What every man wants for the holidays
I planned to list 50 items that all men consider must-haves this holiday season. And I wasn’t just going to make them up on the fly either. After all, if it were up to me, I’d say every man needs a copy of Twilight in his stocking, whether he wants it or not.
What every man wants this holiday season
No, I was going to tell you what men want because I was going to ask them myself. And did I ask. I posted a note to my Facebook page, saying: “Need guy help! Men: what do you wish your S/O knew you wanted for Christmas?”
I got two responses. One guy said he liked baseball caps, and always appreciates a new one. The other was from one of my husband’s buddies. He suggested that all men want Florida State memorabilia. My husband is a diehard Gators fan. The Gators play for the University of Florida, in case you don’t already know this. And Florida and Florida State fans absolutely hate each other.
Thanks John, that was helpful.
I have 215 Facebook friends and that’s all I get? Come on people.
I do realize that three quarters of my Facebook friends are women, but still.
Undaunted, I also sent an urgent Tweet, asking for help. I got bumpkis.
I posted a question to Linked In, too. I got one response. It was from a guy who said that his wife would never ever buy him a decent gift, so why was I trying to blog about this anyway?
Gee, thanks.
So, ladies, this is what I’ve determined: Your man wants absolutely nothing.
Still, if your guy is like my guy and he’s worked really hard to make you happy, then I think he deserves a little something, whether he wants it or not. I talked this over with my husband. What follows are gifts he thinks your man would like for the holidays, and none of them cost a cent.
- A week off from housework.
- 25 BJ coupons. Whenever he wants one, he cashes it in.
- Dressing up as a Catholic schoolgirl (you, not him).
That’s all he could come up with. Apparently he doesn’t want much for the holidays, either. I hope he’ll be happy with the Cheese of the Month Club because that’s what he’s getting.
In the end, finding the perfect gift for your man comes down to this: knowing him and making him feel loved and important. Men are pretty simple. They really are. Think about what he likes and surprise him with something thoughtful, something that says, “Wow I love you. I am so happy you are in my life.”
For my husband that’s 25 BJ coupons. For yours it might be the perfect cuff link, a gallon of that one-of-a kind ice cream he adores (like Grader’s brand in Cincinnati), or simply having you organize a romantic night out just for the two of you (no kids).
What are you getting your man for the holidays? What do you wish he would get you? Leave a comment.
Coming tomorrow: A man who won the lottery tells us what we all want to know: is money the key to happiness. And he’s giving away a free MacBook Pro. Gotta love that.
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December 9th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
BEER. BEER. BEER. Find out your man’s favorite overpriced case and splurge. I know this will make my man very happy!!
December 9th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Deep tissue massage always is nice. Or passes to the local cart racing track if your guy is into that. (Even if he doesn’t think he is… most guys like to drive fast and he will probably have a blast.)
December 9th, 2008 at 1:30 pm
The problem is I can not yet afford my taste nor my husband’s! If price were no object, he’d have a new truck and I’d have every piece of jewelry that I fall in love with when I see it. The problem is he doesn’t really give any clues. Now I could just ask but I do try to go for the element of surprise. Still, I have a lead on something for this year. Next year, I am going to try to do what one coach I know suggested long ago – keep a running list. Whenever you see your loved one lingering over something, talking A LOT about something, write it down and try to get it for them. If all else fails, then in 2010, I’ll just come on out and say, after 9 years of marriage, I’m clueless. Make a list!”
December 9th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
Honestly?
You get more points in a relationship for giving a gift ONLY YOU would know your partner would like than you do from presenting the actual gift.
Your husband might be all talk about suggesting outfits and BJ coupons because lord knows you’re a tigress and he’s probably all worn out anyhow.
One of the aspects of a relationship that many people struggle with is the “hit list” of things one partner enjoys but the other hates. Prefer a tracheal implant to watching Naascar? Buy your partner tickets and actually GO to the race. Hate football but hubby loves it? Go online, do a little research, and force yourself to sit through the entire game and make a few interested comments.
Then again, you might be lucky and have one of those partners who’s been thinking about that cucumber scrub of yours and would like nothing better than to spend a spa day with you.
The present that will mean most to your guy is very possibly the present you can’t consider because you think it’s a waste of time/money/disgusting/stupid/useless.
Perhaps this will help: When you give a present that involves a sacrifice on your part, your partner will feel a little guilty about how much you’ve truly given and appreciate it all the more! Ladies like guilt trips, right? hehe. Just playin.
Love the blog!
Seth
December 9th, 2008 at 2:00 pm
One year, after giving my husband yet another “practical” gift — tools, I think, and seeing his reaction, “that’s nice,” I asked him what he thought was a good gift. He said that something that reflected his interests — books. So even though I don’t think of a book as a very romantic gift, picking out a book(s) on a subject matter that I know interests him absolutely delights him. And he reads everything I’ve ever gotten for him.
Don’t know if that helps, but it’s all I’ve got.
December 9th, 2008 at 2:52 pm
I do want to add that my husband DID mention “beer” as the ultimate guy gift, but that seemed like cheating to me, as I sometimes buy it for him anyway. I WAS gonna get him some Stone 777 to age about a year ago (was planning on hiding it) and now it’s a year later and I still haven’t gotten and hidden the stuff. It’s probably impossible to find, too, except for EBay. Thus Cheese of the Month.
December 9th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
My 15th wedding anniversary is Dec. 26, so I’m thinking 15 years of bliss with me is enough. Just in case, I think I’ll follow Beth’s expensive beer advice too.
Tina
December 10th, 2008 at 9:38 am
I hesitate to speak for anyone but myself. But since I do fit into the category of “every man” I have to say I want more than anything to find my S/O in the first place. So much is written about how to fix or save marriages. If married people would only realize how hard it is to merely find someone that you can agree with in the first place, perhaps they would spend more time enjoying each other and last time trying to fix each other. This is always a dark time of the year for me, having been born 5 days before Christmas and the day after my matriarchal grandmothers birthday. Many people get depressed during the holidays, and I’m one of them. Loneliness is hard enough to endure, but all the cheer and “holiday spirit” makes it worse.
So for the holidays, this man would love to find love. In my world, beer is way over-rated. And I don’t use coupons.
March 18th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
Too bad Rob. You missed out because I would buy you a case of Sam Adams Guiness, give you a bj & love you for a long, long time. Koo-Koo-Kachoo