The Best Marriage Advice You Ever Got

by Alisa Bowman on November 16, 2009

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This is a post that you, my dear readers, will write. I’ll get it started, though. Many years ago, at my wedding reception, my pastor asked our guests to offer up some marriage advice. Our guests told us to “never go to bed angry.” They told my husband to always say, “Yes, Dear.” Stuff like that.

My grandmother, in her mid 80s at the time, happened to be celebrating her 60th wedding anniversary. She whispered this advice in my ear, “Patience.”

At the time, her advice was lost on me. Now, after 10 years of marriage, I totally relate. She wasn’t necessarily talking about the kind of patience one needs when one is so mad at one’s spouse that one is trying to use one’s psychic energy to get that spouse to drop dead right there on the spot. (Of course, that kind of patience is important, too).

No, she was talking about being patient enough to see the long view. Every marriage has its ups and downs. If I patiently muddled my way through the downs—without giving up hope—I’d probably eventually reach another up. That had been her experience, and, so far, it has been mine, too.


I’d love to know about the best marriage advice you’ve received.
Like me, you might have heard it at your wedding. Or maybe you learned it later—from a counselor or a friend or someone else. Heck, maybe you even learned it from watching Desperate Housewives.

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A professional journalist, Alisa Bowman is the author of Project: Happily Ever After, a memoir of how she saved her marriage, and coauthor of Pitch Perfect, a must-read if you've ever had a sense of dread tie up your insides before a speech, presentation, or conversation. If you enjoyed this post, you will no doubt love her updates on Facebook and Twitter.

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Judy November 16, 2009 at 9:50 am

The best marriage advice I ever received was from my counselor….it was that you cannot change your spouse. You can change yourself, which will indirectly change your spouse. It’s hard to change yourself. It’s hard to look inward. It’s hard to get past the ego and see the raw ugly truth about yourself. You have to be patient with yourself. But once you see it….you can do something about it. And once you do something about it, everyone else around you seems to change. :)

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Tera November 16, 2009 at 10:29 am

The best marriage advice i have received so far (I’ve only been married for 21 months) was from my mother. She told me to always put the needs of my relationship before the needs of myself. Not to imply that she suggested to forget about my own needs but I think what she was gearing towards was that a lot of times our needs are more or less selfish needs (I deserve….) and in a marriage you can’t always be selfish. She reminds me of this whenever my hubby and I have a hard time and it really gets me through some of the tough times. Its not always easy to put someone else s needs before your own but that’s part of love, isn’t it?

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Kayle November 16, 2009 at 10:37 am

My 80 year great-grandmother always had the ability to say something that at the time left me wondering what she meant and what it had to do with the situation at hand. Then hours, weeks or months later something would click and I would laugh and think ‘that was what she meant’.

She sat and listened to all the advice at my wedding shower and sipped her coffee. Never nodded in agreement, never contradicted my guests. They went on with the standard ‘don’t go to bed mad’, ‘don’t let your self fall apart’, ‘be sure he is sexually satisfied or he will cheat’, ‘have your own interests and hobbies,’ and so on. One of my dear friends asks Little Granny what advice she had to offer. She replied ‘When he folds towels different then you do, and he will, don’t criticize or refold the towels, let it go for god sake he folded the towels. And at the end of the day the towels aren’t all that important’. I thought; leave it to my little granny to bring chores and wifely duties into the conversation. After we were married he did fold the towels different I realized what she meant. When two people merge, they will do things different. It may be folding towels, thanksgiving stuffing recipes, holiday traditions, and the list goes on. One way is not more correct than the other, it is just new to you, so step up and try new. If it works, tastes good or gets folded and actually makes it to the linen closet then new isn’t so bad after all.

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Kathy November 16, 2009 at 11:29 am

I don’t know the best marriage advice I’ve ever gotten. I’m on my third marriage. I think I’m only figuring out marriage four years into my third one (we just celebrated our 4th year). LOL!!!

I think the one thing that is working for me this time: is that we know what our jobs are. We each have our duties with the house, income, how the money is spent, etc.

Also, not saying mean things, such as, I want a divorce. That’s a killer. And I said it often, until my girl friend that also used to say it, said I wasn’t “allowed” to say that anymore. But that’s what I learned from my parents. The going got rough, you ran to grandma’s (my mother’s mother).

