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So Read This One At Home.

And Then Print it Out for Your Man.


Yes, you can teach him how to go there.

Yes, it’s the long-awaited cunnilingus post. Many of you – mostly women – have asked me for this post. You’ve asked. You’ve asked. And you’ve asked. I hesitated for a while, mostly because I have no Earthly clue what my husband is doing when he goes down there and I’m almost certain that he’s too shy to tell me.

I wanted to supply you with the info. But how?

Enter Violet Woolf. I met her a while ago. She’s bisexual. She told me a few stories that got me thinking that I wanted her to come to my house and give my husband some lessons about how to please a woman in bed. For instance, she told me that she regularly—using just her mouth and her hands—gave her girlfriend multiple orgasms. The most they counted was 10. Yes, that’s not a typo.

I became even more intrigued when she told me that this multiple orgasm thing was a regular occurrence for her. When she pleasured a woman? Major earthquakes took place in that woman’s womanly bits.

So I begged her to share her skills with you. If you are a woman, print this out. Give it to your partner. Tell him to read it as if it were scripture.

Please note that Violet uses some terminology that most of has have been taught to never say. My first instinct was to clean up her language. Upon further reflection, however, I realized that she used these terms with such reverence that she made each and every slang term for a woman’s vagina sound downright beautiful. So I left it as is.

Here’s Violet.

How to Go Down On a Woman

When Alisa asked me to write a How To guide for cunnilingus (aka, giving a woman head, going down on her, eating her out – which is a particularly odd saying, isn’t it?), my very first thought was, Impossible. You see, I can lay it all out here in vivid detail – all the ins and outs, the tricks, the techniques, but you’re going to have to put them together in a way that makes sense for the woman receiving this gift.

Every woman is different – not only from other women, but also (and sometimes, confusingly) from themselves on a day-to-day (even hour-to-hour) basis. That said, there are a couple of hard and fast rules. For instance, I would never spread a woman’s legs open and immediately start pounding her clit with my tongue or sucking on it voraciously. There’s always something to be said for build up, teasing…making her go get that pleasure.

Take your time getting there. Unless it’s one of those intense sexual hook-ups where the throw-down is in over-drive or you only have 10 minutes until the kids come home from school, don’t go straight for the goods. Take some time to kiss her whole body, every once in a while brush by her pussy – with your lips, your fingers your tongue – just enough to let it know you’re on your way.

Dive in sideways. Have you ever looked at a pussy? It looks like a mouth, just turned sideways. You’ve got lips, you’ve got a deep, warm hole, you’ve got the clit and its hood and shaft sticking out like a tongue. I suggest that you turn your mouth, or your whole body, sideways to meet it where it is – and make out with it. Soft kisses at first, all over. Then, bring the tongue in, lightly at first – keeping your lips glued to hers, literally just like you were kissing her real mouth. Let the tongue go deeper, suck the clit, its shaft and hood (the whole central area of the pussy) in and out of your mouth. Sink your tongue inside her vagina. Have fun – the sensations your lips and tongue are feeling can be almost as delightful to you as they are to her. She’s so soft and warm. Go from light and easy to deep, strong kissing – teasing her, letting her excitement rise and fall, but ultimately building. Note: many women don’t enjoy or can’t tolerate hardcore sensations for too long. It can be too much and actually cause numbness.

Lick from stern to stem. The first – and one of the most glorious – times that I received head, the giver placed her tongue at the bottom of my pussy (below the opening to my vagina) and licked slowly all the way up, over my clit to the very top of my pussy. She used a feather light touch, deep pressure and everything in between.

Use the right part of your tongue. How exactly should you hold your tongue? There are really two options – you can point it, using the hard tip, or you can keep it flat and soft. You’ll have to ask her which she likes more – or maybe she likes it all. But, personally, I love the flat, soft mode.

