Comments on: What’s Stopping You From Saving Your Marriage?

By: Sid Foster

Sid Foster — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 00:18:07 +0000

I recommend therapy!

By: Muhammad Morgan

Muhammad Morgan — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 16:23:52 +0000

eveyone should not always resort to divorce when there are misunderstandings. everyone should always save their marriage.-`”

By: Hannah Garcia

Hannah Garcia — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 04:40:09 +0000

the best way to save your marriage is to have good communication and understanding with each other.`,-

By: save my marriage today

save my marriage today — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 16:23:00 +0000

Fear of failure stops loads of people in their tracks. Its the #1 reason, the average people won’t stretch from their comfort zone.

An attempt to salvage a troubled marriage will undoubtedly have its unpleasant moments…and, sure, we all know that its the right & sensible thing to do.

But then comes that fear of failure gremlin again and with him paralysis, mediocrity and status quo.

Human nature, I guess.

You’ve put alot of thought into this post, Alisa. Many thanks.
save my marriage today´s last blog ..Problems in Marriage

By: saving my marriage

saving my marriage — Mon, 17 May 2010 16:53:10 +0000

I also agree with what I read here. It is so easy nowadays to get divorced and it is also more and more common and accepted in society. So a lot of couples take the easy way out and don’t even try to save their marriage. It is actually really sad, because you would think why have they married in the first place. They must have had something special together inthe past and now they are not even trying to fond that again?

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:36:11 +0000

Sometimes it’s the other person stopping you from saving your marriage. I know when my ex-wife had her affair, it pretty much was her insistence on continuing the affair that prevented all of my real life actions from having any positive impact.

It wasn’t my fear. After all, I was willing to look at myself and address any issues she was willing to present that caused her to believe that a married man was better suited to be her lover than the man who vowed to love, honor and cherish her.

So maybe it was her fears, but then that would be mind reading, and like the author, I didn’t take that course either in school. (And if it were offered, I’d probably fail, oh wait, is that mind reading, or just knowing my own limits, LOL?)

Anyway, sometimes it’s not the fear of the spouse willing to do the heavy lifting, but the fear, or bad behavior, (or maybe both, or even more things) that prevents one from saving their marriage.

Until there is a sure fired way for one spouse to prevent another spouses destructive behavior, there will be marriages that fail, and often not due to the fear of the betrayed or abandoned spouse.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:44:32 +0000

Once again Alisa you’ve given excellent advice. I don’t think this just applies to marriages, the few times I’ve been possessed enough to think this way about problems I was having with other people, it really enabled me to work out a solution that worked for everyone!

By: Fix Marriage

Fix Marriage — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:03:03 +0000

“Anxiety is nothing but re-experiencing failure in advance. What a waste.”

Reality is shaped by your thoughts. So, if a happy marriage is your objective, visualize you and your spouse laughing, smiling & having your idea of a good time. And know, in your heart of hearts, it will happen.

Conversely, if your focus your attention on fear and anxiety, you will get what you are fearful of.

Great post, Alisa.

By: Alisa

Alisa — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:17:36 +0000

Hi Christine: Thanks for the kind words. Some of what I did is detailed in this series of posts: http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/01/free-marriage-advice-part-1/ Some other things are in the e-book. Still others are scattered throughout various posts. But my book puts it all together in one place–tells the story about falling in love, falling out of love, and what I did to fall back in love. And it gives a step by step plan so people can emulate what I did (if they so desire). That will be out in Jan.

By: Christine

Christine — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 23:47:58 +0000

The quote by Seth Godin really spoke to me. I’d like to forward it to a lot of people I know! Everything about this post, actually, spoke to me. Do you have more information about what you did to improve your marriage?
Christine´s last blog ..Goodbyes are hard