A reader participation post
This question came in from a reader:
My husband likes my hair long. I like it short. Last June I went from a mid-back length to a layered shoulder-length style. The new haircut made me feel pretty and cute. I had it trimmed in August and again just before Thanksgiving. The last trim was shorter, and I felt cuter and prettier than ever. I would even go so far as to say “super cute,” especially with a little barrette on the side. But my husband hates the haircut. He says he loved my long hair and that I don’t listen to his opinion and that I’m out to hurt him by cutting my hair. Recently he wrote me a letter, bringing up our first shower in which he washed my long tresses. I responded that I would try to find a way to grow it a little longer, wanting desperately to come to a compromise, and feeling quite moved by his effort to write the letter. The thought of doing so makes me very sad, though. I love my new haircut and I love feeling cute and pretty. The fact that he constantly brings it up doesn’t help, and when I say, my short hair makes me happy, he just replies, “but I liked it long,” and that response makes me want to scream and/or cry. I wish he would just say, “It’s just hair. I want you to feel happy and pretty above all,” and then drop it.
Surely this has never happened to another married woman on the planet. I would be interested to know what you and your readers think I should do. This seems to be the only conflict we can’t work out.
– Not Happy as Goldilocks
Readers: I’m at a loss. I’ve had short hair. I’ve had long hair. My husband has loved both. I’ve suggested my husband keep his hair short, because I think he looks more handsome that way. But were he to grow a middle aged man’s pony tail, I would still love him anyway. So I don’t think I can commiserate at all with the husband here. How about you? Do you have advice for Not Happy as Goldilocks? Leave a comment.
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It seems like all you girls think that if you’re not hanging out of your clothes,your men will run away after someone who is! hehe,are you all North American/British? You can be pretty and feminine with shoulder length hair, you can be pretty and feminine without wearing your shirt halfway down your chest
Yea,it takes a bit more effort and grooming (lets face it,a guy presented with a half-dressed chest sin’t going to be noticing your pretty smile, or beautifully framed eyes.)
Your men don’t want you to look cute or hot because they don’t want other men looking at you- Theresa and the person with the question,it seems like they’re controlling and lace a large amount of emphasis on controlling your physical appearance!
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