Recipe for a happy marriage

It was tough to choose a winner for the Recipe for a Happy Marriage contest. There were so many great recipes! Because Nava Atlas graciously signed both books she sent, I’ve decided to choose a winner and a runner up. They both get the same prize, a signed copy of Secret Recipes for the Modern Wife, by Nava Atlas. It’s a great book–a perfect wedding gift. To learn more about it, read my review.

Now for the winning recipe. It goes to Sarah Liz, a devoted fan of Project: Happily Ever After. I’m somewhat certain that were I giving a prize to the most frequent commenter, Sarah would win that, too. Linda was the runner up. Congrats ladies. I hope you enjoy your books. Please tell others about them. The best advertising for a book author is word of mouth.

To see the rest of the Recipes for a Happy Marriage, scroll to the end of this post.

Sarah’s Recipe for a Happy Marriage

1 cup each of the following:
Trust
Kindness
Honesty
Compromise
Great or at least, frequent, sex

2 cups of:
Love
Patience
Respect
Forgiveness
Communication
Validation

Equal Parts:
Appreciation
Belief that you only want the best for each other
Pure Grit & Determination
Individual Responsibility
Willingness to grow
Ability to say sorry and mean it
Loyalty

Plus at least a 1/4 to a 1/2 a cup of “sweet cherries,” such as the occasional butt pinch, spontaneous kiss and “just because,” flowers, note, or thoughtful deed!

Realize that these ingredients won’t always be fresh, or easy to obtain! Life will inevitably throw you some sour times. You’ll be hit with some hard grains of salt, and perhaps even, too much spicy–heated pepper! When this happens, bring out the chocolate for her, the ice cream for him–and don’t forget the cherries! :)

Be willing to discuss this recipe from time to time and see which ingredients are most important to spouse during certain life-stages! This recipe may take some tweaking and a while to learn, but have no fear, it is a fool-proof, no fail recipe for a truly happy lasting marriage!

Oh, and most of all, enjoy your efforts–and each other!

Runner Up Recipe for a Happy Marriage

A couple handfuls of love and respect

Seasoned with willingness to listen no matter the mood

Allow some silence for alternative communication to bubble up

Throw in a dash of self confidence and a pinch of independent thinking

Mix with hands being careful not to overdo as dough could become tough

Combine the fruit of our labor with a sprinkling of sweetness and place into crust

Dot with the butter of life to “grease” the wheels

Pop into a warm oven to bake until death-do-you-part!

Serve while warm.

8 comments… add one

  • Sarah Liz August 31, 2009, 1:55 am

    And in my always commenting form, I’m going to leave a comment today that says THANK YOU! This is SO cool! I am looking forward to receiving this book and am going to print out mine, and Linda’s, recipe! Thank you, Alisa, for the kind words! I comment so much for three reasons: your blog is great, it gets me thinking and I feel it’s important for people to help one another! Whether we’re wives helping other wives, mothers helping mothers or writers helping writers–it’s important to uplift and encourage others! Your blog does that for a lot of people, I’m sure!

    Many Blessings,
    -Sarah Liz :)

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  • Sarah Liz August 31, 2009, 1:56 am

    The other entries were great too, I enjoyed them all! Very creative and entertaining!

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  • Cameron September 1, 2009, 12:32 am

    I love Sarah Liz’s recipie! I read and comment for much of the same reasons that are listed above. Sarah’s recipie is exactly the message I was trying to get across to my husband. He now understands why I feel it necessary to read this blog and why I follow much of the advice given. So, thanks a bunch Alisa and Sarah!

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  • Cameron September 1, 2009, 12:32 am

    recipe, sorry guys!

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  • instant personal loan October 10, 2009, 5:06 pm

    I think that every man and woman needs to read this and stick with it, I bet there would be less divorce in the states.

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  • Shivanni April 10, 2012, 12:58 am

    This is so cool. I am the groom’s Mum and am going to use it at my son’s wedding this Sunday 15 April 2012
    Urrbrae House, Adelaide SA

    Thank you Sarah

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  • Shivanni April 25, 2012, 6:39 am

    Thank you Sarah – The poem went off really well for my sons’s wedding – if it is alright with you – I would love to share it on Facebook with family and Friends to read – It was excellent
    Loving Kindness

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  • Beth July 19, 2012, 9:10 am

    I’m making two cookbook/scrapbooks for upcoming weddings (my son’s and my nephews). I wasn’t sure which recipe to put first in each book but I think Sarah’s recipe will be perfect. Very creative!

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