Comments on: How to Find Yourself, Part 3

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:20:16 +0000

I’m finally catching up with this blog post. I was very mad at my husband the week this was written and it was just 3 days until my b-day and 1 week from our 4th wedding anniversary. Needless to say, I was a bit distracted.

Now I’m here. Alisa, I agree with all of it. I’ve been losing friends (or let’s say I’ve been weeding out friends) because I’m being ME, all ME, 100% real me. You know what – I don’t mind. I’m actually enjoying it. Why do I need a “friend” that isn’t comfortable with the real me? I don’t. I’m not into having “friends” so I have more “friends” on Facebook. I want real friends. The ones that truly get me and let me be me.

I got distracted and lost my train of thought.

If you want a good mood stabilizer, try 5-HTP, it’s an amino acid. It’s really been helping me keep an even keel.

By: Liz Love

Liz Love — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:54:43 +0000

I’m trying to decide when we all decided we had to be so perfect and beat ourselves up if we aren’t–house must be perfect, children must be perfect, clothes, work, emotions, perfect perfect perfect. Let’s start a trend where women are allowed to be human and embrace each others little hang-ups. Wouldn’t that make life more enjoyable?

By: christine

christine — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 17:23:14 +0000

I’ve hid for years and became someone I wasn’t and not myself. I pretended to make others happy. Then i became lonelly and sad. I realize now that I need to do for myself and embrace in change to grow into the person i am and not who i’ve become. I’ve always put myself last and now it’s time i put myself first.

By: Althea

Althea — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 01:36:39 +0000

Right on! Also loved the parts about accepting being uncool uncertain situations and unliked in others. All very true. Change – and especially the uncomfortable type – is the best way to grow.

By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 13:59:25 +0000

Thanks for a great post. This really made me reflect on all of the new and exciting things I’ve done myself recently. I decided I needed a creative outlet (as an engineer by day), I realized how important Marriage was to me, and I started my own website/blog to help others have an awesome marriage. My relationship with my wife has never been better, our kids are doing well and I feel inspired again.

Life is good when you take action to find yourself!

By: Andi

Andi — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 03:33:31 +0000

Fantastic post. I am with Julie, as I age I am more and more comfortable in my skin. What you said about having the courage to be the true you means accepting that you will be unliked by some people – and for me that is ok. I don’t have time for drama and filtering, I want, I need to be me in my truest form. I love “I Will Survive!” Also, I hate most of my husband’s taste in music, but put up with it, I can’t have everything

By: Herding Cats

Herding Cats — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 02:41:23 +0000

I love your posts. They are really inspirational, and I look up to you and the honest way you live your life. I identified with this:

Unliked. When you have the courage to be yourself, then you have the courage to let others know the real you. Well, you know what? Not everyone is going to like the real you. But that’s okay, because now you’ll know which people DO like the real you, and you’ll feel more connected and less lonely as a result.

So true.

By: Julie Roads

Julie Roads — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:16:08 +0000

I love this post – especially the part about the boyfriend you didn’t even want to live in the same state as.

I think the older I get, the more I settle into my skin, my bones. And the less I care about pleasing other people. I know the difference now between what I feel like I should do and what makes every fiber in my soul sing…that’s what I’m working on doing ALL the time.

By: Frugal Kiwi

Frugal Kiwi — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 20:19:15 +0000

After my divorce, I decided to create a whole new life. Not unusual. But I took it the extra mile.

I moved overseas. I flew in stunt planes. I took up rock climbing. I did a 12,000 foot skydive. I completed a mini-triathlon. It might sound frivolous to some people, but all of those things helped redefine (to me) who I was.

By: Abby

Abby — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 19:19:24 +0000

Great points. I have been thinking about this on a smaller scale, like the post I just wrote on my blog admitting that I’m a TV junkie. I was raised by NPR-loving, New Yorker-reading academics so it feels like I’m letting them down to admit I not only watch but enjoy dumb TV, and that I’d rather do that than read a novel. Scandalous, I know!

I’ve also noticed that I’ve loosened up a lot since I started blogging (something I love to do) 4 yrs ago. And you know what? The posts where I’m the most honest (or is it pathetic?) and “real” are the ones that people relate to the most. It’s a great feeling to know that I am being myself & truly connecting with people. One funny thing, though, is that I feel more comfortable doing that w/ the mostly strangers who read my blog than with my real-life friends & family.