Comments on: How to face your biggest fear: part 2

By: Cho Cho

Cho Cho — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 14:46:25 +0000

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you to help me overcome my fear to open that mail.

By: Cho Cho

Cho Cho — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 14:45:12 +0000

Hi Alisa,
I found your blog through Google when I typed ‘how to face your fears’ when I was really afraid to open a certain e-mail. After reading your 2 parts article, I opened that e-mail immediately. I just blinded myself and jumped (according to your article). The e-mail was as I expected it to be (one of the three scenarios in my mind, ha ha). It is very rational. I was afraid to open it for no reason at all.

By: Lynette

Lynette — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 01:01:31 +0000

Thanks for this Ailsa. I have also suffered panic attacks most of my life and have recently come out of a complete shutdown in my life. I honestly can’t account for most of the last decade – not because of any form of coma, substance abuse or mental illness – but because I simply didn’t do anything – not even cook for myself – because I was paralysed by a fear of failure/ rejection / what if?

Two books I would recommend reading are Susan Jeffers’ “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”;

http://www.susanjeffers.com/home/index.cfm

and Brian Germain “Transcending Fear”;

http://www.transcendingfear.com/

Of course I still have great difficulty putting much of this into practice and struggle daily in finding my own heart, mind and motivation. Thank you for your preceding article highlighting this as a common phenomenon which can be overcome!

By: Julia Mitchell

Julia Mitchell — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 23:48:24 +0000

I also suffer from panic attacks and i can manage it by deep and slow breathing. i also practice meditation.. ,

By: Tracy

Tracy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 02:05:26 +0000

“My fear of failure is worse than failure itself. I’d rather have the courage to try and eventually fail than to not have the courage to try at all.”

It’s taken me a long time to internalize this, and sometimes I do slip, but my life has been 100% happier.

Thanks for the great reminder post!

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By: Eve

Eve — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 12:30:40 +0000

Alisa, once again you have succeeded in being my Fairy Godmother of Advice. This is one of my biggest issues: facing my fears. I have suffered from Panic Disorder for many years, and also have PTSD. Aside from any medical treatments that patients like me may receive, it is essential that we do our part to take control of that fear and be committed to change.Failure is inevitable in life, so if you fail, who cares? Its not the end of the world.
Thanks for the inspiration!

By: Amy L. Musgrave

Amy L. Musgrave — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:03:26 +0000

Thank you again Alisa for your wonderful insight. I know from past experiences that once I went and did it, it was not nearly as bad as I thought. This time I a literally frozen with fear. So my goal tomorrow is to contact my counselor and see if she will help me financially with school. I have too, I have to apply for school soon and I just keep putting it off. I have a list of people to contact really, but she is the one I am scared of the most, like she controls my dream and can take it away. Tomorrow is the day to contact her. Thank you.

Amy

By: Sam Greengard

Sam Greengard — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 22:32:34 +0000

You’re absolutely right when you say the fear of failure is worse then failure itself. In fact, those who make no attempt to climb the mountain, run the marathon, or tackle a memoir (despite wanting to) are the only ones who have failed. They’ve given up on their dream and life before they ever got started. And, yes, it’s important to put failure into perspective. A child doesn’t stop walking because she falls down a few times. An inventor doesn’t pack it in because he can’t get the invention right the first time. Failure can serve as the impetus for learning and progress. In fact, it can lead to amazing breakthroughs that wouldn’t be possible for someone “playing it safe.” Failure only results when a person doesn’t learn from mistakes and when a person is held hostage by fear. All the credit in the world to you for climbing as far as you could on Half Dome. That was brave and you were a huge success because you confronted your fear and you pushed as far as you could. Knowing when to stop as well as one’s limits is also important. Great message! Another great column!