I’ve also learned to just shut my mouth when I get really, really mad. I’m in no shape to talk rationally or nicely. So, I don’t talk anymore until I’ve had time to cool down. And when I get that mad, I stay polite and not behave like a spoiled child having a tantrum. I think my hubby gets scared when I get quiet. LOL!!!

I really don’t have advice, I just have experience.

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Mary November 16, 2009 at 12:45 pm

I read that it’s very difficult to “never go to bed mad”. Especially when you’re in an argument, and it’s already midnight, and you have to get up for work at 6am the next morning. Especially when you’re so mad that even if you DID somehow get enough nerve to say, “I’m sorry,” through gritted teeth, you’d still lay awake all night regretting that you said it, because you really aren’t sorry at all, and now you resent your partner. Basically, your fight has now escalated to a whole new level.

The advice here is that instead of “never go to bed mad”, the real advice should be “Always sleep in the same bed, even if you’re mad”. This way, when you both wake up in the morning, your partner might just roll over, put his/her arm around you and say, “I’m sorry for being poopy last night.” Then it’ll be all over and done with.

Even if your partner isn’t as apologetic as I’ve listed above, this advice serves many other purposes.
1. Neither one of you has to be thrown out of your own bed.
2. This reduces the opportunity for slamming the door (which always makes me more angry).
3. There will be no opportunity for “last words” before you or your partner storm out of the room.

You still probably won’t get a good night’s sleep, but let’s face it, if you sleep in the guest bedroom or on the sofa…you won’t have a good night’s sleep anyway.

If nothing else, it gives you both the time to sleep on it.

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Kelly November 16, 2009 at 1:47 pm

Before I got married, my aunt (who was just about to celebrate her 20th wedding anniversary) gave me some of the best advice: “Always remember how you felt on your wedding day.”

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Holly November 16, 2009 at 2:01 pm

The best advice I’ve gotten was from a friend, who also happens to be a counselor. A big problem for me with regards to our marriage problems has been maintaining hope. Right now it feels like things have always been bad, and will always be bad. It’s hard to imagine a situation or circumstances wherein I will be happy in my marriage.

She said, ‘Happiness in life (and marriage) is all about perspective. Often all it take is one tiny thing to change, and your whole outlook shifts. This could be one tiny shift in your thinking, or perspective, or one tiny action on your part (or your spouses). So when things look bleak and hopeless, remember that that one tiny thing could even take place today, and you could find yourself feeling happy and hopeful again’.

I like to hang onto this when things are feeling hopeless. I have found it to be true. Not that the tiny thing makes the problems disappear, and not that it always lasts, but it’s so good to know there are tiny bits of hope along the way.

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Julia November 16, 2009 at 3:24 pm

During my bachelorette party I asked my only married college friend if she had any advice for me. She had been married for four years, and after a pause she simply said “Just keep talking to each other”.

But I got complacent, and then we stopped talking to each other. And in and amongst all that we stopped listening to each other – there was nothing to listen to. And I stopped noticing what was happening to my husband, and that he was struggling with mental illness. It took a most spectacular derailment on his part for me to wake up and realise what was wrong.

So I have made a promise, that I will never again stop talking to my husband. And I’ll never stop listening to him. And hopefully that means I will always notice when he starts to be plagued by dark thoughts.

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Kathy November 16, 2009 at 3:40 pm

Kelly, that is the best advice, in my opinion. I have actually been working on that one.

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Jackie Dishner November 16, 2009 at 6:19 pm

Don’t lose the ability to laugh with your husband. It’ll get you through the tough times.
.-= Jackie Dishner´s last blog ..Mothers who kill their babies =-.

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Alisa November 19, 2009 at 11:01 am

Note: The Wired promotion is now closed. I am in the process of alerting the winner and will announce that winner soon. Thanks for your wonderful comments and advice!

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Marissa November 16, 2009 at 7:06 pm

“start working on making it better now, and keep working.” or something like that from my own mother after I had been married 2.5 years.

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Aimee November 16, 2009 at 7:21 pm

Your kids will grow up and move out, but you will be with your spouse forever. I didn’t receive that advice. I discovered it myself. I didn’t really receive a whole lot of advice when I got married considering I was 17 years old and everyone was placing bets on the numbers of months it would last. I’ve been married almost 16 years now and have a 14-year-old son and an 12-year-old son. I think one huge mistake couples make is engulfing themselves so completely in parenthood that they forget to still be boyfriend and girlfriend. You can’t wait until the kids move out to discover each other again. By that time, it may be too late. You have to learn to (gasp!) put your marriage ahead of the kids sometimes. You have to learn to be 17 again sometimes. Having two teenage children isn’t very conducive to me being a 17-year-old girl. Ipso facto, children must be compartmentalized over here in this corner of my brain for an evening, not to be released until morning. It works.

