Comments on: My husband is a dreamboat, and yours can be, too! http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:39:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Honestone http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-10139 Honestone Fri, 02 Jul 2010 14:54:06 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-10139 WOW, this has been going on since 2008??? OMG, I wonder why?? I will admit it is interesting to read. Few comments I would love 2 make. What does it matter what 2 people do behind closed doors ? After I read a few of the comments, I can see that people are mad here, and when someone makes a comment, even about their own experiences (people comment back, like they own the site or they manage it or are they just pissed off, that things work for others and not for them?) I wonder why? I am new to this, (site anyways), I have been giving advice and for many years reading tarot for people/friends and I really think that as long as no one is hurting some1 else, WTH, post away, tell us your secrets/lies tell us what makes it work for you, and don't be shy! And, re: screen names, isn't it up to the individual to choose his/her name, we have no right to judge someone by there name on here, OMG, only God Can Judge) not trying to be religous here, just my opinion. And doing some research it seems that this type of sexual (pleasure)man/woman has been going on for centuries. I just hope that some1 doesn't hurt another person), meaning definately approach your partner before you go get the paddle out, there are adults here that were abused, with a paddle/brush or board of education so to speak, from years ago, I remember that one! But, if no one gets hurt emotional or physically why does it matter? and Because it works for some, it could create divorce for others, while researching this subject, the wife on the other hand was the submissive one and her hubby the one spanking and he did not talk b4 the action, and come to find out, she used to be tied to a chair as a child and spanked repeatedly her younger years until she got big enough to say enough is enough and then when her hubby did that (big flash back came), she slapped him across the face, then walked out the door! I guess it just has to be something that both parties wants, and all reseach has come to religous beliefs, i found that interesting. PS, I think a new topic should be presented and maybe a continuation of this one, but going on since 2008, wow...Must of been one of the best of blogs or something. PSS, So, If U R the 1 that was spanked, Did U REALLY like it...???? WOW, this has been going on since 2008???
OMG, I wonder why?? I will admit it is interesting to read.

Few comments I would love 2 make. What does it matter what 2 people do behind closed doors ?
After I read a few of the comments, I can see that people are mad here, and when someone makes a comment, even about their own experiences (people comment back, like they own the site or they manage it or are they just pissed off, that things work for others and not for them?) I wonder why? I am new to this, (site anyways), I have been giving advice and for many years reading tarot for people/friends and I really think that as long as no one is hurting some1 else, WTH, post away, tell us your secrets/lies tell us what makes it work for you, and don’t be shy!
And, re: screen names, isn’t it up to the individual to choose his/her name, we have no right to judge someone by there name on here, OMG, only God Can Judge) not trying to be religous here, just my opinion. And doing some research it seems that this type of sexual (pleasure)man/woman has been going on for centuries. I just hope that some1 doesn’t hurt another person), meaning definately approach your partner before you go get the paddle out, there are adults here that were abused, with a paddle/brush or board of education so to speak, from years ago, I remember that one!
But, if no one gets hurt emotional or physically why does it matter? and Because it works for some, it could create divorce for others, while researching this subject, the wife on the other hand was the submissive one and her hubby the one spanking and he did not talk b4 the action, and come to find out, she used to be tied to a chair as a child and spanked repeatedly her younger years until she got big enough to say enough is enough and then when her hubby did that (big flash back came), she slapped him across the face, then walked out the door!
I guess it just has to be something that both parties wants, and all reseach has come to religous beliefs, i found that interesting.
PS, I think a new topic should be presented and maybe a continuation of this one, but going on since 2008, wow…Must of been one of the best of blogs or something.

PSS, So, If U R the 1 that was spanked, Did U REALLY like it…????

]]> By: Blondie http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-10134 Blondie Fri, 02 Jul 2010 12:06:52 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-10134 I stand by my comments Vicki and obviously we move on different wavelengths. I don't know why you think that I think I am the expert. Far from it. Yes the name Blondie does seem feminine but I was always called that as a child so it stuck. I don't think you own this site and there should be room for different respectful comments. I simply find it bizarre that someone would beat their spouse for their faults. I was trying to find out more. The sex and the discipline is a contradiction as I see it. I stand by my comments Vicki and obviously we move on different wavelengths. I don’t know why you think that I think I am the expert. Far from it. Yes the name Blondie does seem feminine but I was always called that as a child so it stuck. I don’t think you own this site and there should be room for different respectful comments. I simply find it bizarre that someone would beat their spouse for their faults. I was trying to find out more. The sex and the discipline is a contradiction as I see it.

]]> By: Jimmy http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-10058 Jimmy Wed, 30 Jun 2010 04:58:25 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-10058 How do I go about introducing this idea to my wife. I would love to have a fresh start in our relationship. It would be more than worth a spanking ocassionly to put the zest back in our marrige ? How do I go about introducing this idea to my wife. I would love to have a fresh start in our relationship. It would be more than worth a spanking ocassionly to put the zest back in our marrige ?

