Comments on: How to Survive the Holidays, Part 2

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By: Sheryl

Sheryl — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 20:55:54 +0000

Oh, I can so relate to the introvert/needing to be around people but then needing to be very much lone part. ThaT’S me to a tee. And my husband loves a party and never needs to escape the way I do when I fill up with too much outside “noise.” I’m still trying, after all these years of marriage, to make him understand this. One thing I have learned is that while he may not be able to relate to this, I don’t let myself feel guilty when I tell him I can only take so much or express some other needs he might not ‘get.’ I just tell him we are very different people, and this is who he married, and that’s the way it is. And that is usually all it takes for him to *understand.*

By: Andi

Andi — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 20:47:35 +0000

I think that is one of the struggles of marriage, trying to figure out how you can both be happy. And I think ultimately you won’t always get your way, but as long as there is equality then somehow it is okay.
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By: Kelly J.

Kelly J. — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 19:12:56 +0000

I’m with Maureen. I do have sensory integration issues and I think to an extent my husband does as well. I am constantly trying to learn what makes both him and me happy and I embody the Grinch too. When we first got married, I didn’t know what I needed, how I could get it and give to my husband. Over the years, I’ve come to love my inner grinch and let my husband know (nicely) what the grinch needs (and if that means not having any Christmas decorations up for two years and counting, then so be it!) I understand that he is very much a loner to the point of hermit-ism and when he wants to play video games for five hours straight and not talk at all (which I have a habit of doing A LOT of talking when the mood strikes), then so be it. I think that when we do embrace our inner garlic heart and nicely let others know what we need, then we can all be happier people.

By: Maureen

Maureen — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:53:10 +0000

You may have sensory integration issues. LOL I have a boy with a disability who experiences the same thing and so do I.
Too much noise, visuals, touching….too much everything and THEN we both just need time alone.

By: Keelie

Keelie — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 04:51:28 +0000

nice blog – I really enjoyed reading this! Thanks xx
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By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:04:03 +0000

It’s such a balancing act sometimes, especially around the holidays, to try and give everyone what they want. And we all seem to want to be HAPPY around the holidays. It can seem forced sometimes, and that’s depressing. Seeing the joy through the pure eyes of children… it does help.
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By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:21:40 +0000

My 5 year won’t stop talking and she talks very, very, loud! I constantly tell her to bring it down a notch. I think this is something she inherited from my mother-in-law. (Is that possible?)

I used to think that my sister –in-law suffered from “Garlic in his soul”, during the holidays. But through the years I’ve come to understand her thinking. She has pretty much been on her own since a very young age, and she learned to make herself #1. And I’m totally the opposite. Learning to appreciate, except and understand everyone’s differences has made it easier for me to deal with Family during the holidays!

By: mommy

mommy — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:20:02 +0000

I am in the strangest, hardest, oddest, most desperate situation ever and have a question and would like advice where can i do that?….

By: Sandra Foyt

Sandra Foyt — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:10:01 +0000

I’m looking at a mirror, and I don’t like what I see. Every year, the holiday stretch gets more and more tension-filled, to the point that this year I declared would be the year with NO HOLIDAY TRADITIONS. No lights, no big meals, no gifts. And we’re still having arguments.

I suggested getting take out for Thanksgiving, and the family loved the idea. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of picking up a turkey at the store, not intending it to be part of a Thanksgiving meal, but setting off a string of fights.

I guess I should have been clearer in the first discussions, and more open to my husband’s notions of a happy holiday. Not looking forward to the much needed apologetic conversation.

As for the kid talkers, my kids haven’t stopped since they started at one, and I homeschool the 10 yo younger child. For my own sanity, I had to just tell them I need quiet time, or they risk seeing Cranky Mommy in action. This works, a little, but it’s hard to staunch a fire hydrant.
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