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Kim Tracy Prince November 16, 2009 at 8:21 pm

From my mother: stop being a nag.

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Kayle November 16, 2009 at 8:22 pm

Aimee –

that is awesome advice! I have seen four couples split up recently right after the kids were gone. It seemed that the didnt have anything to ‘team up on’ anymore. No problems that they could solve together that were not about them.

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Addie November 16, 2009 at 8:29 pm

Best advice I ever got was from my mother. Go into a marriage accepting your partner for who they currently are (good, bad, awful, and indifferent). Do NOT go into it expecting that you can change them, mold them, or fix them. Or that they will eventually become what you want. Doing so is a formula for failure.

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Kathleen Quiring November 16, 2009 at 8:37 pm

I just came across this piece of marital wisdom a couple of weeks ago. I thought it was incredibly clear-sighted and mature. Corey Allan of Simple Marriage says this:

“Marriage is not designed to make us happy. What makes you happy is way too vague and elusive. What makes you happy changes with the seasons and the stages in life. And often, once you obtain whatever it is that would make you happy, it’s short lived and fleeting. If I define my life and live my life only by what makes me happy – I’m going to harm a lot of people along the way.”

“Marriage is designed for one thing: growth.”

(Here’s the link to the rest of the blog: http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-just-want-to-be-happy.html). Don’t worry, I’m not in cahoots with him or anything, I just ran across it and thought it was brilliant).

I think this advice is really helpful. If we’re always just chasing after “happiness,” we’ll spend the rest of our lives fluttering from flower to flower (or partner to partner), wherever our fickle emotions take us. But if we think of marriage as a personal-growth machine, we will be able to work through the difficult times in order to reach maturity.

I know I can’t take any credit for this advice; I just figured I’d share it. Since you’re asking.

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Alisa November 17, 2009 at 10:35 am

Kathleen and others: Thanks for mentioning Simple Marriage. It’s a great site. Please never worry about mentioning other great resources here. I’m all about wanting people to find what they need in order to improve their lives. Corey has a great site.I highly recommend it.

Everyone: JUST. LOVE. YOUR. TIPS. I’m totally awed by all the great advice here.

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Kelly J. November 16, 2009 at 8:44 pm

I learned that you never say the D word (divorce). Even jokingly. Once you say that word, you are giving yourself, and your spouse, permission to get a divorce. We simply don’t say it.
We also always tell each other we love one another every day, several times a day. We even say it when we’re stepping outside for just a moment. You never know if that is the last time you will see them.

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groovygranny November 16, 2009 at 8:46 pm

I never listened to advice as I approached my own marriage (at 23), because all the “advisers” were in terrible marriages–really really terrible marriages–including my own parents.

But much later, when our three kids left, I felt really lost, even though I had a job I loved, painting I loved, and much to make me happy. When we visited my husband’s family in Colorado, and I shared with one of his cousins that I did not know what I was going to do without kids in the house, she said “You will now have time to get to know your husband again.”

And I did.

I think the Biblical saying “there is a time for everything under the sun” sums it up.
Patience does too.

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Holly November 16, 2009 at 8:48 pm

Kathleen, thanks for that. I love that quote. So very true.

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Sarah November 16, 2009 at 9:30 pm

My mother told me two very important things. One was to remember that no one person can fulfill every need that you have and you should not expect them to. You have to have other people, interests etc to keep you balanced and happy. I think of this when I start thinking negative things about how I WISH my husband were. The other is that sometimes the thing that you love most about a person will be the thing that will drive you crazy. When I get frustrated at my husband’s need for order (which does not match me at all) I try to remember that it is also the thing that I love him for. He is stable, responsible, and can help me find things that I lost!

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Jason November 16, 2009 at 9:50 pm

The best marriage advice? “Get a pre-nup!” :)

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Jessena November 16, 2009 at 11:26 pm

Hopefully this will not sound as cornball as it could ;-) but the greatest advice I received is to be your husband’s #1 fan…remember why he’s your hero :-)

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Courtney November 16, 2009 at 11:36 pm

I can’t say that I’ve ever really received marriage advice, at least not spoken, but I receive the best marriage advice by watching others. My grandparents are a wonderful example. They help each other around the house, they talk about issues, they show genuine care for each other, they joke with each other, they love their family and make that a priority. They appear to make being married effortless and it’s for all those reasons.

