Comments on: Please Help Me Help Myself

By: Kidney stone diet

Kidney stone diet — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 18:17:27 +0000

Well Alisa, i think without you even knowing it you have taken your first step to learning to ask for help….by asking people here Besides I think true friends are happy to help and shouldn’t worry about asking
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By: Disco Lights

Disco Lights — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 20:30:52 +0000

kidney stones can be avoided by taking in lots of liquid in your diet’.*

By: Caroline Bryant

Caroline Bryant — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 06:29:48 +0000

kidney stones maybe difficult to remove specially if they are already big and hardened.:-

By: Rhys Phillips

Rhys Phillips — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 14:04:20 +0000

Kidney Stone is a deadly disease specially if it has not been checked regularly.`;’

By: Gabriel Walker

Gabriel Walker — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 06:22:25 +0000

you can avoid kidney stones by drinking lots of liquid.;`’

By: Rob

Rob — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:16:53 +0000

Reading this makes me feel so incredibly frustrated! First, I used to have the same problem. Being a guy, we never, & I do mean NEVER ask for help, especially if it’s a guy type thing like moving something heavy, for example. I got over this the hard way. One day when moving something heavy I didn’t ask for help & ended up with two ruptured discs in my back. No biggie, I thought, a simple minor surgical procedure would take care of it. The problem was that minor procedure led to a staph infection that wasn’t found for 2 months. By the time they caught it there was so much damage I can no longer work, ever again. My life has been turned into a medical & legal horror story all because I didn’t ask for help when I knew I should have.
Now I have the opposite problem, getting the help I’ve asked for. It seems when someone is in my position, not making much money & not in good enough physical condition to be worth much in that way, nobody wants anything to do with you. It feels like I’m seen as more trouble than I’m worth to almost everyone. If they help me it’s unlikely I’d be able to return the favor & it won’t get their picture in the paper so most often when I ask, even from people who put themselves out there as loving to help others, I get totally ignored. To make matters worse, the numbers of those who enjoy kicking people when they’re down have flourished. I seem to have no problem finding this at all & most often it even seeks me out. It’s like living has turned into running a gauntlet of those who seek to do me harm in any way they can, even though I take every possible step I can think of to avoid potential problems. It’s almost as if I’ve been cursed for doing nothing more than trying to be good to others.
So I hope this helps you recognize two things. 1. Not asking for help can lead to disaster in ways you won’t even consider until it’s too late & the damage is done. Had I known what not asking the other guys who were right there & fully capable of helping would lead to, I wouldn’t have just asked, I’d have demanded they help. 2. With there being people in the world such as myself, deserving & asking yet still unable to obtain help, it’s downright sinful to be able to get the help you need & refuse to ask.

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 12:10:40 +0000

OneHotTamale–Whoops–that’s a mistype. Odd no one else noticed. It was a 20 percent discount.
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By: OneHotTamale25

OneHotTamale25 — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 08:11:29 +0000

A 20 second discount? What was that in dollars?

You do not cease to amaze me with how blatantly transparent you are. I love it. Your life is a sitcom in blog form.

It seems to me the best way to overcome a fear is to face it. When you think about how you could be helped in a situation, follow your thoughts all the way to the point at which they become words.

By: Kari

Kari — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:20:40 +0000

Can you not ask for help because you need to be in control? or maybe you’re afraid someone might say no? or some other reason?

I personally am a very controlling person, at work and at home. It is very hard to let go of certain things and let others do them instead. I still don’t let my husband use the vacuum or load the dishwasher! But I do let him do his own laundry, put the dishes away, and dress our daughter. These things sound very minor to other people, but it took quite awhile for me to realize that I can’t do everything and still be happy. Ask for help from those closest to you first, because you trust them and fell confident in their ablility to help you!

By: Kayle

Kayle — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:55:46 +0000

Generosity of spirit should be contagious, infect everyone!

Think about how giving and generosity makes you feel. By asking someone for help you actually give them a gift. The internal joy of helping someone is priceless. It is the inner hero in all of us that should be ‘let loose on the world’. By not asking for help you are being the exact opposite of generous.

At least that is what I tell myself when I refuse to ask for help.