Comments on: How M&Ms got me a better flight http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:39:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Angel http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-11186 Angel Thu, 29 Jul 2010 05:29:00 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-11186 I used to have a problem with Mean Mommy, myself. She made me feel horrible. Since then, my son's father & I have divorced, and now my son lives with his dad in another state (for very complicated reasons that I prefer not to go into). When I get the chance to spend time with him, now, Mean Mommy doesn't get the chance to make an appearance, because it's much easier for me to remember to just be grateful for the time that I have with him. However, the feeling like Mean Mommy occasionally has been replaced by feeling like Worthless Mommy constantly. I was the one who took care of him 24/7 for the first 10 years of his life - now, I'm not the one that takes care of his needs on a daily basis, anymore. I'm not always there to kiss his boo boos (although, apparently, he's too old for that, now), or hug him when he feels down, or make his favorite foods, or any of the things that I used to take for granted. I would much rather feel like Mean Mommy occasionally. Cut yourself some slack, Alisa. You are a great, loving mother. I'm sure that she has no doubt that you love her with your whole heart! And there are much worse things that you can be to your child than to be Mean Mommy on occasion. I used to have a problem with Mean Mommy, myself. She made me feel horrible. Since then, my son’s father & I have divorced, and now my son lives with his dad in another state (for very complicated reasons that I prefer not to go into). When I get the chance to spend time with him, now, Mean Mommy doesn’t get the chance to make an appearance, because it’s much easier for me to remember to just be grateful for the time that I have with him. However, the feeling like Mean Mommy occasionally has been replaced by feeling like Worthless Mommy constantly. I was the one who took care of him 24/7 for the first 10 years of his life – now, I’m not the one that takes care of his needs on a daily basis, anymore. I’m not always there to kiss his boo boos (although, apparently, he’s too old for that, now), or hug him when he feels down, or make his favorite foods, or any of the things that I used to take for granted. I would much rather feel like Mean Mommy occasionally.
Cut yourself some slack, Alisa. You are a great, loving mother. I’m sure that she has no doubt that you love her with your whole heart! And there are much worse things that you can be to your child than to be Mean Mommy on occasion.

]]> By: Alisa Bowman http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4198 Alisa Bowman Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:40:01 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4198 LADIES--for what it's worth, I'm working with a company that might allow me to do another dildo promotion. So... fingers crossed. As for September's prize for my favorite commenter. It will go to Melanie. Melanie: I'll be in touch via email to find out where to send it. And then another surprise gift at the end of this month for another commenter. Thanks everyone! LADIES–for what it’s worth, I’m working with a company that might allow me to do another dildo promotion. So… fingers crossed.

As for September’s prize for my favorite commenter. It will go to Melanie. Melanie: I’ll be in touch via email to find out where to send it.

And then another surprise gift at the end of this month for another commenter. Thanks everyone!

]]> By: JANET http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4197 JANET Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:31:13 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4197 AWW MAN AMY YOUR THE ONE THAT WON THE DILDO! LUCKY YOU!!!! HOPE U HAVE LOTS OF FUN WITH THAT AWW MAN AMY YOUR THE ONE THAT WON THE DILDO!
LUCKY YOU!!!!
HOPE U HAVE LOTS OF FUN WITH THAT

]]> By: Amy in MN http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4196 Amy in MN Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:16:11 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4196 PS Alissa.... I keep forgetting until I hit submit..... I can't wait to get my dildo!!! BAHAHAAA!!!!!! :) PS Alissa…. I keep forgetting until I hit submit….. I can’t wait to get my dildo!!! BAHAHAAA!!!!!! :)