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Kanoelani November 17, 2009 at 1:23 am

I dont listen to what others have to say because in most cases there marriages are failing or there on there 2nd marriage or so. Anyhow the best advice to me is all in the BIBLE- thy shall not commit adultry etc. I just follow all the laws and life is good, before I started following what the bible said, our marriage sucked ass and everything was falling apart there were divorce threats coming from both ways. Anyhow for me and hubby the BIBILE is where we can get great advice!
.-= Kanoelani´s last blog ..Just Random Thoughts =-.

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Maile November 17, 2009 at 3:14 am

My best advice is common sense – you are 2 individuals, living two very individual lives, which marriage is going to combine/blend. Neither of you need change, nor give up your friends, etc. – both of you need to compromise and communicate. I had seen too many marriages split up because one person expected the other to change, or give up their friends, or stop doing things (like hanging out with their friends once a week) just because they were married.

I also knew none of them had been friends first, and I knew that wasn’t a good foundation – and I wanted the foundation of my marriage to be solid. We have always been friends first, and I truly believe that’s what has held us together. We talk, we love, we keep life interesting by surprising each other now and again.

And, we celebrated 19 years together this Spring.

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Natalie November 17, 2009 at 7:22 am

All the advice given so far is great and a lot of it is what I’ve heard before. I especially try to follow that we are two separate people trying to live a life together, so of course there will be differences in how we approach things (like folding towels… LOVED that one). I am also a big believer of doing my best to accept my husband for who he is, warts and all. It’s not always easy, but with acceptance comes respect and support, and those are key things for me.

I also read the Simple Marriage blog and think there’s some great advice on there as well.

One of my favorite quotes comes from my father though: “Marriage is like housekeeping; you gotta work at it, regularly, or else you end up with a huge mess on your hands.” Makes sense to me. Marriage isn’t something that should happen easily. It takes works… sometimes more than other times, but it takes work. Going into marriage realizing this instead of thinking you’re going to find someone to float along life with (another piece of advice from my dad: “The problem with floating [on a cloud] is that when you look down, you realize there’s nothing holding you up.”) will help you keep expectations realistic. At least that’s my opinion.

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Jamie Freedman November 17, 2009 at 10:37 am

My best marriage advice came from my grandparents, who were also celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary the year I got married. When our DJ asked for advice, my grandpa stood up and said “When your wrong, admit it, when your right, shut up!”. Best advice I have ever received :)

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O.P.Khetan March 5, 2013 at 1:09 am

Excellent advice

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MarthaandMe November 17, 2009 at 12:27 pm

No one’s ever given me good marriage advice, but there are quite a few things I learned NOT to do by observing other marriages. Don’t say bad things about your spouse to anyone. Yes, it’s ok to moan to your friends once in a while, but don’t have a blow up at a party in front of half the world. Don’t go in different directions. We all change as we age, but the key is to change together.

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Carla November 17, 2009 at 2:21 pm

My advice is to always keep your promises. Once you break a promise to your spouse, it is very hard, if not impossible, to get back to the same relationship baseline that you had pre-promise. If you were promised something in a certain time frame but it didn’t come to fruition, you’d be upset, wouldn’t you? Yes, you would. I know I would and I have. Promises are commitments; you are committed to do something. If you promise something to your boss, you are saying that without a doubt this is going to be done. If you promise something to your spouse, you are saying that I love you and, because I love you, I will most certainly do this. If you don’t follow through with that promise, it feels like a piece of love is lost…and we all need all the love we can get, don’t we?

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Jodie November 17, 2009 at 2:30 pm

My now husband atucally gave me the best advice. In one of my two breakdowns during wedding planning I was sobbing on the couch just plain scared and said “What happens if we fight and get divorced???” He just looked at me like I was being silly and said “uh…if we fight, we get through it and move on.” It was so simple to him and I realized he was right. I realized it was just as possible for people to stay together as it was to divorce. Every once in a while something silly will set my mind off to wander and I’ll get nervous about where we’ll be in 20 or 30 years. I just repeat the words he’s said to me since then: “We have no idea what can happen 20 years from now. All we can do is deal w/ what we have today and fix what’s wrong today and hope that takes us into the future.” It’s still a bit scary – the thought of divorce….but I realized he’s right. What’s the point of worrying about the future? We can only do the best with what we’re given today.

