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Because This Post Is About: How to Give A Great Blowjob
So I’m feeling insecure. Here I went and bragged that I give fantastic blowjobs. A number of you commented that you wanted a step-by-step lesson. I agreed to provide.
And, now, I have performance anxiety. I’m sitting here and I’m thinking all of these negative thoughts. What if what I do only works on my husband? What if my husband is faking it? What if I still really suck at blowjobs?
I had to smack myself around and give myself the “believe in your beautiful self” talk.
And thankfully, the mailman delivered three new DVDs yesterday, and one of them was Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex – Fellatio. So I watched that, too.
All I can say is this: Phew. I was doing mostly everything right. I could have written this entry without watching the DVD. But I did learn a couple new tricks, so it wasn’t a waste of money.
Before I get into how to do a blowjob right, let’s first go into how to do one wrong.
How to Give Heinous Head
I learned the word “blowjob” right around the same time I learned about the movie Deep Throat. As a result, I assumed that good oral was based on deep oral—the deeper it went, the more the guy thanked you later.
As a result, I would pop my husband’s shaft into my mouth as if he was a hotdog that I was devouring in an eating contest. Then I’d proceed to bob and suck like no porn star’s business.
My husband would feign a slight hint of excitement, so I’d try to go faster and faster and deeper and deeper. That problem with this is that I have a seriously sensitive gag reflex. I’ve been known to projectile gag various pills and supplements from one side of a room to the other.
I’d breathe deeply. I’d try to relax. Buy inevitably I’d find myself hoping and praying that I would not accidentally barf all over my husband’s junk. Meanwhile, the sucking was uncomfortable for him and the gagging sounds were quite the turn off.
After carrying on like this for a while, my jaw would go numb. I would start counting in my head, “1, 2, 3, 4, 5” to take my mind off my pain. Usually by the time I got to 15 or so, my husband would read my thoughts and say something like, “Hey, I’d rather have intercourse.” And that would be the end of it.
I might have been born with a lot of talents, but doing the deep throat thing was not one of them. Live and learn.
How to Give Beautiful Blowjobs
Here’s the most important thing I’ve learned from all of this: you can rock a man’s world in a big way without even remotely going deep throat. The secret lies in knowing a little anatomy.
Generally, the most sensitive parts of a man’s package are:
- The head—the smooth, round part at the top.
- The frenulum—the cute little flap on the underside of the head. It’s similar to the little flappy thing under your tongue, only smaller.
- The perineum—the area between the balls and the butt.
- The balls.
Do you see “very bottom part of the shaft” mentioned anywhere above? Nope. It’s just not all that important to get this part of the penis in your mouth. So why torture yourself? It’s not as if you can win an award for doing it (that I know of).
What follows is how to rock a man’s world without going deep throat. It’s certainly not the only give head. It may not be the best way. And it might not even be a good way if your husband likes different things than mine. It’s just my way. Copy what you want. Ignore what you want.
Part 1: The Tease
I very lightly brush my husband’s shaft with my fingertips while I kiss and lick other parts of his body. Then I lube him up with some coconut oil. I like coconut oil because it’s real food. It has little to no taste—unlike most commercial lubes that taste medicinal. Lube is important because the skin on the shaft of the penis is thin and sensitive to chafing. If you’re going to be using your hands on your man, you need lube. Otherwise, he’s going to get pretty uncomfortable. Alternatively, you can lick him up and down and spit on him a little, using your saliva as lube. Whatever works.
I kiss and lick the shaft. I circle the head with the tip of my tongue. I tickle the frenulum with my tongue. I lick his balls, his perineum—basically everything. Occasionally, I suck his balls. This drives him insane, so I don’t do it for very long or very often. I might do it once or twice during a session. That’s it. I don’t do this licking and ball sucking in any set order, either. It’s whatever I think up in the moment. As I lick him here and there, I’m using my hands in other places. I might cup his balls with one hand while I massage his chest with the other, for instance. Or, if I’m licking his shaft, I might gently press my fingers into his perineum.
I progress from lighter licks (just brushing his skin with the tip of my tongue) to harder and harder ones (using my tongue on him as if he were an ice cream cone).
I don’t tease my husband for all that long. He’s more of a Bobbing kind of guy. Use your own best judgment as to how long this stage should last. Note that the longer you tease, the closer you’ll have him to climax when you move onto the Bob. If you are worried about your stamina, tease more, bob less.
