Comments on: Lessons from my deathbed http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:17:36 -0400 hourly 1 By: Marie http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-598 Marie Sun, 18 Jan 2009 21:34:08 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-598 I was looking for a distraction from work and found your wonderful list of life lessons. You've inspired me to make a list of my own for my kids. If only my mother would have said these things to me... Thanks for the inspiration! I was looking for a distraction from work and found your wonderful list of life lessons. You’ve inspired me to make a list of my own for my kids. If only my mother would have said these things to me… Thanks for the inspiration!

]]> By: admin http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-485 admin Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:02:47 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-485 Okay, as someone who learned martial arts after it was already too late, I am willing to amend that one to say: "Learn some form of self defense or martial arts. That way when a boy pressures you to have sex and will not take no for an answer, you will know what to do." I'm glad you are teaching Kung Fu to your daughters. I think you will be disheartened to find out how often they need to use it when they get to college and start attending fraternity parties. Okay, as someone who learned martial arts after it was already too late, I am willing to amend that one to say: “Learn some form of self defense or martial arts. That way when a boy pressures you to have sex and will not take no for an answer, you will know what to do.” I’m glad you are teaching Kung Fu to your daughters. I think you will be disheartened to find out how often they need to use it when they get to college and start attending fraternity parties.

]]> By: The Avenger http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-483 The Avenger Fri, 02 Jan 2009 02:38:22 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-483 "If a boy pressures you to have sex, kick him in the balls as hard as you can. Then, break up with him." Pressure? As in verbal pressure? A physical attack is not acceptable. If a boy pressures you to have sex, you have every right break up with him, but when you no longer act like a lady, you can no longer expect to be treated like one. The idea that you have the right to physically assault someone because you don't like what they say to you must be dealt with harshly. I study Kung Fu and have included my son and daughters, but we mostly don't have to use it. If you attempt to hurt me I will defend myself and you will regret it. If I should say something to offend you, you may leave or respond as you like, but if you raise your hand to me, you cross the line and you will not be dealt with kindly! “If a boy pressures you to have sex, kick him in the balls as hard as you can. Then, break up with him.”

Pressure? As in verbal pressure? A physical attack is not acceptable. If a boy pressures you to have sex, you have every right break up with him, but when you no longer act like a lady, you can no longer expect to be treated like one. The idea that you have the right to physically assault someone because you don’t like what they say to you must be dealt with harshly. I study Kung Fu and have included my son and daughters, but we mostly don’t have to use it. If you attempt to hurt me I will defend myself and you will regret it. If I should say something to offend you, you may leave or respond as you like, but if you raise your hand to me, you cross the line and you will not be dealt with kindly!

]]> By: Susanne http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-176 Susanne Thu, 04 Dec 2008 15:21:47 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-176 Hi, I'm new here and I just love this post. I am bookmarking it for my daughter. You've pretty much thought of everything. I especially like: "Men need detailed instructions." It's funny AND true :) Thanks for writing this. I will be referring to it often. Hi, I’m new here and I just love this post. I am bookmarking it for my daughter. You’ve pretty much thought of everything.

I especially like: “Men need detailed instructions.” It’s funny AND true :)

Thanks for writing this. I will be referring to it often.

]]> By: Andrea http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-166 Andrea Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:09:49 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-166 I too have a fear of leaving my children to grow up without me. I too want to tell them all the things I wish I had been told, but, I don't have the way with words that you do. I wish someone had told me 1/2 of the things on your list. 2 things I would add...it's good to take some time and have your own money before you get married and start to share everything and...if your relationship won't make it if you wait to take the next step (whatever that step is: sex, marriage, moving in, etc.) it's not going to make it period. I too have a fear of leaving my children to grow up without me. I too want to tell them all the things I wish I had been told, but, I don’t have the way with words that you do. I wish someone had told me 1/2 of the things on your list. 2 things I would add…it’s good to take some time and have your own money before you get married and start to share everything and…if your relationship won’t make it if you wait to take the next step (whatever that step is: sex, marriage, moving in, etc.) it’s not going to make it period.

]]> By: Dr Carolyn Clansy Miller http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-164 Dr Carolyn Clansy Miller Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:32:02 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-164 There's nothing like a mother's advice. Well said. There’s nothing like a mother’s advice. Well said.

]]> By: Rupa Bihani Shah http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Rupa Bihani Shah Tue, 02 Dec 2008 04:43:21 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-158 I am expecting my first baby, due in April - and this blog entry meant a lot more to me now more than ever! Thanks for making me laugh and enjoy my new perspective as a mom-to-be! I am expecting my first baby, due in April – and this blog entry meant a lot more to me now more than ever! Thanks for making me laugh and enjoy my new perspective as a mom-to-be!

]]> By: Marilyn Bauman http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Marilyn Bauman Tue, 02 Dec 2008 02:29:15 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-157 I love this story, especially since I awoke at 1 a.m. too, and although I did not have blood in my ear, I did feel miserable at the prospect of a sleepless night. So I meditated, and I fell into a deep sleep. I wonder often, now that I am transported to this quiet, peaceful place during meditation, what would happen if I simply decided not to return to this world. What would I miss? And I would miss exactly what Alisa said she would miss: her daughter (my granddaughter) and my three other grandchildren. How could I leave them grandmotherless. I need to make my list, but by now they probably know what I want them to know: laugh a lot; let things go; dance a lot; be very very silly. And make pictures! I love this story, especially since I awoke at 1 a.m. too, and although I did not have blood in my ear, I did feel miserable at the prospect of a sleepless night. So I meditated, and I fell into a deep sleep.

I wonder often, now that I am transported to this quiet, peaceful place during meditation, what would happen if I simply decided not to return to this world. What would I miss? And I would miss exactly what Alisa said she would miss: her daughter (my granddaughter) and my three other grandchildren. How could I leave them grandmotherless. I need to make my list, but by now they probably know what I want them to know: laugh a lot; let things go; dance a lot; be very very silly. And make pictures!

]]> By: Sarah Jackson http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Sarah Jackson Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:56:57 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-156 Is it okay that I'm still a little concerned about your ears? It's fine, it's fine..I'm sure it's fine. But this entry is more than fine. Your daughter is a lucky girl! -Sarah Is it okay that I’m still a little concerned about your ears? It’s fine, it’s fine..I’m sure it’s fine.

But this entry is more than fine. Your daughter is a lucky girl!

-Sarah

]]> By: Marianne http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/12/lessons-from-my-deathbed/comment-page-1/#comment-155 Marianne Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:44:55 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=554#comment-155 Wow. What a great collection. Some are funny, others poignant. The only one I would add is (along the same lines) stay true to yourself. Wow. What a great collection. Some are funny, others poignant. The only one I would add is (along the same lines) stay true to yourself.

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