Comments on: Confessions of an imperfect mother http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/ Because life after "I do" isn't always so charming Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:39:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: nutmegmagoo http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-2946 nutmegmagoo Wed, 05 Aug 2009 02:59:09 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-2946 YAY. thank you. i have lots of fantastic mom friends but very few that i don't feel like i have to "shake it out of them". love love love your stuff. all of it. YAY. thank you. i have lots of fantastic mom friends but very few that i don’t feel like i have to “shake it out of them”. love love love your stuff. all of it.

]]> By: Stef http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Stef Wed, 19 Nov 2008 20:36:44 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-67 I love it! I am like you, I don't believe anyone that tells me how they love the cold bleachers, waking up early on the w/e's, having little hands sliding underneath the bathroom door while you try to pee. I have 4 kids and I love all of them more than anything, of course. I do, however, love any sort of free time I can sneak away. I do the cold bleachers because I enjoy watching them play sports, I enjoy PTA, but I am not about to tell anyone I love going back to the school at night when I would rather get to the couch and see my 'night' TV shows. It's so funny. I hope that over time Moms will really be more honest with one another and help each other realize we don't have to love everything, it doesn't make us 'bad'. Lose the competitive edge and praise your fellow Moms. :) Thanks for the blog, can't wait to read more. I love it!
I am like you, I don’t believe anyone that tells me how they love the cold bleachers, waking up early on the w/e’s, having little hands sliding underneath the bathroom door while you try to pee.

I have 4 kids and I love all of them more than anything, of course. I do, however, love any sort of free time I can sneak away.

I do the cold bleachers because I enjoy watching them play sports, I enjoy PTA, but I am not about to tell anyone I love going back to the school at night when I would rather get to the couch and see my ‘night’ TV shows.

It’s so funny. I hope that over time Moms will really be more honest with one another and help each other realize we don’t have to love everything, it doesn’t make us ‘bad’.

Lose the competitive edge and praise your fellow Moms. :)

Thanks for the blog, can’t wait to read more.

]]> By: Rob Erbeau http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Rob Erbeau Wed, 12 Nov 2008 22:25:28 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-11 I grew up in an era when mothers stayed at home instead of going out to work. My mom wanted a career desperately, but my father stood in her way. When my son was born, I was a stay at home dad. I went to all the doctor appointments, the PTA, and sports. A woman shouldn't have to give up her identity for her children; that's why there are two parents to every child. I grew up in an era when mothers stayed at home instead of going out to work. My mom wanted a career desperately, but my father stood in her way. When my son was born, I was a stay at home dad. I went to all the doctor appointments, the PTA, and sports. A woman shouldn’t have to give up her identity for her children; that’s why there are two parents to every child.

]]> By: Beth http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Beth Wed, 12 Nov 2008 19:57:24 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-10 You NEED to have your own identity. Because in 14 years when your daughter is out of your house and at college, you will miss her. And without your own identity/career/self, you will have lost yourself. Yes, there are mothers whose whole lives revolve around their children. And I'm sure they are fine mothers. But they are also the ones who 18 years after their children are born, are sitting on Oprah's couch crying about how lost they are, how they don't know what to do without children, and how they don't have anything to offer the world, etc., etc. I love my son. I would do anything for him. And I'm a good mother. But I don't want to be THAT woman on Oprah's couch who loses herself in the process. Like you said, having an identity does not make you a bad mother. It makes you a mom setting a good example. You NEED to have your own identity. Because in 14 years when your daughter is out of your house and at college, you will miss her. And without your own identity/career/self, you will have lost yourself. Yes, there are mothers whose whole lives revolve around their children. And I’m sure they are fine mothers. But they are also the ones who 18 years after their children are born, are sitting on Oprah’s couch crying about how lost they are, how they don’t know what to do without children, and how they don’t have anything to offer the world, etc., etc. I love my son. I would do anything for him. And I’m a good mother. But I don’t want to be THAT woman on Oprah’s couch who loses herself in the process. Like you said, having an identity does not make you a bad mother. It makes you a mom setting a good example.

]]> By: C. Erickson http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-9 C. Erickson Wed, 12 Nov 2008 17:07:42 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-9 Great post! I found it via Twitter. If it helps any, I don't think there are many true supermoms out there. :) Everyone is good at something - some of them are just good at driving and cooking. And work-at-home mothers don't HAVE to wish they had more time with the kids. We get that time. What we usually are sorely lacking is time to ourselves, to be ourselves. - Carolyn Great post! I found it via Twitter.

If it helps any, I don’t think there are many true supermoms out there. :) Everyone is good at something – some of them are just good at driving and cooking.

And work-at-home mothers don’t HAVE to wish they had more time with the kids. We get that time. What we usually are sorely lacking is time to ourselves, to be ourselves.

- Carolyn

]]> By: Heather Cook http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2008/11/confessions-of-an-imperfect-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Heather Cook Wed, 12 Nov 2008 16:52:45 +0000 http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/?p=459#comment-8 OH I SO get you. I hope I haven't given off the supermom vibe to anyone. I get the "you do so much!" comments and I think "yeah, and they say I'm supposed to enjoy it". I only have the two kids (7, 2) and I do want more . . . but I doubt myself every day. I doubt that I can enforce any rules in the house, I doubt my kids are happy, I doubt going to a "Day Job" each day and missing out on them and then spending my evenings and weekends running away from them to steal time on the computer to write. I doubt all the time. OH I SO get you. I hope I haven’t given off the supermom vibe to anyone. I get the “you do so much!” comments and I think “yeah, and they say I’m supposed to enjoy it”. I only have the two kids (7, 2) and I do want more . . . but I doubt myself every day. I doubt that I can enforce any rules in the house, I doubt my kids are happy, I doubt going to a “Day Job” each day and missing out on them and then spending my evenings and weekends running away from them to steal time on the computer to write. I doubt all the time.

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