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Jennifer Margulis November 17, 2009 at 4:20 pm

The best advice I ever got was from my mom. She was so young when she got married (the first time) that she didn’t really know her husband very well and she had all sorts of rude awakenings after they were together. She told me that it was really important to LIVE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND BEFORE you got married and that was the only way to know if you and he would really be compatible living together for the rest of your lives.

I have other advice too for young couples: you need to talk through things — like what happens if one of you gets sick, how many children (if any) you would like to have, what you would do if one of your parents needed care — and you need to have those difficult conversations BEFORE you vow to be together in sickness and in health.

I don’t want a subscription to Wired (I’m appalled by some of the unfair reporting in their recent articles) but I’m glad you started this discussion!

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Kim November 17, 2009 at 6:41 pm

The best advice I’ve heard lately was from my mother, who is currently in the process of divorcing my father. She said, “Be good to each other.” So simple and so true. My parents let pettiness get in the way for years and it eventually ate away at their marriage. I also love the advice here about patience. My husband and I are in our 30s and it can be difficult to have a long-term perspective. Sometimes, on the tough days, I imagine me and my husband in our 80s looking back on the life we built together. It helps me remember why I married him.

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Sheryl November 17, 2009 at 8:24 pm

No one gave me this advice, but it’s something I remind myself of from time to time when I find myself talking in a not-so-nice tone of voice. Remember the way you talked to one another when you were first dating. Use it now, even though you might have issues to address. It just takes a tone of voice – the wrong tone – to turn things ugly.

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Stephanie Golden November 18, 2009 at 11:49 am

I’m not actually married, but I’m 6 1/2 years into what looks like a permanent relationship so the issues are quite the same. I’ve been through the folded-towel stuff (in my case it’s screwing the cap on the toothpaste tube), but what has helped me the most came from my Buddhist meditation practice. You learn not to react instantly but to create a little space for reflection before doing or saying whatever your worst impulse is whispering in your ear.

So if I’m angry and I want to say something mean, on my best days I remember to say to myself, “What’s my intention in saying that?” Once the intention is made clear, there’s no way I can possibly say that thing. Do I really want to hurt him and prolong the fight? Will that make *me* feel better?
.-= Stephanie Golden´s last blog ..Let your unconscious do the work =-.

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Sue November 18, 2009 at 10:25 pm

I’ve gotten some great advice on this blog from you Alisa and your readers. I especially liked your blog a few days ago, the one you thought was preachy and the challenge you gave your readers:

“You will be the one who hugs your spouse for no reason other than the fact that your spouse needs a hug.”

I took that challenge. And there was some hugging going in a house where there hasn’t been a lot of hugging in a long time.

I think another good piece of advice is from the Bible. Seriously, stay with me on this one. Proverbs 27:15 – “A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike” Kind of got me thinking that I should just chill out sometimes and not be the quarrelsome wife… drip, drip, drip, drip….

Thanks again for your blog. It has given me lots to think about!

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OneHotTamale25 November 19, 2009 at 3:38 am

I have been married for a whopping 8 months. :D I feel the best advice I have received thus far came from a text by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs called “Love and Respect.” The premise of the book is based on Ephesians 5:33. (I encourage you to look it up if you are not familiar with it. :)) In his text he introduces a concept called “CHAIRS” that relates to how a woman can respect her husband. He shares that men want to work and achieve (conquest), protect and provide (hierarchy), lead (authority), analyze and counsel (insight), have “shoulder-to-shoulder friendship” (relationship, and (of course) have sexual intimacy (sexuality). Dr. Eggerichs uses each of these categories, if you will, to share with women how we can respect our husbands and make them feel good about who they are and how they enrich our lives. The hope is that our efforts to respect our husbands and their contributions to the marriage will lead to them taking up the same effort to love us the way we need to be loved.

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Michael Dundas November 19, 2009 at 6:24 am

I have been married for 13 years, and I don’t typically receive marriage advice (at least none that is worth using). Most of our friends are not married, or have been married only a few years compared to us. My wife’s parents were divorced at a very young age. My dad doesn’t give much advice in the relationship arena and my mom who would have passed away years ago.

The advice in these comments are insightful and informative. I’ve enjoyed reading them.

