Comments on: The Myth of the Supermom

By: Jolie Schwoyer

Jolie Schwoyer — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 17:28:37 +0000

I like this thought. I visited your website for the first time and simply been your supporter. Keep posting as I am gonna come to read it everyday!!

By: Lisa S.

Lisa S. — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:07:36 +0000

Hi Alisa – I serendiptiously found your blog yesterday and have since then forwarded it to 10 of my friends. My husband and I have two little girls (who are both doing FABULOUS in daycare by the way). We have been 1″ from divorce since the second one came home from the hospital four months ago. Your insightful entries have given me new hope. All of my friends are either divorced or have perfect marriages so I feel very much in a gray area. However, I took your wise information home last night and my husband and I had a very intense, much needed discussion about what we both aren’t getting out of the relationship and our future together. I feel like we may now have a chance. You make the trial and tribulations of marriage, parenting and life make sense. Keep up the great work!

By: Flossyjane

Flossyjane — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:19:30 +0000

Amen! (to this blog!)
I love my children, all 3, with all my heart and soul. I will always love them no matter what but it doesn’t mean I like them every minute of every day. I’m sure they feel the same way about me. lol

By: April

April — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:52:31 +0000

I tell my fiance all the time that the one thing kids are good at is sucking up our life force. And I really hate it when someone points out something that their one month old did. I don’t get the whole mushy thing with babies either. They really don’t do anything but poop and eat. I was so glad when our son got to the age of two and could actually play and talk some. He’s so much cooler now. lol

By: SereneChaos

SereneChaos — Wed, 20 May 2009 12:59:41 +0000

I am not a parent yet, but I am a godparent very actively involved with my god kids.
For the last 6 months my goddaughter has been coming to my house after school mon-thurs (friday she gets a break) so she can get help with her school work. I know without a doubt when my husband and I become parents, I will be at home for a short period of time, then it is back to work. We WANT our children to go through daycare. As someone that has worked in the daycare field I can tell you it is very important.

I have worked with kids that never went to daycare and others that were home schooled. Unless their parents worked really hard at getting them socialized they had issues when they started school. (unable to deal with groups and lack of one-on-one attention)

There is such a thing as a ‘super’ parent. You are all fine examples of what ‘I’ would call a Super parent. No one is a perfect parent, there will always be mistakes and oops along the way. What makes a super parent is one that is involved with their children, and you don’t have to be a stay at home parent for that to be the case.

I worked in a youth center with children 5-13 every day and loved it and plan on going back after my husband and I relocate to his next base. (hes USAF) I can say from a child care providers experience, there are benefits to it.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:33:31 +0000

I do all of the things that make you feel like a bad mom, but I don’t feel bad about them. Does that make me a really, really bad mom?

My own 4-year-old just quoted that same Chuck E. Cheese commercial the other day. Whoever those ad guys were who came up with that thing, they are marketing geniuses.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 07 May 2009 21:26:57 +0000

I’m a working Mom. My kids have been in day care since they were 3 months. My attitude towards the “is it good for them? is it bad for them?” is – I don’t care. I like to work and I don’t really think the day care thing matters.

This is our reality. It’s not a bad reality. We are not starving, we have health insurance, my husband and I are still married, we live in an okay home in a nice city, we have friends. My kids will have some things better than I did growing up, some things worse. They will adapt and survive and be messed up and seek therapy and get over it and be stronger. Just like I did.

Oh, did I mention I love them to death, too? It’s just life.

By: Elliemae

Elliemae — Tue, 05 May 2009 18:59:37 +0000

My son has been in daycare since he was 3 months old. He is turning 3 in June and is very polite, well mannered, is learning to share and listens most of the time. I think daycare has been the best thing for him!! He is in a home daycare with only 5 other children, but I love everything that he has learned and experienced with daycare. I do wish that sometimes I could cut my hours, but I do admit that I am a better Mom because I work. I still hope to find the perfect balance between work and home, but daycare for my son and work for me have been a blessing!

By: Jill U Adams

Jill U Adams — Mon, 04 May 2009 12:05:09 +0000

“But even if I were independently wealthy, I would still work. Work, for me, is both a financial and emotional necessity.”

Yep. Couldn’t bring myself to say that in my first mothers group, but I knew. I knew when my husband went back to work and I was jealous. I knew when I hauled myself to a work meeting while still on maternity leave. I had absolutely nothing to contribute, but I was thrilled to visiting my old self.

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 01 May 2009 01:31:57 +0000

Thanks so much for this. I’m actually a work from home mom and I do have my kids all day, BUT I say no — a lot. I also say, “in a minute” a lot. And apparently, based on my son’s current desire to have a desk in my office, I work a bit too much. He informed me today that he wants to work like I do on his computer. Sigh.

I can’t and don’t want to be a supermom. I’m so glad there are others out there like me .

And, um, he loves CARS, but he’s 3 1/2 .