Part 2: The Bob
I put one hand around the bottom of his shaft. Then I slowly bring my lips over his head. At first, I’m all lips and tongue. I roll my tongue around the head. I bring my lips around the edges of the head. Stuff like that. Eventually, when he seems like he’s beside himself from it all, I move into the bobbing thing.
I use my hand as an extension of my mouth. This prevents me from having to go anywhere near the gag area. I try to do this seamlessly, so my hand and mouth are working together to put tension on the top of his penis, gently pulling open the hole where the semen comes out. (I’m sure this “hole where the semen comes out” has an official name, but I didn’t feel like looking it up).
As I bring the shaft into my mouth, I slide the head along the roof of my mouth. This seems to generate more pleasure than just bringing the head to the back of the throat, but I mostly do this to avoid accidentally gagging myself.
I start with slow, even bobs, progressing to faster ones as my husband responds.
When my husband is about to climax, his penis gets harder, arcs back a little bit and starts to throb. I don’t know if all men are that way, but I thought I would mention it. My husband usually likes to warn me that he’s about to bust open, which is nice, but not necessary (for me. You might be different). I swallow, but not all women do. I don’t think it makes much of a difference either way. If you are not going to swallow, finish him off with a hand job or with intercourse. If you do the hand job thing, consider allowing him to ejaculate on you—perhaps on your breasts.
If you think that’s gross, that’s fine. I’m not trying to talk you into doing anything that you find uncomfortable. I’m quite certain that your man will be quite happy with whatever you do at this point. If your technique was good enough to get him to climax, he’s not going to give you a failing grade because you didn’t swallow or let him get you sticky.
That said, I do want to mention that our beliefs about what’s gross and what’s not largely stem from socialization. If you don’t believe me, just think about what babies and toddlers have been known to do with their poop and boogers. We teach our children that bodily fluids are gross. That doesn’t necessarily mean that all of them are. If you allow yourself to think of semen with an open mind, perhaps it won’t seem so gross to you. Just a thought.
Now, every man might be slightly different. What works for my husband might not work for another. So communicate with your husband as you try out new things. And PLEASE, feel free to share your tales of success here, so others can learn from you.
And, I feel the need to say that I’m not sure I’m going to be able to look various people in the eye after writing this post. Got any advice about that? Let me know.
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Oh my goodness, this is too funny. I mean, it’s not funny–ha ha–but wow, Alisa, you’re a better woman than I. I wouldn’t have the guts to post about the quality of sex I give my husband. Or vice versa. Sometimes I do ask him how it is for him, well, a lot actually, but then I just think “if I was THAT bad at sex–any part of it for that matter–he really wouldn’t have married me, right?” That answer satisfies my insecurities most of the time.
That said, I do think that it’s important for couples to be open and honest about their sexual needs, wants and satisfaction. I personally don’t find this post off-putting, but some people might–I think it’s good you put a warning at the very top–VERY GOOD!
I admire the fact that you watch instructional DVD’s, I think that’s a great idea–we all could use a little brush up on ours skills–sexual or otherwise. I agree with you about the bodily fluid thing, it’s funny that the older we get, the more we’re taught that certain things are “gross,” or “not lady-like.” Personally, I think whatever floats someone’s boat is what is good for them. And you’re right in that not every technique works for everyone–every one is different; that’s for sure. What works for one will not work for another.
As for your whole “Project Happily Ever After,” theme; I absolutely believe that good blow jobs, good cunninglings–how about a post on that? Even though you’re a woman and probably can’t instruct on how to do that, you know, a lot of men are clueless about that, and most women I know have more orgasms from that than intercourse. I don’t know how you’d write that post, but I think it’s equally important. Anyway, great sex of any kind plays a major role in whether or not a couple has their own Happily Ever After.
I think the breakdown of the sex life between a couple leads to the breakdown of so much else; as well as the other way around. I once heard somewhere that what is, or what isn’t, happening in the bedroom between a couple is directly related to what is, or isn’t, happening in the entire relationship. The sex life is reflective of the relationship itself, I hope that makes sense. I kind of believe that to be true. I’m not saying that if a couple isn’t having sex that they don’t love or respect one another–I’m just saying that in some cases, the lack of sexual activity is because of other underlying relationship issues (once you get past the exhaustion, medication side effects and physical stuff, of course). There are a ton of things that can get in the way of the desire to have sex, and especially get in the way of giving one another oral sex; it’s a trust issue and even a “manners” issue for some (more so women than men, but I digress.)
