Comments on: When a girl wishes she were a boy

By: Joanne & Ray

Joanne & Ray — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 15:13:42 +0000

Alisa- I love the links to past posts on the current posts. I know this is late but my youngest Carrie, always wanted to be a truck driver. Never played with Barbies always wanted her matchbox cars and her dinosaurs.

I told her she was to cute to be a truck driver, I would worry about who was accosting her in what god for saken truck stop in middle of no where USA and she just couldn’t do that to me. Instead she did auto body collision and repair at a specialty school out in PA.

She is gorgeous.

By: bakugan brawlers

bakugan brawlers — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 19:25:08 +0000

By and large I don’t post on web sites, but I would just like to mention that this article really forced me to do so! Thank you for your perceptive article.

By: Tomboy as a child

Tomboy as a child — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 04:25:38 +0000

So I was googling something entirely different, and I saw a link to this post. I am happy that I found it, because I can really relate to your daughter! I was the same way, and you should be really proud of her for standing out.

Your writing style is insightful and intelligent, and I think I’ll have to check your blog from time to time now.

Again, be happy that you have such a precocious daughter!

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:45:39 +0000

Hayden: thanks for your insights. I’ve considered that. I just want her to be happy. That’s my only goal as a parent–to teach her what she needs to know in order to have a happy life. If she grows up and decides she’s a boy or a tom boy or something else, I’m totally okay with it. Right now, she’s a little too young to know for sure. She likes nail polish and makeup, which throws me off a bit. But some “boys” like those things, too.

By: Hayden

Hayden — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 06:52:41 +0000

What an awesome kid.
To be honest with you, I hope you’re not surprised if later in life she comes out to you as transgendered.
What you’re describing is my childhood in a nutshell.

I was born female-bodied, but I have, from an extremely early age, known I was a boy.

Kudos to you for being an awesome mom and not doing the typical shit mother’s tend to do.
AKA the whole “BUT YOU’RE A GIRL AND YOU’LL WEAR THE DRESS BECAUSE I SAY SO” thing.

By: Stacey

Stacey — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 22:02:18 +0000

My daughter is the same way. She is 7 and really wishes she were a boy. I try to point out how great it is being a girl and how much fun we have when it’s “just us girls”. I don’t want her to hate on herself for being a girl. I let her pick out her own outfits. No pink, nothing girly and definately no dresses. She wore a blue polo and tan pants to her Kindergarten grad. Looked kinda school uniformish but it worked.

By: Nando

Nando — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:10:18 +0000

I love you! And I can’t wait to meet that AWESOME unique little girl of yours that is paving the way for us all!

By: amywithlemon

amywithlemon — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:45:50 +0000

This made me smile so MUCH.

First the picture- she’s adorable.

Secondly- I’d love to let you chat with MY mother!

When I was in kindergarten, I was lucky enough to have a mom like you, and a teacher that recognised it was “no big deal” when I went through the same thing. I went so far as to rename myself “Andrew”. I learned how to spell it, and wrote it on top of all my papers- I also refused to bring home my report card (all A’s!) until my teacher wrote “Andrew” on it.

Fast forward 26 years later, and I’m happily married to a great man and we have two great kids as well! I’m actively involved in gay rights with PFLAG (parents, friends/family of lesbians and gays). I was never confused about my gender- I was just appreciative that ‘boy’ things were more fun- but, I have a tender heart towards those who are transgender. Gender identity is much more fluid than most people realise. Kudos for your little girl being herself- and kudos to you for appreciating her no matter who she is!

By: smalltowngirl

smalltowngirl — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:07:19 +0000

This story brightened my afternoon. What a great read. Your daughter sounds like an amazing little person, and I’m so glad you shared your story with us. You sound like a great mom.

Cheers,
smalltowngirl

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:02:38 +0000

How awesome! You are such a wonderful mommy for being so understanding! What a cute girl! She looks so happy