Comments on: 33 Surefire Ways to Screw Up Your Marriage

By: Henry

Henry — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:33:15 +0000

I am so pleased to see this list. We are all so very much more human together in this struggle called life and love. There is a lot to keep learning day by day and I’ve been married 33 years and am 63 years old!

By: Lady

Lady — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 21:15:39 +0000

Reading this list just made me feel wonderful! I didn’t recognize a single behavior on the list. I read some of them to my husband, and we both thanked each other for never doing these things to each other.

Thank you so much for this blog.

By: Missa-chan

Missa-chan — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 04:11:48 +0000

To those people who thought this list put the blame on the man, that is entirely nor the case. As I read this list I checked off some of the things that I do that I have vowed to change.
Great discussion as well on here!
Awesome blogs, I feel like I have learned a lot and am more prepared for my future!

By: SereneChaos

SereneChaos — Fri, 15 May 2009 21:09:42 +0000

Just to throw in my own 2 cents here. I read this list (all of it comments too) out loud to my husband as I was going down it. There were several laughs and several O.o involved. (really good list, loved the listen comment)

Something that was said, and I have seen over and over again or heard is the situation dealing with porn. (various forum boards, websites, and plain word of mouth)

When porn completely replaces your sexual relationship that is about the only time it should appear on any list.

Porn is not evil, masturbation is not evil and just because someone likes porn or strip clubs does not mean they suddenly have no interest in you or are going to run off with someone that has a body to die for. Your partner is with you because they choose you and you choose them. I really wish women would get out of the mentality that men are so shallow that they will drop you the very next time a nice ass walks by.

*yes I had to learn that lesson myself too, I am a woman.. I still get insecure moments but now I make sure to take a reality check*

By: FRUSTRATED

FRUSTRATED — Thu, 14 May 2009 13:41:33 +0000

I have done some of these and need to work to stop doing others. My spouse has done and currently several on the list. While reading the points I thought someone was writing about my marriage.
I would add:
42. You are not interested in spending quality time (movies, dinner,show, etc.) with your spouse. “You just don’t have time for that.”
43. 90% of the time when friends ask you to do something you say yes while 90% of the time when your spouse asks you to do something you say no.
44. You view your spouse as an income source.
45. Sex is allowed a couple of times per year and is restricted to one position.
46. You are quick to be critical of your spouse but are shocked and angry if your spouse points out the same faults in you.
47. You like to brag how strong willed you are as if this is a great trait. Everyone else calls it for what it is STUBBORN.
48. When you suggest sex your spouse claims they are being pressured.
49. When your spouse talks to you about sex and the lack thereof you say “I just don’t think like that.”

By: hockeyaddicts

hockeyaddicts — Wed, 13 May 2009 20:17:00 +0000

Good List.

By: Richard

Richard — Wed, 13 May 2009 16:20:36 +0000

Masturbating in to her clean underwear and bras.

By: mike

mike — Tue, 12 May 2009 21:57:52 +0000

great list seen alot to do with me and my soon to be ex

By: Psychologist

Psychologist — Fri, 08 May 2009 19:08:08 +0000

This is great. I printed this list

By: Carl Hindy, Ph.D.

Carl Hindy, Ph.D. — Thu, 07 May 2009 13:44:17 +0000

This is a great list! It’s so true. For those of us who are married or in a relationship, we need to put this list up on the fridge, or have it pop-up on our screen saver … so that, somehow, we keep these things in mind. I’ve been doing marriage counseling for over twenty years and will be handing out copies! It’s so easy to get into patterns in relationships which in-validate one another, push one another away, interrupt communication, undermine trust, and erode intimacy. We need to make deliberate efforts to counter these over-learned habits.

Carl Hindy, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Marriage Counseling in Nashua NH