Thanks,
-mike.
.-= Michael Dundas´s last blog ..Leadership isn’t about you =-.

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Cyndi November 20, 2009 at 2:42 am

I’d have to say that the best advice on marriage I ever received was actually more of an insight than actual advice. It came from our marriage counselor. We were separated and I was 99% certain we would get divorced. One of our major issues was something my husband did 10 years earlier that I “couldn’t” get past. He cheated. The counselor pointed out that I was the only one keeping that affair alive. The girl was long gone, my husband had proven for 10 years that it was his biggest regret in life and that he was committed to our marriage. It was me, causing my own pain and a lot of the turmoil that led to our near-divorce. Me. So, as far as advice goes, I guess this one boils down to…take a look at yourself. What are you contributing to that’s causing marital problems. That’s some great advice.
.-= Cyndi´s last blog ..Our Biggest Delusion =-.

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Jacques November 20, 2009 at 7:25 pm

Be willing to put yourself into question, look at it from the other standpoint, and take it from there.

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Maureen November 21, 2009 at 11:03 am

My dad told me to marry my best friend.

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Cheryl November 27, 2009 at 1:44 am

The best marriage advice came from a friend’s Great Aunt, who has been married for over 50 years and gives this advice to all newlyweds…with all seriousness intended:

“The first fifteen years will be Hell.”

I figure if we haven’t killed each other or gotten divorced by then, we just might make it…lol. (We’re on year 6.)

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Debra: Philadelphia Wedding Reception Sites November 30, 2009 at 2:08 pm

I’m going to offer some advice based on my experience working with bridal parties. It’s not intended to be deep, or moving.

Basically, brides and grooms should be concerned and considerate of the other person. I’ve worked with many bridal parties and those that think about others around them seem to be on the road to a successful relationship.

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Linda Davis December 7, 2009 at 6:27 pm

My post might be a tad too late but I would just like to share one of the best pieces advice on marriage: start thinking in twos. A marriage is a partnership. Get rid of your “my” and replace it with “our”. This reinforces a shared commitment which will result to a happy and lasting marriage.
.-= Linda Davis´s last blog ..Twitter Weekly Updates for 2009-12-06 =-.

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Martyna December 14, 2009 at 4:36 pm

I don’t really have marraige advice to add, but something I have learned in the five and a half years I’ve been married. Sometimes you have to be selfish. Everything I do is for my husband, from cleaning up the house to folding and putting away all the laundry I usually do it thinking he’ll be appreciative and it will make his day easier. Then we hit the biggest speed bump in the world in May which led to not knowing the fate of our marriage. Then of course once I came back home he was regretting what was said and he was instantly better and a more loving and attentive husband and I was left with burning coals wondering who I was and where this all went wrong and if I could really trust him.
So, after wallowing in depression for a couple months I picked myself back up and started thinking about what I wanted and for the first time in my married life I was selfish and we did what I knew I wanted to do and not “what I wanted to do which is really what I hope he wants to do”. I slowly regained my trust for him and things are a lot better.
You have to focus on yourself once in a while so you can be a healthy contributing partner in the marriage.

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sedigheh November 22, 2011 at 3:15 am

sure

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John Reece September 8, 2010 at 8:25 am

Marriage is a partnership between two people yes, but a marriage also needs the couple to have their own hobbies, interests and different ways because this can actually bring them closer together and everyone needs to be their own person from time to time.

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sedigheh November 22, 2011 at 2:28 am

hi
I’m a woman from Iran,a foreign country for you.but I think somethings are not diffrent between people around the world.
the best advice I ‘d heard it was that you must be at best figure for your partner.I mean that some of us always have good looking and nice with best perfume for atrange people in street or coffes but for our partner are sad.tired.disorgenized…
I think when you are orgnised your spouse figure out you pay attention him or her feeling in addition you always look fantastic among people
I got married last year and I have not alot exprience. forgive me about this , and my wrong words…

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Kristina Marchant July 4, 2012 at 1:32 am

Patience is everything in any type of relationship. It’s even better when mixed with a splash of trust and a dab of romance!

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Kristina Marchant July 4, 2012 at 1:34 am

Every love is like a roller coaster with ups and downs. The question becomes, is your partner committed to staying on the ride with you.

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Joel Thompson October 21, 2013 at 9:08 pm

Allow your wife to express herself as much as she wants as women are very emotional. We men are not as emotional and as such are not as expressive.

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