Top 10 Signs You are Stuck in a Bad Marriage

1.    Your spouse arrives home two hours late. You are not mad or relieved. Rather, you are disappointed. You’d hoped he or she wouldn’t come home at all.

2.    You fantasize about discovering your spouse cheating. That way you won’t feel guilty about asking for a divorce.

3.    You are having an emotional affair with a member of the opposite sex.

4.    You gripe about your spouse to a member of the opposite sex, who gripes about his/her spouse to you.

5.    You don’t remember the last time you had sex, and you’d like to keep it that way.

6.    If you won a free vacation for two to Fiji, you’d take your mother with you instead of your spouse.

7.    You stay up late at night watching Judge Judy reruns so your spouse will definitely be asleep by the time you crawl into bed.

8.    You have to drink two glasses of wine before you can bring yourself to small talk with your spouse.

9.    If you won the lottery, you’re not sure whether or not you would tell your spouse. You might just take the money and run.

10.    You can’t remember why you got married. You suspect you might have been brain washed.

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  • Alice August 29, 2013, 5:29 am

    8 of 10. I envy a friend who has a long distance relationship. They only have to see each other on weekends.

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  • dave December 1, 2013, 1:35 pm

    I have a duty to my kids to be there for them. Can’t. Leave them with such a negative person. But once they can make it, I be damn if I spend another minute with her.

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  • Lord Reptilies March 13, 2014, 12:39 pm

    I really do love the person I married, but we don’t get along, and things get worse even though I keep hoping they’ll improve. I can’t be myself around her like I could at the start of the relationship, and have gotten to the point where I don’t care if we’re intimate anymore. The problem: She was nowhere else to go. No family that can take her in. Sometimes I feel like I’m in a living hell with no escape.

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  • Hahahehe March 28, 2014, 8:14 pm

    My huabands sex addiction haa turned me into a prude and I can’t stand the sight of him. He’s a gross pervert and I hate myself for staying in denial soooo long about the fake I married. I refused to see the flags and I have paid. Pity for us both
    is all I have left, no hope, no future. 58 years old married 25 years next Monday.

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  • cmor June 13, 2014, 3:20 pm

    Why do people really stay and waste their life. I care about someone in a really bad arranged marriage. He is miserable, no sex, no companionship at all. He says he stays because of his religion and children. But he is very unhappy. I don\’t get why people waste their and their spouses lives?

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  • Amy October 25, 2014, 2:45 pm

    I really wasted my life for witch I hate myself for, but is to late for me. Maybe if some else reads this they will take heart and leave there bad marriage. I’m 67 and don’t really care any more my life is over.
    My marriage went down hill the day after our wedding. We did have sex once which was cumbersome because we were both virgins. I wrote that off and figured it will change in time. Was I wrong because my husband told me that sex was disgusting, smelly, gross, had no meaning, and couldn’t believe that two people actually did this to each other. He said he has chosen to not ever let that it happen again, meaning he never wanted sex again with me or any one else. And that he was moving to the basement and he didn’t want to be bothered by me or any one else and also he was going on the night shift so he didn’t have to sleep with me. I can’t tell you how upset I was, my blood boiled, I screamed and hollered till I was horse. But it made no difference to him, all he said was go hell leave me alone and never talk to me. That was 47 years ago and its still going on, after all these years you would think things would heal. In actuality I’ve been with out sex and not ever married. But I’ve had lots of friends but never had a man love or take care of me. No love life, no kids or grand kids those are the things I wanted. He never had any friends nor was he gay or have some sexy little whore on the side, he just worked and stayed away from me and everybody.
    A word to the wise including those who may not the wisest folks get help, or leave the marriage. There is some body out there for everyone, you may have to work at it. If you don’t succeed keep trying. All men are kind a different, they are not like us gals, they are complicated and don’t understand us. Again if your marriage is in the shiter get help or get out before its to late and all your hopes and dreams are destroyed. Don’t ever follow the misery I’ve been through, its not worth it.

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    • debbie January 16, 2015, 5:37 pm

      Bless youre heart my darling how cruel can men be im 51 next month ive been married twice i had 3 beautiful boys with my first husband who abused me mentally & physically maybe because he used to sleep around for what reason i dont know ive lost my own home struggled through life bringing up my boys but broken inside he passed away at the age of 40 i got out of the marriage & was on my own for 8 years i found it hard but i learnt to drive n got my confidence back i used to take my boys everywhere we moved due to my ex husbands extra marital affairs there were many usually women friends of mine anyway we settled into our home n things were hard but ok n i got chatting to the neighbours ect n one day i noticed the guy nxt door n omg he was all man big butch body builder i fell in love i kept my distance even tho i fancied the pants off him any way we got chatting n we got on well we didnt have sex for 2 years as i found it so hard to trust when we did it was not all that as he didnt have much experiance in that department but any way time went on i was blissfully happy he was gentle kind so i though we got engaged n then married i bought a house he came in with nothing but the clothes he stood i put the house in joint names this is where the fun begins we have a row over him turning so cold no sex nothing n& the abuse started mental abuse he would scream at me to get a job he would smash the house up because i asked for a hug when ive had a bad day even when im sobbing he dosent care just tell me im pathetic and says nobody would want me ive been married to him 26 years this october we have both been to councerling but it just make him worse he wont fix the things that need doing i have to sleep with him if i dont he gets angry i mean just in the same bed my heat breaks to be loved ive been abused all my life by my dad and 2 husbands so now i just do my thing i do what i want to do i please me i buy myself nice things to self preserve i have my 3 beautiful cats who.i adore he is great with them and will do anything for them its just me he hates why i dont know we barley speak to each other now as the uears go by we are like strangers drifting slowly away i feel heartbroken as i thought this man loved me so much ive never felt so happy but my darling it just goes to show you can live n love but feel so much heartache much love to you xxxx

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  • Shannon March 14, 2015, 4:28 pm

    I can’t believe I’ve wasted 12 yrs of my life w this man We have a son with severe autism 10 yrs old and he’s used my past against me to make me afraid to control me and I guess its my own fault I just need someone to guarantee I won’t lose my son and show me the way out Please help! No family.

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  • Kashari June 24, 2015, 10:32 pm

    My husband is about as exciting as watching paint dry. I still love him but he has this nonchalant attitude about everything except stocks and his job. He doesn’t listen anymore and frankly I’m tired of trying to make him. Oh and every time I bring up the issues we are having he brushes them under the rug. That rug is now 30 ft high off of the floor with issues. I should have listened to my younger self and never said I do.

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  • Tamara June 30, 2015, 4:01 pm

    I got stuck 2weeks into my relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend… I didn’t even know we were boyfriend and girlfriend …. I thought we were just dating … Then I got slapped with “meet the family” scenario and it all went down hill from there… So your his girlfriend
    Uh… Yeah
    Next thing you know his family emotionally pushes me to get married after a year of dating and here I am banging my head into a wall asking god why
    I could of been better elsewhere

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