Make love to the shaft. A surprising number of people don’t know this – but the clit isn’t just a little button floating in the pussy. The button is connected to a shaft – much like the penis. It’s incredibly stimulating to have a finger on each side of the shaft rubbing up and down – just as you would do to a penis. (Up and down can either mean from the base up to the clit or back and forth from the top of the pussy towards the bottom). Of course, the tongue can also rub the shaft and the lips can move around it as they would on a cock.

Add some fingers or a toy. Some women really love and need penetration to achieve orgasm. If this is the case with your woman, add fingers or a dildo to the mix – matching the rhythm of your tongue on her clit to the thrusts of the penetrating tool. Again start slow and build up your pace and pressure in time with what you’re getting from her body.

Be patient. This whole process from the easing down of the panties to orgasm will take exactly…as long as it takes. I know some women that come within seconds, others that take hours and some that just can’t come via oral sex. But they all say that it still feels fantastic. If you’re not in it for the long haul, that’s okay. Cunnilingus is excellent foreplay.

Watch, listen and feel. Remember how I told you that all women are different, all the time? As such, it’s your job as the giver to watch, listen to and feel what’s going on with her. When you’re doing something right, her body will rise and writhe, she might tremble or shake, she’ll get wetter and wetter, she’ll moan, pant, scream, tell you what to do (“harder, more, do that other thing again”), grab your head and pull it in deeper. Or? You’ve got her laying there fairly motionless. If that’s happening, you need to read this again (or better yet, talk to her and find out what she wants.)

So, let’s review the golden rules to giving good girl head:

1.  It’s not about you. It’s about her.

2.  Follow her lead, her moans, her pushing into you or pulling away.

3.  Enjoy yourself. There are few things in this world as pleasurable as licking a soft, sweet pussy while a woman writhes around you, grabbing your hair and yelling out in ecstasy.

Have fun, seek pleasure and always, always, honor the pussy.

82 comments… add one

  • ryker October 14, 2013, 9:23 am

    Sweet, ty, a womens advice is always great

  • john October 26, 2013, 9:22 am

    Don’t get me wrong, I love going down on a woman if she’s clean. I was started in my teen’s And i licking butt too, is wrong? I do it if she’s clean after she comes out of the shower.

    • jay December 1, 2014, 11:57 pm

      ya I agree wd u , I also started my 1st sex with 69,,, its go too long 4 a year n my gf enjoing every movement of my tounge,,, she always b clean n clear,,, I love her deep vally ,, ;)

      • sam sam October 25, 2015, 10:25 am

        Doesn’t matter how long I rub her, bit she still want me to f her.

  • joeyd69 December 27, 2013, 10:00 pm

    Loved this….it has been something i have enjoyed doing for a long time…And there is no other taste like it in the world. While i know i have pleased my women in the past buy the wiggling,moaning,and grabbing of the head and pushing it harder….its nice hearing the steps,or methods i havve been ussing are the correct one…thanks so much. Ps.was getting excited just thinking of pleasing my partner,isnt that what its trully all about;~))

  • Ryaz January 13, 2014, 2:26 am

    I just started dating, and I find out my girlfriend doesn’t like oral sex! She said the mouth is very filthy and in the past have giving her yeast infection! I wonder if that is also the reason she is not much of a Kisser? What could I do? Is that possible? Oral sex can cause yeast infection in some women?

    • Courtney June 5, 2015, 1:07 pm

      Absolutely true, especially if the giver has been drinking alcohol beforehand.

    • Ann September 10, 2015, 1:21 am

      Indeed a woman can get a yeast infection from the mouth since yeast is always present, but moreso if they were drinking like Courtney said, or especially after having eaten like sugar etc. If you keep your mouth clean in the sense you brush and rinse every day and have a pleasant mouth when you want to do those things, then you may be able to convince her. Just let her know yeast infections aren’t cause by ‘dirty mouths’ it’s the sugar or pre existing yeast that makes it happen. In fact the human body has yeast occuring naturally inside of it, but your balance of good bacteria prevents infections usually. Plenty of yogurt and probiotics for her aswell should help. But let her know it’s just a body balance thing. If you’re willing to give her the pleasure and take things slow she may just end up preferring it.