But still, I’ve always believed that sex is vital to the overall happiness rating of a marriage–and quality sex is more important, in my opinion, than quantity. I learned that lesson the hard way–no punn intended! LOL! The truth is, as I said before, sex is a major player in the Happily Ever After or not.
And I think if people get past the initial POSSIBLE (I wasn’t) discomfort with this post, they could learn a lot!
Thank you so much for sharing this, being blatantly honest and hey, cheering us all on–in a matter of speaking! LOL! Have a great day, and here’s to great sex for everyone!
Blissful Blessings,
-Sarah Liz
P.S. I’m REALLY hoping that mother-in-law or ANY of my husband’s family does NOT run across my response…talk about it being difficult to look someone in the eye? LOL! Yeah, no suggestions on that one—I just remember that “hey, we ARE married, and married people (are supposed to) have sex. So, you know, they all did it too, or else we wouldn’t be here!” That helps a little. Goodluck! And once again, you’re very brave!
This was fascinating. I agree with Sarah Liz. You were brave to write this post. I intend to study your directions when I have more time.
I imagine many husbands will be grateful if their wife’s skill improve thanks to you ….
WOO HOOO!!! I use the “hand as an extension” method already!!!
I’ve never felt comfortable with BJs and have never been successful at them, but I’m not sure if it’s because it’s not good or because he’d just rather end with intercourse. Who knows?
Sex… ah sex. It’s so fun when it’s happening, but it’s something that causes me anxiety for some reason. I’m worried it’s not enough, that it means something’s wrong, that it’s not good enough… and I think, bottom line, I just need to RELAX!!! Like Sarah Liz said, sometimes infrequent sex doesn’t mean something’s wrong in the marriage. We’ve had A LOT of changes lately and some major stressors outside of our marriage… and our sex isn’t bad when it happens (and I’m not even into the “months” category for time between).
Anyway, thank you for this post. Sometime, I may just try some things out with my husband and see what happens. I think I’ve been on the right track… just not “perfected.”
Now, can someone explain to me why I prefer hand to oral for me?
P.S. To anyone who reads this and knows me… please don’t embarass me by telling me you know I posted.
I must admit, I too am pretty good at blow jobs. Doesn’t take long to get the boys crazy. The most effective, is teasing him around but not directly on his penis for while. Then, I lightly like his balls, actually, more like flick them. I start at the skin that attached the balls, and slowly go upwards. He freaks out!
I also use the hand extension, and will toss in the double hand stroke for breaks.
Last, I suck the head like a popsicle. Works everytime.
That was very well written. I’m impressed.
My husband doesn’t like the bobbing at all. He needs to do the moving. But other than that and licking the perineum, we basically have the same technique.
I want to know how women deal with the smell of balls? Every guys balls smell the same. And it’s not the most pleasant smell – but I have a super sensitive nose.
I had to relearn bj technique when I met my hubby. Other guys I’d been with liked the bobbing. So, it was a bit of a change, but I worked it out. LOL!!!
Now, taste of the ejaculation. Some guys taste good. Some guys don’t. Some guys can taste good one day and not the next day. I’ve never been able to figure that out. Anyone know why it tastes different?
Kathy–I’ve read that what they eat can make a difference in the taste. Garlic and asparagus and the like makes it sour and fruit makes it sweeter. Beer and alcohol in supposed to make it more sour. I would imagine that vegetarians might be sweeter. I noticed when I was a vegetarian that I didn’t have as much BO. I think there’s less ammonia in the body or something. But that’s all 100 percent conjecture.
I can’t help you regarding the other issue. Maybe have his shower right before, using a soap or something that you like the smell of?
Alisa,
Thank you for answering my questions.
My husband complains that I make him brush his teeth before sex. You really think I’m gonna get him to take a shower? LOL!!!! Needless to say, I don’t go to his southern region more than is necessary. LOL!!!!
