Comments on: Marriage Improvement Monday

By: Sofia Baker

Sofia Baker — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 12:12:38 +0000

i suffered from anxiety attacks and my doctor put me on anti-depressants .

By: Happy Marriage

Happy Marriage — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 08:27:02 +0000

I grew up in a happy marriage family. I remember when I was young, I saw my parents always holding hand in the public. While at home watching TV, they would rubbed each others feet and sometimes give each other playful slaps. As a kid, I thought they were a funny couple. Now, I look back, I think my parents really know what a happy marriage is. Even till today, at age 70, they are still very much in love with each other.
Happy Marriage´s last blog ..Happy Marriage – How to Maintain Marriage Relationship

By: problems in marriage

problems in marriage — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 08:23:07 +0000

Since touching means closeness, it can help to bridge the distances that separate us from one another. When connected, you can communicate better.

In sexual relationships, touching becomes a special form of communication. Among the complaints most frequently voiced by women about sex is that their male partners do not use enough stroking and caressing prior to, during, and after intercourse. What these women are really asking for is the communication of presence, of acceptance, of tenderness, throughout.
problems in marriage´s last blog ..How to Fix a Marriage

By: Kaitlyn Rogers

Kaitlyn Rogers — Thu, 06 May 2010 19:40:39 +0000

Relaxation techniques and meditation can help a lot during Anxiety Attacks. -’~

By: Joshua Brown

Joshua Brown — Sat, 01 May 2010 19:51:56 +0000

sometimes i also have anxiety attacks and when it happens, i just breathe slowly and deeply to help me relax.’:,

By: Andi

Andi — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 18:00:33 +0000

My husband and I have all the same physical barriers are you (short-tall, etc). But I do make an effort to touch his arm and definitely always kiss goodbye.
Andi´s last blog ..French Friday – Parispoolza!

By: OneHotTamale25

OneHotTamale25 — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 09:30:06 +0000

I am amazed at the number of people who are touchy-feely! I didn’t grow up in a touchy-feely household but am a very physically affectionate person… perhaps because of the absence of physical affection in the home??? My husband likes to touch also, and we do like to hold hands, cuddle, kiss, hug, and all that jazz. The issue is being at a distance because of — well because of a lot of things. I remember the last time we touched and it was far too long ago. We both forward to being in physical contact again, but we are not certain when we will even be in the same state to engage one another that way.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:39:48 +0000

Funny you should mention this, Alisa. I whole heartedly agree with you and believe that this is the crux of our {mine and my husbands} problem: we don’t touch enough!!
But he is just not a touchy feely guy. And therefore I basically feel like I am not loving him the way I want to, nor am I being loved the way I want. But what to do? I have tried to be the iniatiator, only to be told that I “am coming on too strong” or that he “feels like he is being raped”. He actually removes my hands from around his neck whenever I try to hug him. At this point, my feelings are so hurt, I don’t even bother anymore.
PS…I did have him read the “Physical Touch” section in The 5 Love Languages …he wouldn’t read any more than that.. and I made him a “Manual”, as you suggested, on how to romance me with lots of touching included. He had it posted on his bulletin board for awhile. Now its gone
So any ideas on how to get the horse to drink???

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 14:52:18 +0000

Yes! Yes! Touch is absolutely essential for us. Whenever we are in the same room it seems touch is inevitable, like there is some kind of gravitational force at work. Fortunately we both love it, but I enjoy more being the one doing the touching than the one receiving it. My wife is the opposite so it works out great. I play guitar and have rough, calloused fingertips that my wife absolutely loves to have traced slowly and gently over her skin or run through her hair. We also hold hands whenver we walk and snuggle whenver we watch TV. It’s almost automatic. In fact, whenever touch is reduced we can tell that something is wrong between us – kind of like a marriage barometer for us.

I had also read somewhere that you should hold hand whenver you fight, like Almost Slowfood suggests. We haven’t tried that, but it sound like a good way to work through issues together.
Scott´s last blog ..One Flesh (Part 1): Naked Without Shame

By: M

Tue, 23 Mar 2010 10:56:36 +0000

Alisa, I want to thank you, because of you I have discovered Simple Marriage, I haven’t heard the podcasts yet, but hey, it’s a great start. Thank you.