Comments on: Is friending your ex on Facebook cheating?

By: Tracey d davis

Tracey d davis — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 18:35:26 +0000

If you contact an ex and you do not tell your current mate then yes you are cheating mentally and soon it will be physically when the opportunity arises.

By: Tracey d davis

Tracey d davis — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 18:32:47 +0000

If anyone contacts an ex-mate and they do not tell their current mate, then of course we all know that this is considered cheating.

By: Juniper

Juniper — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 20:27:31 +0000

this was fantastically helpful, especially the section on how to practice self control. Thank you!!

By: peg

peg — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 02:23:01 +0000

If you are not upfront with your spouse about any kind of relationship you are in other than your spouse then its Cheating! You said your vows with God as a witness. So do the right thing. Be honest to your spouse. They deserve it

By: QueenSize

QueenSize — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:35:28 +0000

Oh Wow. Thanks for responding. I must be crazy because we have continued to talk as of today. We hashed out alot of things. We talk via facebook once a day. It seems like we’ve practically are yelling at eachother via computers at times. We really loved eachother many moons ago. Sam was someone that I regretted losing but that never stopped me from growing up and getting my groove one with others. I’ve said goodbye to him twice and the invisible magnet pulls us to one another once again. He keeps saying that I left him and I gave up on us when I walked away. I’ve apologized for my faults and he not once has admitted to anything. Sam even saids he loved me as much as he knew how but it just wasn’t good enough for me. All this chatter has forced out all these emotions. I feel foolish. What is his MO? We agreed to work on having a friendship. Is that possible? I wish you could read our facebook convo. You’re right perhaps life is not what he expected it to be and he is miserable. How am I to blame?

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 11:15:46 +0000

QuuenSize: You could torture yourself with these questions and this doubt, or you could just say, “Some people are like that ” and move on. He sounds like one of those people who blames everyone else for his unhappiness. Such people are not fun to be around and definitely not fun to be in a relationship with. Just my two cents.
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By: QueenSize

QueenSize — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 03:07:39 +0000

I saw that my ex had a 2 year old son on Facebook. So I got the balls to say hello to him. I knew he was married because even though his FB was private he revealed that bit of info. Anyway, I left a simple, sweet, and harmless message that his son looked just like him, long time no see, etc. I did not request his friendship on FB. About 2 hours later I got a reply in which he said he was going to request my friendship. That was fine with me. (We dated 2 1/2yrs in Highschool,bad breakup, haven’t spoke or seen eachother in 15yrs). One of the first things he said to me was that in terms of our relationship, things of could of been handled better on his part. I was shocked. My plan was to keep it light and not to discuss us. Whoa. So we went down memory lane for 4 days back and forth bullshit. He talked about how I thought he was cheating, that he really did love me, that he was so angry for a long time because he didn’t understand why we seperated. How I costed him other relationships. I was totally taken back. I checked his page he’s married and has 3 kids (2 step sons) he’s 31 years old. I gave him my cell and lets talk to clear the air (I thought that would be best than to talk via FB) he said he would call but he didn’t. He kept talking via FB. Another day goes by of chatting and I suggested we have lunch to clear the air. He goes quiet for hours. The conversations became more intense. I started to sense his anger. I just decided to stop talking. I wished him well, expressed appreciation for taking this time out for eachother and told Sam that we’ll talk in another 15 years. Why is he picking at me? He’s has a family and clearly has moved on. Seems like he’s trying to hurt me after all these years. Why?

By: Dave

Dave — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 22:50:21 +0000

I found out my wife had been communicating with an ex for 5 years. Now they live in different states but he has been to our state at least once during this time. In 2009 she joined FB and communicated with him there – not on her wall but by private message/ chat / poke. All of this was kept secret from me. My wife maintains this is all innocent. I think that her mindset was not and therefore this was very dangerous, or maybe it went farther than I know. She keeps saying she can’t remember specifics. This is driving me crazy. Like the article states he probably has one or more qualities that are attractive to my wife that I don’t have. Normal attraction that would be innocent as she says IF she hadn’t kept their relationship a secret. But she chose to keep a secret. And this guy is a special ex. They broke up because his family moved – not because they wanted to. It is like unfinished business between them I think. I feel betrayed and hurt. She still claims this is nothing. Ladies, I would really appreciate your input on this. I would like to share whatever you all say with my wife and we could both get truly independent opinons on this. Thanks in advance.

By: theotherperspective

theotherperspective — Sun, 02 May 2010 18:01:17 +0000

Sorry, I voted wrong in the first one.
I think simple friending is not cheating. Telling an ex that you’d rather be at his place because you hate the state you live in is.
Saying things to an ex, such as, “poking you is fun” is getting really close.

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 12:48:24 +0000

Me and my husband play games on facebook. I usually go into his account so I can collect items to further my game. One morning I went into his account and his ex-girlfriend friend request him. I excepted her friend request because I was curious about her. I am not wanting to tell my husband what I did because I want to see if she tries to bring up the past. I guess I am curious about what he would do. Is this wrong? Should I be more trusting and to just tell him about all of this?