It’s hard to remember back very far, but I do sort of recall that one boyfriend that drank Hansen’s Sodas had sweet tasting stuff.
omg.what can I say…
Im surprised im the only guy commenting here. But thats a great post. Every woman should read that..
its educatiol yet entertaining:)
great job.
Kathy, diet definitely affects the taste. Asparagus is the absolute worst. Bleh! Fruits are great though. Sugar makes it sweeter, salt saltier, etc.
Alisa, I too applaud you for writing this post. Very bold. And aptly detailed. I’m glad you mentioned lube. Some women forget how important lubrication is and get going with their hands when it’s too dry. The wetter the better. I too love love love coconut oil. I encourage everyone everywhere to use it. Nothing beats it.
I think an important thing for women, as you touched on, is to keep an open mind. If you’re not comfortable, don’t enjoy the act, or are even grossed out by oral sex, your partner will notice and may have a hard time getting into it too. If you don’t like it, try to figure out what about it turns you off and how you might change your perception, or what your partner can do to help. Maybe he can start on you first? If you’re shy about it because you think you’re “not good,” just remember practice makes perfect. I know people get really self-conscious in this arena, but if you’re unsure of what your partner wants, ask them. He will always appreciate you wanting to improve. As they say, different strokes for different folks. Try out different techniques and ask as you’re going along what works for them and what doesn’t (well, chances are if it’s working you’ll be able to tell).
Also, I dunno if this’ll help anyone out, but something that I learned — you don’t have to keep going hard/fast when he climaxes. When it gets to that “throbbing” point, keep your mouth around the tip and move your hand firmly but slowly up and down his shaft. Like with women, that area gets really sensitive and a slower touch right as he releases can elongate the orgasm.
[to my mom, who suggested this blog to me, and therefore probably reads it... I've only had sex once, It made your grandbaby, and you should skip the rest of my comment]
Kathy – Brushing your own teeth as well BEFORE sex/ blowjobs can help with the smell, if you have strong minty freshness, you might not be able to notice man ball smell. maybe a way to get him to shower before would be to shower with him, and give a sensual massage and wash and some shower action.
Alisa – this is a great post, I love that you added the how to give Heinous Head.
I would like to add that there are toys out there that are sleeves for the penis, that act as an extension of the mouth as well, that are pretty awesome for women that have jaw problems like TMJ. These toys allow you to pay attention to the head of his penis and let the rest be massaged by the toy.
Great job on this one Alisa!
Your tips were right on, at least according to my husband. I just finished lip service with him following the above tips and he’s elated. He especially loved “the tease”!
Talk about teaching old dogs new tricks. This is such a clear, step by step description, I can’t wait to practice!
Great job, Alisa! I have never met a man who didn’t love to get a blowjob! I believe it is better than intercourse if he’s honest. Your technique is very much like mine and while my gag reflex is not as sensitive as yours, my husband seems to love it when I relax my throat, open it up and take in his entire penis. I don’t keep it in there for long as it shuts off any hope of breathing! But if you do this just right, your gag reflex will relax and the ‘deep throat’ act will become part of your technique which, truth be told, men do appreciate variety. Mom always told me that a good wife does it all including being a whore. She was right. The idea doesn’t degrade me at all but rather the acting out in bed (or wherever!), makes my man feel he is with the highest class lady of the night ever!
I have to share that out of the many lovers I’ve had in my 60+ years, he’s the only one who seems to really enjoy my finger up his ass. I’ll go so far in while pressing on the area between his anus and his scrotum simply because I’m afraid I’ll hurt him and I am so consciously aware that I may have feces on that hand that I wait till the end to do this trick so I can wash up afterwards and not spread possible ecoli bacteria. (If that thought is wrong, I would appreciate some feedback.) I haven’t worked myself up to ask him if he might enjoy anul sex as the thought turns me off.
Lastly, the only times I have swallowed was when he accidentally ejaculated in my mouth (right!). While I don’t think it’s a bad thing to swallow, I really don’t like how it feels in my mouth. It feels slimy or satiny and it seems to just stay there. Any suggestions there? I do agree that not every man is alike in taste and fortunately, my husband is not bad but still the feel of it just turns me off.
I’m looking forward to your article on how a man can give satisfying cunnilingus! While he does a great job (so I can orgasm easily), he heads for my anus, too, with his fingers and I have to tell him to stay away from that area but it seems to turn him on. Any idea why?