]]> By: Vicki http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-10048 Vicki Tue, 29 Jun 2010 23:43:06 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-10048 I get updates from this site and there is a lot more info to be had here than just this one page. I don't understand why Blondie seems to be parked on this subject or how he became the expert as to what is normal and okay based on his likes in the bedroom. I also think for a man who doesn't want to be "feminized" his choice of a username is very effeminate and questionable. His desire to be spanked (which is a form of domination even when mutual) is similar to other men here. He's turned on by it and no one is complaining so let's have some mutual respect and acceptance. My husband has responded favorably to spanking and I will continue as needed. I've come to be turned on by spanking my husband, the authority that comes with it, the great positive changes I've seen in our relationship and he doesn't seem to mind. He's an adult and could put his foot down and stop it but hasn't. Maybe he's had the same reaction as Blondie when he's spanked and wants to worship his wife etc. I agree that spanking etc. may not be for everyone but for our relationship, I find a good "pants down discussion" with my hairbrush, hand or paddle works nicely. Vicki vreed71@yahoo.com I get updates from this site and there is a lot more info to be had here than just this one page.
I don’t understand why Blondie seems to be parked on this subject or how he became the expert as to what is normal and okay based on his likes in the bedroom.
I also think for a man who doesn’t want to be “feminized” his choice of a username is very effeminate and questionable.
His desire to be spanked (which is a form of domination even when mutual) is similar to other men here. He’s turned on by it and no one is complaining so let’s have some mutual respect and acceptance.

My husband has responded favorably to spanking and I will continue as needed. I’ve come to be turned on by spanking my husband, the authority that comes with it, the great positive changes I’ve seen in our relationship and he doesn’t seem to mind. He’s an adult and could put his foot down and stop it but hasn’t. Maybe he’s had the same reaction as Blondie when he’s spanked and wants to worship his wife etc.

I agree that spanking etc. may not be for everyone but for our relationship, I find a good “pants down discussion” with my hairbrush, hand or paddle works nicely.
Vicki
vreed71@yahoo.com

]]> By: Blondie http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-10037 Blondie Tue, 29 Jun 2010 11:46:44 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-10037 Hmm I think it could be an answer for a small minority where the wife is frustrated and the husband may be lazy or a bit of a slob. I could never imagine my wife doing that to me in that sense. I am self regulating and do take her wishes into account. Doing that to me would be very bizarre to say the least and I could never ever imagine it happening in my marriage. Where certain men do respond who for some reason think they need it I cannot comment. I caution against putting it forward as a one size fits all which I don't think Alisa is trying to do anyway. it would not work without a husband submitting to it and there is always the danger of it being clouded by BDSM and there the whole thing would fall apart. Hmm I think it could be an answer for a small minority where the wife is frustrated and the husband may be lazy or a bit of a slob. I could never imagine my wife doing that to me in that sense. I am self regulating and do take her wishes into account. Doing that to me would be very bizarre to say the least and I could never ever imagine it happening in my marriage. Where certain men do respond who for some reason think they need it I cannot comment. I caution against putting it forward as a one size fits all which I don’t think Alisa is trying to do anyway. it would not work without a husband submitting to it and there is always the danger of it being clouded by BDSM and there the whole thing would fall apart.

