Comments on: 5 Reasons to Stay Married

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 02:33:50 +0000

I guess, not all marriages are perfect. If love ends, you have 2 choices: to leave or to stay. Leaving is the easiest I think, because you think about the moment. but if you think better, more problems will came, if you have kids. When you leave that guy, he will end up with another person, perhaps with kids also. Well, to me thinking that I have to take the risk to see the quality of that woman is scary, imaging my son sharing time with other person and kids…. that is not going to work, specially when they are very young. So thinking about what can happen after, you better stay in a boring marriage, but my son or daoughter will have just one father, one mother, and one home. In thins case, as adults, you will have to pull up with the situation and make your happy moments somewhere else. Life is not just your suppose, it is your work, friends. So problems will always be there. But which ones are you going to be able to put up with? that the question you have to make to yourself.

By: Shifty

Shifty — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:17:20 +0000

I don’t think it is your place to do that. My ex cheated on me even before I meet her. She is a loving person and is a giver. She puts herself second all the time. But before I meet her, her ex cheated on her, she found out and left him. Her mom is bipolar and her dad was never really there for her as she grew up. She has low self-confidence and is (in my opinion) lacking emotional intelligence. She meet this guy already in a relationship, he was overseas and she got interested very quickly. We meet she was in love, we were in love, and she would tell me, Shifty I have never been treated as well as you have treated me. Even with that she kept contact with him for all 5 years. They meet maybe twice before we moved close to him because of my work.

Now, from my research she seems to be following the “single women married men syndrome” where she can only be happy if he is happy. It destroys her self esteem and her happiness.

Your two questions should be why did I get close and interested too him and
what are my intentions if they divorce.

Like i would like to tell my ex, your attracted to men who cheat, just like your dad.(I was not her type when we meet) And I am not perfect either. Just trying to be an adult.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 04:15:32 +0000

Good Luck on that one. After 20 yrs of being a slave to a selfish, nasty old man I’ve gotten pardoned, it’s called freedom. I feel satisfaction in knowing I deserve being treated with respect & won’t settle for less hope u smarten up & do the same

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 04:02:05 +0000

Doesn’t sound like the communication was too good. If people are on their 2nd marriage & haven’t worked out their issues they repeat them. Sounds like you need counselling if he’s willing or go yourself. Life is too short to live in misery. If you’ve done your best to resolve your marital problems it will be easier to walk away

By: Living LA

Living LA — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 11:07:52 +0000

Firstly you need to come clean with your wife.

By: Ifeoma

Ifeoma — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 21:27:15 +0000

I got married jan. 2011 and put to bed in august. When i was preg my husband slep wit me mayb once in 2wk. He was nt like this wen we dated for 6 yrs before the marriage. Since i gave birth to my baby i now beg for love making. I just feel the marriage is too young for this. All i think of everyday is to have extramarital affair. I ve not done dis b4 cos he disvirgin me. Please what do i do? Am just regretting this marriage

By: D

Wed, 24 Aug 2011 06:00:25 +0000

there are four reasons to me….my four children….I stayed in the marriage for my children…of curse I want out but he wont let me take my children his mother will help with attorneys I dont have that….I cant live without them…One is in the airforce one is in college I got two left youngest is 8 so ten more years to go and I guess that is when I will be free

By: Dakota

Dakota — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 21:25:53 +0000

I am a Christian to, deeply involved in church. Yet I Wonder, WHY I AM MARRIED TO THIS
WOMAN.
I Don’t know her anymore. Its a fuss and arguments all the time, and everything is a mess. My house is a Wreck, She hasn’t cleaned
in years.
I work, she refuses to get a job. We barely make ends meet. Yet she
Wants & needs this & that.
I’ve been Sick twice, and both times she didn’t take care of me.
Went thru Chemotherapy for a year, and she Never even went to the doctor with me.
I’m at my wits end, and then in walks a young Lady. We became friends at first, and it was a year before we became involved. After 5 months she has sent me back to a house that isn’t a home. We still text ever day, but its only a occasional hello in public. We still care for each other, that is obvious.
So the dilemma is, Why am I staying here? There is no Love, Support, Compassion or Rest from the Relentless Ridicule. The wife knows who the other Lady is, but I’ve never owned up to anything.
We have no children, but we do take care of kids at church. And that is the ONLY REASON WE STAY TOGETHER.
This is getting Hopeless. Even or Pastor says I should get a divorce.
The wife hinted it to him, but never told him the full story. Of course he came and asked me.
The young Lady isn’t a gold digger, for this mine is empty. She works two job and goes to college. But she is also half my age,
I truly wonder if age is a factor. She doesn’t act like it is.
Anyway, what’s your input?
This is, I guess Giving Up after 18 yrs of wondering Why! !!

By: walkie74

walkie74 — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 05:15:00 +0000

Here’s the problem–in order to do it right, *both* spouses have to do it. A lot of the comments on here are from spouses who have been ready and willing to serve, but they’re getting nothing back. God Himself won’t stand for that. Mutual service is what truly blesses a marriage, not just one sidedness.

By: Hiding it

Hiding it — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 19:00:06 +0000

I have been with a man for a year…and I’m the other woman. He has confided in me that he has cheated on her before.They got married very young and have since grown apart. He says he stays because of the children. How do I make him see that this isn’t necessairly the best idea? Do I feel bad for being the other woman…definitely yes. It wasn’t something that was planned…we were co-workers first, then became friends and it grew from there. But I feel for her as well. He doesn’t have a commitment to the marriage anymore but won’t ask for a divorce -1 because of the kids and -2 because he says she’s a good person and hasn’t done anything mean to him. She’s caught him cheating before and still stays with him. They’ve tried couples and individual counselling and nothing has worked. She knows who I am because she caught us out at a restaurant. They both deserve more than a loveless marriage and the children deserve two happy parents instead of two unhappy parents. Is there anything I can do to help them see that staying together isn’t necessairly the best option?