Alisa i see that you like to use coconut oil but i have searched for it at the grocery stores but i never seem to find it, where do u buy yours?
I have been dying to try it because i see that you thinks its better then regular lube so i really wanna try it out, please let me know.
And as far as the “cumming” i have never tasted it and i dont think i want to, i mean to me its very nasty i dont want that thing going down my stomach,uggh!!!
I think thats just me, im a very picky eater so if i wont eat a certain food i am def. not gonna swallow semen
I think your next post should be about a guy going down south on a woman(of course im pretty sure you dont have much to say about that but you could ask your husband)
i think that would be a very good one!!
Oh and i forgot to mention i did read this at work,but very fast and secretly!!
Janet, Try looking in the organic section of your grocery store. Coconut oil is the best lube – I can attest. Plus, it doesn’t cause yeast infections – in fact it fights against them.
Marissa, Yes, I brush my teeth, too. I’m very adamant about use both being “fresh” before sex. And I won’t even consider sex if I haven’t had a shower that day or if hubby hasn’t showered. Everything has got to be clean. LOL!!!
thanks kathy im going to check that out, i never looked at the organic section
does it just come in a jar?
-and i agree i like to have a fresh mouth too,makes it more tasty
Janet, yes, it comes in a glass jar. Beware, it’s about $10, but lasts and lasts and lasts – unless you’re a lucky girl and are having sex daily. LOL!!! It’s also a great lotion. I use it all over my body when I get seriously dry, flaky skin. It’s also great for removing mascara. I’ve also used it on my hair, when I’ve over processed it. Just put a small amount in the palm of your hand, and spread it thru out your hair. Then for the really attractive part – put a plastic grocery bag over your hair so you don’t get the oil on furniture, etc. Shampoo as normal, it comes right out. Your hair will love you. : )
Love, love, love this post!!!!!! Great job at combining the instruction with a great sense of humor and reassurance. I was happy to read that I’m pretty much on-track here, but I’ve got to admit that I got confused about finishing with a hand job and allowing him co cum on your boobs…..honestly, I just can’t quite figure out how I could physically position myself to give the blow job, then move to hand job and have my boobs readily available too. Typically my man is laying down and I am kneeling between his legs…….suggestions please!!!!
Marie–I was thinking from a kneeling position. He’s sitting in a chair. You are on your knees on the ground. But you could switch positions at the end, too.
All: regarding coconut oil. You can find it at health food stores and at some more gourmet grocery stores (like Fresh Market). Look for an organic unrefined variety. It is solid at room temp. I keep mine in the bathroom, so the heat from the shower softens it. You can also warm it in the microwave if desired. I use it on my skin as a lotion, too.
Oh, and I’ve asked someone to write a guest post for me about going down on a woman. More soon.
KATHY-WOW cocunut oil really works for all that stuff?
i didnt know that, i guess i can be havin sex with it and applying some on my skin!!!
haha
thanks i will be buying it ,
Janet,
Some people eat about 1 – 2 tablespoons daily. Supposedly it helps lose weight. I tried it, didn’t help me lose weight. But I’ve heard others rave about it.
Yes, it does all that and I’m sure more. If you don’t have Crisco and a recipe calls for it, just use coconut oil.
By the way, it’s solid up to about 75 degrees. But once the temp drops it goes solid again.
kathy,
so i dont have to heat it up or anything like that do i?
Janet,
No, you don’t have to heat it up. It will melt as soon as it touches your skin.
I totally love this blog and this post really hit home. I think we have the same technique and my husband says I give a great blow-job so I am hoping he’s not lying!! We too have had a dry period as of late, and I blame it on the stress of starting a new business and our daughter having some health issues. But we still remember to show our love in other ways. I too have had periods where I am totally horny and willing to try almost anything and other times when I could care less about it. I might be horny when he’s not around and thinking about getting into it that evening and then when evening comes, I’m too tired or want to watch some t.v. Lol.
I’d love to try the coconut oil!! Going to look for that this weekend. Definitely want to see something on men performing oral on a woman. I think one of the reasons women fantasize about being with another woman is because we know another woman knows what we want and like. My husband could use some lessons. He’s not bad but needs some more technique and I am not the type to tell him how to do it.