]]> By: Jake http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-9971 Jake Sun, 27 Jun 2010 04:19:06 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-9971 I think most of the people replying back are missing the main message here...it is NOT about momma spanking daddy. Nobody is trying to tell the women to start dominating their husbands. The author of this article is simply showing that there are subtle ways a woman can communicate her wishes without being a witch and seems to get excellent results. In the end everybody wins, there is not a win/lose proposal but rather a different approach to changing or rather guiding your marriage into a very loving and healthy relationship. I think most of the people replying back are missing the main message here…it is NOT about momma spanking daddy. Nobody is trying to tell the women to start dominating their husbands. The author of this article is simply showing that there are subtle ways a woman can communicate her wishes without being a witch and seems to get excellent results. In the end everybody wins, there is not a win/lose proposal but rather a different approach to changing or rather guiding your marriage into a very loving and healthy relationship.
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]]> By: Pretty Pirate http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-9859 Pretty Pirate Mon, 21 Jun 2010 08:41:14 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-9859 Gracious!!! This has got to be the bizarrest thing I've ever heard of. I darn near peed my pants laughing so hard over Vicki's 2nd post - seriously. I got online though because I'm frustrated with my husband. A few months ago he had a short emotional affair, he ended it, chose to stay, go to counseling and work on things... but most of the time I feel like I'm doing all the work. He just kind'of coasts. I can totally relate to wishing God would take him home sometimes or make him love me better. I'm still in the thick of the grieving process so sometimes I feel these flashes of fury about the whole thing that I feel like beating something with a bat or ramming my truck into the garage gate - but maybe I should just whoop that man's arsnic. I don't know - couldn't it be construed as spousal abuse, what if he gets mad or doesn't like it? I can just see it now - me walloping his behind with a wooden spoon and him calling the cops to tell on me for spanking him. Or him leaving because he thinks I've gone kookoobananas. Besides, how would I explain spanking Daddy to my kids? Spanking hasn't exactly worked that great on them, although I did carry a concealed wooden spoon in the diaper bag to church today to remind my firey 4 year old not to throw another fit or run around irreverently and it seemed to work. I don't want to be feared though - I want to be adored and revered. I wish getting the love I want and need was as simple as spanking him. Gracious!!! This has got to be the bizarrest thing I’ve ever heard of. I darn near peed my pants laughing so hard over Vicki’s 2nd post – seriously. I got online though because I’m frustrated with my husband. A few months ago he had a short emotional affair, he ended it, chose to stay, go to counseling and work on things… but most of the time I feel like I’m doing all the work. He just kind’of coasts. I can totally relate to wishing God would take him home sometimes or make him love me better. I’m still in the thick of the grieving process so sometimes I feel these flashes of fury about the whole thing that I feel like beating something with a bat or ramming my truck into the garage gate – but maybe I should just whoop that man’s arsnic. I don’t know – couldn’t it be construed as spousal abuse, what if he gets mad or doesn’t like it? I can just see it now – me walloping his behind with a wooden spoon and him calling the cops to tell on me for spanking him. Or him leaving because he thinks I’ve gone kookoobananas. Besides, how would I explain spanking Daddy to my kids? Spanking hasn’t exactly worked that great on them, although I did carry a concealed wooden spoon in the diaper bag to church today to remind my firey 4 year old not to throw another fit or run around irreverently and it seemed to work. I don’t want to be feared though – I want to be adored and revered. I wish getting the love I want and need was as simple as spanking him.

]]> By: Blondie http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-9543 Blondie Fri, 11 Jun 2010 07:36:06 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-9543 I'm pleased to hear it Bikerman. I’m pleased to hear it Bikerman.

]]> By: anotherguyreader http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-9540 anotherguyreader Fri, 11 Jun 2010 06:53:30 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-9540 I certainly don't feel 'feminised' I have no inclination to wear womens clothes, I also know that my wife wouldn't ask me too because her ex was a cross dresser and she said it was a turn off. Hairy legs in stockings (Yeuk!). I have been with my wife for 18 years and we only just discovered what really turns her on, the effect it has had on me is a bonus. The things I now do for her I do because I want to, she doesn't order me around or give me a list of jobs. I have never had to ask for her permission to do anything, I do ask out of respect for her. I am a changed man but I am still a man, I'm 6ft 3in, 15 stone biker with a shaven head and a goatee beard, thats probably about as far from 'feminised' as you could possibly get. I think this is one of those things that for those who know no explanation is necessary and for those that don't know, no explanation is possible. I certainly don’t feel ‘feminised’ I have no inclination to wear womens clothes, I also know that my wife wouldn’t ask me too because her ex was a cross dresser and she said it was a turn off. Hairy legs in stockings (Yeuk!).

I have been with my wife for 18 years and we only just discovered what really turns her on, the effect it has had on me is a bonus. The things I now do for her I do because I want to, she doesn’t order me around or give me a list of jobs. I have never had to ask for her permission to do anything, I do ask out of respect for her.

I am a changed man but I am still a man, I’m 6ft 3in, 15 stone biker with a shaven head and a goatee beard, thats probably about as far from ‘feminised’ as you could possibly get. I think this is one of those things that for those who know no explanation is necessary and for those that don’t know, no explanation is possible.

]]> By: Blondie http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/my-husband-is-a-dreamboat-and-yours-can-be-too/comment-page-1/#comment-9521 Blondie Thu, 10 Jun 2010 17:14:34 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=573#comment-9521 Thats the part I don't get. Feminisation. If God made us men why be feminised? What has that got to do with anything? That is the part that freaks me out albeit it is only a small minority hopefully. Is this the outcome of being dominated outside of the bedroom? I pray to God that never happens to me. I am very careful to only wear men's clothes and take the responsibility that God gave me in the home. Hearing of this sort of thing only makes me more determined to steer clear of it. I know my wife would freak out as well if I started that. Because one likes to be spanked as a husband for sexual reason only it doesn't mean that one has to descend into feminisation. Thats the part I don’t get. Feminisation. If God made us men why be feminised? What has that got to do with anything? That is the part that freaks me out albeit it is only a small minority hopefully. Is this the outcome of being dominated outside of the bedroom? I pray to God that never happens to me. I am very careful to only wear men’s clothes and take the responsibility that God gave me in the home. Hearing of this sort of thing only makes me more determined to steer clear of it. I know my wife would freak out as well if I started that. Because one likes to be spanked as a husband for sexual reason only it doesn’t mean that one has to descend into feminisation.

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