Comments on: How to Help Moms with Post Partum Depression

By: Noticias Tecnologia

Noticias Tecnologia — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 07:00:55 +0000

Thanks for sharing, didn’t know it was that big of a % that suffer from post partum depression.
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By: minijuegos estrategia

minijuegos estrategia — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 06:59:52 +0000

thanks for the advice, It must be really hard to know your mom has that thoughts but still you have to do something and find the way to make them feel better.
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By: wildflower luke7:47

wildflower luke7:47 — Mon, 09 May 2011 18:08:13 +0000

Hello FaithHope27,

Thank you sharing, I too have a strong faith based background. I have sruggled after giving birth to my precious boy who just turned one. I constantly feel angry and oppressed. the anger is focused towards my husband and I feel, (the key word feelings) very angry, hateful and bitter towards him. I too have prayed and today God answered I need help and lots of it so I called and I made an appointment with a psychiatrist and then I read this blog and now I know an not crazy and I need some help whether it be meds so be it. my fam,ily and I are worth everything I can do to get better I want to be whole again. I dont want these crazies as I call them. so thank you for sharing we women need to help each other instead of comparing oneself to another. I screamed out to God and he heard my cry.

By: FaithHope27

FaithHope27 — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 20:46:46 +0000

My story is a bit intense, as I truly had everything working against me prior to being a mom. My husband was out of work when we became pregnant, my job had completely ruined some very close relationships I had within the community. We bought a house and I was supposed to go back to work part time after the baby to help pay for it. (Bad decision). I had Vasa Previa, which is a life threatening condition for the baby and I ended up hospitalized two weeks prior to having her. Two days before my birth, my father told me he had had an affair and had lost his job and due to his prominence in the community it was all over the news. I had a C-Section, which by the way is absolutely the most painful thing I have ever been through.

I remember my daughter being born and instead of joy coming over me, I felt overwhelmed and just relieved I had my body back. I was so heart broken by my familial circumstances, I had very little joy in being a new mom. I resented that my daughter brought my dad a sense of hope. I was so angry I did not feel I had the emotional energy to take care of a baby. My heart broken mother came to stay with me the week I came home from the hospital. The same week the news about my father was posted everywhere. I was overwhelmed, but I could not stand to not comfort her.

All of this and I was in excruciating pain from the surgery. I didn’t talk to anyone about my feelings initially because I thought I was losing it and I did not want people to think I was being dramatic (I have been known to be a little dramatic). So I just bottled it up. My little girl that I had prayed for was beautiful. She was literally the BEST baby in the world, but eventually I was dropping her off with my parents as often as possible, trying to get out of town and having suicidal thoughts. Then the thoughts turned violent toward her and I cried out for help. My mother came over and this was when my daughter was just 8 months old. She came to get me and I was sobbing. I felt crazy, like I would hurt myself or my child. I was scared. I did not understand my feelings and I realized I needed help, any kind of help.

I quit my job (which I had started a new job 3 months prior) and we moved into my parents house. I spent so much time beating myself up and struggling with nightmarish thoughts about myself, my child and in all of this wondered, God, what is wrong with me? You see, I have a very strong faith in Christ and I didn’t think that this would happen to me, as i had such a strong foundation of faith. However, I am only human and came to realize very quickly how much I needed help.

I became medicated. I am still on medication today and I have days where I struggle. I went off of the meds after only a month because I felt better (DONT DO THIS!) I basically fell back into horrible depression and am now back on the medicine. I believe I will be 100% soon. I know God is in control and I have control over my will. I know that I cannot live life by how I feel, but by what I know to be true. I guess my advice to those going through this is to cry out for help when you need it and know that God loves you more than you could ever know. There is hope. I believe there is. I move forward daily and although my thoughts are not always uplifting, wholesome or good I know I am forgiven and can move forward. Every step we take in this life has value. We have a purpose. To lay our lives down for others. These others just happen to be tiny babies. Anyways, thats my take, and i believe I will continue to get better.

By: OneHotTamale25

OneHotTamale25 — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:31:26 +0000

I am nowhere near having a child, but I really appreciate your transparency in this post. I feel more knowledgeable about some women’s experiences and encouraged to ask my mother if she ever had these feelings to know whether or not I may be at risk. Thank you so much for your continual honesty. You have such a great way of helping all of us to feel validated in our emotions and experiences. You are a gem, and quite a mother from what I have read.

By: nicole

nicole — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:25:06 +0000

Thank you so much. Tonight I watched your story on Postpartum Nightmares, and there was mine. I am 39, and I have two daughters from my first marriage, 20 and 17. No problems with them at all. In 2007 I delivered my third daughter and by all accounts, I was a seasoned mother and things should have been fine. I cried all the time and when she was 3 months old, I told my husband I wanted to kill myself, and I meant it. When she would cry I would have that “prickly” sensation all over my body, and I just couldn’t stand it anymore. No sleep, no help from husband or family, and a full time job. I straddled psychosis but eventually pulled myself back into depression, and stayed there. When she was 9 months old, I found out I was pregnant, and I wasn’t happy about it. I was still struggling, and I pretty much begged my husband to let me give the baby up for adoption. When he was born, things hit a new low. I was now alone caring for two babies, deeply depressed, working part-time and just trying to get out of bed in the morning. I screamed at them constantly and begged them to shut up. Now my daughter is 2 1/2 and my son is 14 months, and I’m still struggling. I don’t have insurance, so I’m pretty much hoping to wait it out. Maybe someday I’ll be my old self again and see that life has some worth.

By: Lisa O.

Lisa O. — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:23:05 +0000

I just saw the show and it did spur discussion between my husband and I regarding my very similar experiences after the birth of my first child, 14 years ago. I don’t think you can adequately understand the depth of the pain unless you’ve been there. Husbands, mostly through no fault of their own, don’t get it either. There is never a more alone feeling in the world. Personally, I just wanted to escape. I never thought about harming my daughter, but did entertain lots of fantasies or running away…like you can somehow run away from what’s inside your own head. I think about those times and wonder how I made it through. Only because I wanted so badly to be a good mom and give her what she deserved I guess…I kept trying, going to doctors, psychiatrists, until I found one that prescribed Prozac (by this time my daughter was a year old)…and that was finally just the beginning of the road to recovery. It at least let me think a little more clearly so I could try and address my problems.

The word needs to be spread far and wide. New moms need to not be afraid to speak up (I sure was, I painted on the smile for family like everything was fine then went in the bedroom and curled in a fetal position)…New dads have to be made aware and not afraid to step up and get their wives help when they may not be able to do it themselves.

So much needless suffering…Certainly about time awareness was raised.

Thank you Alisa!

By: Mrs. Levine of Whispered Between Women

Mrs. Levine of Whispered Between Women — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 02:15:04 +0000

I appreciate your bravery. Thank you for sharing your family history and fears. We, as women, need this story told and re-told and re-told until post partum becomes something that women are not afraid to discuss, accept, and help each other through without judgment. It would most definitely help.

By: David Richards

David Richards — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 23:24:13 +0000

Alisa, thanks for helping to give PPD more attention. I have tears in my eyes remembering my wife’s struggles after the birth of our first child. We were lucky to have a good support system and made it through. I hope lots of women have a chance to see the show and that real discussion happens in the homes that view it.

By: Dorothy Stahlnecker

Dorothy Stahlnecker — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 21:04:29 +0000

It’s such an misunderstood condition that so many mothers have had to struggle with feeling alone. Very good information and I hope your able to share it with more women my daughter had five children and two step children, thus she had this experience twice and it’s never easy.

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