Chris… glad I’m not the only one who fantasizes during the day, but then finds something really fascinating to watch on TV that night and forgets about it. LOL
I would read one about tips for oral for women, but I’m curious. Am I a rarity that I prefer a “hand job” (can women get hand jobs?) more than oral? I think it works better for me and it’s what I “crave” more than oral.
Wow. Congratulations for writing very detailed instructions on how to do this to a man. Quite impressive.
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Alisa,
I hope that I am not ‘invading’ territory here, but as someone who has worked with and known many a married couple, it is fantastic that you can broach this topic in such a non-threatening way!
Like it or not, aside from finances, respect, and children, intimacy/ sexual issues are most likely to be at the heart of much of the marital discord out there.
Keep up the great work, Alisa!
Russ
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Alisa:
Thanks for considering my idea of having a man give some pointers about going down on a woman,i really appreciate it!!
Fantastic post! My hubby and I have been going through a rough patch and have had some very dry spells (going months without sex). Well, last weekend he received two mind-blowing blow jobs and he’s a much happier man this week.
Ok. One more add on to an Awesome Blow Job. IF he is lying on his back, have him bend his legs so his knees are up in the air. As you are giving him AWESOME head as described above or of your own making, then allow your breast and nipples to slowly caress the tender flesh of his groin between his legs. This makes my husband crazy! And my sensitive nipples enjoy the feeling as well.
I just started reading you blog a couple months ago and it truly has helped me in my commitment to my husband. Thank you!
Wonderful! I too have always considered myself a fellatio pro. One of the most important things, I think, is to LOVE doing it. I absolutely love giving head (and knowing that I’m driving my man crazy), and I think this passion comes through in my technique.
Also, I use 2 hands: one on the shaft as an extension of my mouth, as you do, Alisa, and one on to lightly massage the perineum and balls. Then of course the closer hubby gets to coming, the faster I go, and will sometimes then move both hands to his shaft (to emulate his preferred method of masturbating).
All this talk is getting me in the mood. Guess who’s getting a blowjob today!
Ahhhhh… I read it at work and now… well you can guess I am sure…. when I get home.. you know….. I found this the most interesting blog I have read all day. Keep it up.
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Just reread this one. For some reason I feel the need for a cold shower..HA! Actually there is an art to it. My first wife was a good person but HORRIBLE at it. She never really liked it & it showed. She was repulsed by it but was never really into it either. The result was teeth & other ouch things..LOL
Now my beloved is another story. WOW!!! I always joke & say it is one thing that got me married a second time. But no gag reflex & actually enjoys it to the end if you get my drift. No swallowing isn’t a requirement & the first wife wouldn’t. But experiencing both sides of the issue it makes a HUGE difference that the beloved does. Oh & Alisa & Kathy my beloved tells me that diet makes a big difference in taste. I tend to eat to many sweets but it has it’s benefits. Anyway I think a real difference in whether a person is good at it drepends largely if they actually enjoy doing it. I have been with women who were good at it & some were bad at it. The ones who were good enjoyed it. Makes a huge difference. Well I am off to that cold shower. maybe I should wake the wife & see what comes up..LOL I crack me up
Ron
Opps the first wife WASN’T repulsed. Just not in to it that much. I wouldn’t make somebody do something they were repulsed by. I just wouldn’t date a woman who was. Doesn’t make them a prude or bad person just a bad match for me..LOL
Alisa, thank you for this forum! We have been married for over thirty-seven years, raised four children, and I have learned the art of fellatio. I regularly swallow my husband’s semen. I keep the glans of his penis towards the back of my throat when he ejaculates. Thus, his semen simply goes down my throat while I enjoy his manly attributes. This approach, after many years of practice is most enjoyable for us. His semen was definitely an acquired taste. However, swallowing has increased the intimacy of our marriage and I feel nourished when I see the pleasure in his eyes and hear his soft, tender moans of enjoyment. Furthermore, there is no cleanup! I perform fellatio because it is an intimate, healthy act and his doctor (a woman) tells me that regular, full ejaculations are good for a man’s longevity.
Am becoming a bit of an expert re the art of cunnilingus – it is an art too, bit tricky to start with but am now a master! Thank you for a helpful website too. Wouold your visitors be interested in this review site at all?
Thanks for being brave enough to write about this in such helpful detail. The tip about Tristan’s DVD was also quite useful.