  • Ryaz January 13, 2014, 2:33 am

    Also want to add, great blog and great tips. Thank you!! Nothing like a woman’s opinion in something so insightful! And experienced with another woman!

  • Andy February 14, 2014, 7:04 am

    Phenomenon post, I had enjoyed every bit of little sensational sentence in this post. You had described as an excellent lesson to guy’s ‘How To Have Better Sex’, thanks for sharing this post. I really go with these remarkable tips next time. Thanks

  • luke February 25, 2014, 1:47 am

    I have never been down on a girl before, but i am really excited to experence it. this has heaped me with what i have to do.

  • kingGeorgia August 7, 2014, 12:36 am

    How good is to christian life?

    • Laurie March 14, 2015, 10:40 pm

      are you kidding?? Christians (which I am) are like everyone else, enjoying life and sex to the fullest!! Really??

      • Colton April 19, 2016, 11:20 am

        Laurie, Very much agree with you, Christians should enjoy sex to the fullest !! My wife is bi and I am straight and we often include my wife’s best girlfriend in our lovemaking. Her girlfriend and I give her oral at the same time, she goes wild. These two women are wonderful partners and we all love each other! My wife and her girlfriend have both told me that I should consider both of them as wives and we will have a beautiful marriage.

  • aaron August 31, 2014, 7:09 pm

    This info is what i needed to satisfy my girl please keep sharing these most helpful guides

  • Jeff January 6, 2015, 3:35 pm

    I have been dating my girlfriend for and 11 months and I was her first. The thing is she is against oral sex. She thinks it is gross. What should I do?

  • Jeff January 6, 2015, 3:37 pm

    I have been dating my girlfriend for and 11 months and I was her first. The thing is she is against oral sex. She thinks it is gross. What should I do? And sex is getting very boring…

    • Ryas January 7, 2015, 6:56 pm

      Jeff, important part beside to have the physical sexual satisfaction with your partner, it is to have her trust. If you are her first, you need to be patience, and take care her needs.remember, ” We don’t miss what we dont know” She is not aware of the satisfaction that oral sex can bring her. Now is the oral sex from you to her? or she doesn’t want to give you oral sex?

      • Jeff January 12, 2015, 2:33 am

        Both, she doesn’t want to try either way.

  • Brian Newton March 25, 2015, 5:44 pm

    I adore giving oral to a woman, as you say every woman is different, their taste, their reactions, everything. Contrary to a number of other comments, I really prefer if she hasn’t bathed or showered, I love the sweetness of her odour, the unique perfume and of course her gorgeous taste, my current woman squirts when she orgasms, the taste of this being the best ever, I could have too much!!

    I have been the first to give oral to a number of women, all of whom loved it, and all of whom reached an amazing orgasm, saying it was the strongest they had ever had, one had never had an orgasm, and quite simply could not get enough after that first time.
    Brian Newton´s last blog post .. If We Were Graded on Our Ability to Read People, We’d All Earn an F-

  • Alonso May 7, 2015, 10:30 pm

    I love giving oral to my girl and everything I read on this article confirms my theory about oral sex and women. I had the opportunity to tried something new with her that I learned from this article and she just loved it. Thank for giving us this kind of insight!

  • john October 9, 2015, 5:35 am

    Thank you very much for all the information from a woman’s perspective. A lot of us men are embarrassed to say we actually don’t know what we are doing down their. For most of us men it is like trial and error from when you hear her moan or squeeze you hard, then you know you’re. doing something good. But thanks for so many options for pleasing your girl. A LOT OF people on here try and act macho and say that’s what I did or she explained everything that I do so i must be doing good if its from a females perspective. That’s BULLoni
    But thank you for the information , it will go to great use. Lol. Thank you very much

  • Cassio Vieira April 11, 2016, 6:23 pm

    Congratulations, great post, we men must see sex as something not just for our pleasure, but rather as something that we should completely satisfy the woman and I agree that oral sex is one of the best ways!


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