]]> By: Amy in MN http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4195 Amy in MN Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:15:11 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4195 Thanks ladies!! He swears he can cook but other than breakfast he has yet to prove it to me. Dinner isn't really the problem, because I do love to cook. The part I don't understand is when he says I don't understand what it is like to be with the kids "all the time". I figure I am with them 16 out of 24 hours 4 days a week and 24 hours the rest of the time. Oh and just to add more heat to the fire, did I mention I also work another part time job, that he constantly bitches about me being gone to even tho it is only about 4-5 hours every 2 weeks? But ladies, even tho I bitch and whine, this is my bed I've made and I will lie in it. I keep repeating the mantra, Divorce is not an option. Divorce is not an option. My boys love their daddy so much, and when things are good for us they are very good. Unfortunatly, the bad days are frequent and very bad. I keep trying to take the high road. I keep trying to remember the 10 relationship rules, but sometimes I just need a beer instead!!! LOL Thanks for listening and like I said before, it sure is good to know I am not alone!! I hope dinner is on the table for you when you get home!!! :) Thanks ladies!! He swears he can cook but other than breakfast he has yet to prove it to me. Dinner isn’t really the problem, because I do love to cook. The part I don’t understand is when he says I don’t understand what it is like to be with the kids “all the time”. I figure I am with them 16 out of 24 hours 4 days a week and 24 hours the rest of the time. Oh and just to add more heat to the fire, did I mention I also work another part time job, that he constantly bitches about me being gone to even tho it is only about 4-5 hours every 2 weeks? But ladies, even tho I bitch and whine, this is my bed I’ve made and I will lie in it. I keep repeating the mantra, Divorce is not an option. Divorce is not an option. My boys love their daddy so much, and when things are good for us they are very good. Unfortunatly, the bad days are frequent and very bad. I keep trying to take the high road. I keep trying to remember the 10 relationship rules, but sometimes I just need a beer instead!!! LOL Thanks for listening and like I said before, it sure is good to know I am not alone!! I hope dinner is on the table for you when you get home!!! :)

]]> By: JANET http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4194 JANET Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:03:30 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4194 YEA AMY!! WHY THE F*** ARE YOU THE ONE THAT HAS TO FIX DINNER WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS AT HOME WATCHING THE KIDS. I THINK HE NEEDS TO HELP OUT. ITS NOT RIGHT THAT YOU COME HOME FROM WORK AND THEN YOU HAVE TO MAKE DINNER SHOOT I THINK YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD HAVE DINNER READY BY THE TIME YOU STEP FOOT ON THE FRON DOOR YEA AMY!!
WHY THE F*** ARE YOU THE ONE THAT HAS TO FIX DINNER WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS AT HOME WATCHING THE KIDS. I THINK HE NEEDS TO HELP OUT. ITS NOT RIGHT THAT YOU COME HOME FROM WORK AND THEN YOU HAVE TO MAKE DINNER SHOOT I THINK YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD HAVE DINNER READY BY THE TIME YOU STEP FOOT ON THE FRON DOOR

]]> By: Kim http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4193 Kim Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:50:29 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4193 Amy: Why the h(&^* are you the one fixing dinner!?! Amy: Why the h(&^* are you the one fixing dinner!?!

]]> By: Amy in MN http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4192 Amy in MN Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:44:41 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4192 I am just finally having time to read this one. I am so glad to know that I'm not alone in my struggle to strangle the living crap out of myself when I am being mean mommy. I love my boys more than anything, but I am the bread winner at my house, so when I get home, they are all over me and my husband is like.."See ya, I'm outta here!!" He has had enough after being with the 1 year old all day ( if 8-4 is all day) and the the 5 year old for an hour after kindergarten. He goes down to the basement and hides out while I spend time with the boys, go to the bathroom and try to get supper going all while the 1 year old clamours (sp?) MAMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!! And the 5 year old says "Can't I play video games? Please? Huh? Huh?" "YES!!! Go play the damn things and leave me alone!!!!" MY time I guess is supposed to be the 15 minutes that it takes me to drive back and forth to work. I am lucky I have such an understanding best friend because she often takes a backseat (She has no kids) and more often I have to cut our conversations short because somebody is yelling "MMMMOOOOOOOOOOMMMMM!!!!" And when we do talk she has to listen to be complain about whatever. When it is finally 10 at night and the kids are both finally sleeping, then I may have 15 more minutes to myself, if I can stay awake that long. The biggest football game for the Vikings last night and I missed the 2nd half of the the 4th quarter because I just couldn't keep my eyes open anymore and the hubby thinks this is his time to get lucky. Sorry, honey!!! You better just head back to the basement!!! I am just finally having time to read this one. I am so glad to know that I’m not alone in my struggle to strangle the living crap out of myself when I am being mean mommy. I love my boys more than anything, but I am the bread winner at my house, so when I get home, they are all over me and my husband is like..”See ya, I’m outta here!!” He has had enough after being with the 1 year old all day ( if 8-4 is all day) and the the 5 year old for an hour after kindergarten. He goes down to the basement and hides out while I spend time with the boys, go to the bathroom and try to get supper going all while the 1 year old clamours (sp?) MAMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!! And the 5 year old says “Can’t I play video games? Please? Huh? Huh?” “YES!!! Go play the damn things and leave me alone!!!!” MY time I guess is supposed to be the 15 minutes that it takes me to drive back and forth to work. I am lucky I have such an understanding best friend because she often takes a backseat (She has no kids) and more often I have to cut our conversations short because somebody is yelling “MMMMOOOOOOOOOOMMMMM!!!!” And when we do talk she has to listen to be complain about whatever. When it is finally 10 at night and the kids are both finally sleeping, then I may have 15 more minutes to myself, if I can stay awake that long. The biggest football game for the Vikings last night and I missed the 2nd half of the the 4th quarter because I just couldn’t keep my eyes open anymore and the hubby thinks this is his time to get lucky. Sorry, honey!!! You better just head back to the basement!!!

