Comments on: Think him dead, bring life to your marriage

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 23:39:56 +0000

Great, thank for sharing your post, I learned alot from it.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 04:04:31 +0000

I am sooooo relieved I do this EXACT thing, I havent started using this as a tool to help my marriage yet, but I hope it works. Something has to give my husband has all but shut down all communication with me except goofy fun or extremely mean and hateful including saying things a man should NEVER say to his wife if he respects me like I think he should. I’m not a foolish girl. My husband is a good man but after having the role models in his life growing up he definitally has issues he needs to work through and he really has a sweet heart but he is afraid to express his feeling. When we fight it always goes in stages first comes sarcasum, then denial of the fact that we have any hope of making it and should find a divorce lawyer already, to rage, then tears and expressing feeling of love and frustration. Hes not a violent man he is simply not good at saying what he feels and expressing his feelings. I am convinced that running away and starting a whole new life would be A DREAM COME TRUE, but I still love him very much and for the 90% of the time when were ok there is no other place I’d rather be and truth be told I’m not ready to throw in the towel. My husband needs someone to teach him what a healthy loving relationship means and I’m going to try my hardest me help him become that man. Thanks for letting me get that out. WISH ME LUCK.

By: Kristi

Kristi — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 20:23:17 +0000

Wow. I can finally breath a little bit easier having read this post. I am struggling each and ever day with such a rotten marriage and I’m finding myself imagining him dead and planning how we (the kids and I) will move on in life. Haven’t written the eulogy but have imagined that car accident, the disease, etc. How did you do it? There has to be a reason we got married to begin with but for the life of me, 8 years later, I simply cannot connect those dots. I guess I just feel better knowing someone has been here and survived. Thank you so much.