities in you!! A very good list Alisa, and I liked the contributors ones as well! A cliche for you here – “if you think you can or if you think you can’t, then you’ll prove yourself right”. What it really comes down to is ATTITUDE! I’ve read so many times and in so many places variations of the expression “We often can’t change the circumstances, but what we can change is our attitude to them”, and that thought really does keep me going when I’m feeling a bit down or something doesn’t go as well as I hoped.

When I was at my lowest after my seperation I read somewhere to keep a ‘Gratitude Diary’ and record every day things that went well and I should be grateful for – it could be big things (i.e. won the lottery – I wish!) to little things – i.e. I got lots of green lights instead of red lights on the way to work (sorry girls, something that is important to us impatient men!) Anyway I did this for about six months, and it really helped, as it got me focussing on positives, big and small, and made the days much better. Believe me, it really helps.

So, a list of what we like and admire about ourselves is a great thing – afterall, if you can’t find a way to love and admire yourself (and i don’t mean false pride!) then why would anyone else see those qualities in you!!

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