]]> By: nandoism http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4183 nandoism Mon, 05 Oct 2009 22:39:22 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4183 This post was hilarious and I can totally see this as a sitcom on TV. I want a sitcom from you--how soon can you make that happen? "I ignored her, figuring that she was probably done with the ice and that it was melting all over her bed and that is was making the biggest wet spot imaginable and that I so didn’t care." I love it...good grief, does that make me a BAD future father? In any case, you are working hard and I don't really know how you do it all--but you're doing it. I'm playing catch up and I'm reading a few of your posts today--so if I'm commenting everywhere, I'm not stalking--just really dig'n your stuff! Miss you on Twitter, sister! This post was hilarious and I can totally see this as a sitcom on TV. I want a sitcom from you–how soon can you make that happen?

“I ignored her, figuring that she was probably done with the ice and that it was melting all over her bed and that is was making the biggest wet spot imaginable and that I so didn’t care.”

I love it…good grief, does that make me a BAD future father? In any case, you are working hard and I don’t really know how you do it all–but you’re doing it. I’m playing catch up and I’m reading a few of your posts today–so if I’m commenting everywhere, I’m not stalking–just really dig’n your stuff!

Miss you on Twitter, sister!

]]> By: PFC http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/09/how-mms-got-me-a-better-flight/comment-page-2/#comment-4160 PFC Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:31:40 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=2694#comment-4160 Hey Alisa! I just found a bunch of emails in my inbox from Wed that I never saw (where were they, I wonder? Or do I just have blind spot on Wednesday afternoon?). I LOVED this post. As you know, I am not a mom, but I relate to 'mean mommy'...I think there is a mean monster in all of us - mine came out the other day at my casting house with the sweetest person there because I jumped to a conclusion about something...I've been beating myself up ever since. And, I can relate to the 'things you'd like to exorcise' - I have a pretty substantial list - one of my first is 'Complaining' because I think it might be the precursor, for me, for several of the other things on my list. I just want you to know I think you are an amazing woman, and the fact that you are doing things (vs. nothing at all...) to improve your interactions with yourself and the world around you is inspirational. Thank you so much for being so transparent and sharing so much of yourself - that too is inspirational. :-) Payson Hey Alisa!
I just found a bunch of emails in my inbox from Wed that I never saw (where were they, I wonder? Or do I just have blind spot on Wednesday afternoon?). I LOVED this post. As you know, I am not a mom, but I relate to ‘mean mommy’…I think there is a mean monster in all of us – mine came out the other day at my casting house with the sweetest person there because I jumped to a conclusion about something…I’ve been beating myself up ever since. And, I can relate to the ‘things you’d like to exorcise’ – I have a pretty substantial list – one of my first is ‘Complaining’ because I think it might be the precursor, for me, for several of the other things on my list.
I just want you to know I think you are an amazing woman, and the fact that you are doing things (vs. nothing at all…) to improve your interactions with yourself and the world around you is inspirational. Thank you so much for being so transparent and sharing so much of yourself – that too is inspirational. :-)
Payson

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